Hard to quit

[Golfbro]

Not the best of weekends drank way to much . Having had 3 drink free days last week was hoping to cut down half at the weekend failed miserably. Now feeling guilty didn’t think it would be this hard to do ☹️

[Camper33]

Hi

It is hard, very hard unless you go for help like Isinatra has mentioned, I don't think there is a easy answer but you did 3 days last week is that good for you from what you usually drink if so that's a good start and build from that, the problem is once you have had a drink your brain tells you you want more because it feels good and that is what you need to control.

We went from 4 Jan until Saturday and had a drink but nothing yesterday and hopefully back to not drinking.

Good luck

[Golfbro in reply to Camper33]

Thank you camper I’m going for 4 days this week and less units again at weekend.I can see there is no easy fix . Admitting to myself I’ve got a problem and telling people on here is a start and helps me try n get to my goals .

[Isinatra]

Alcohol is a depressant and adds to your feelings of guilt. It’s easy to say don’t feel guilty, but I know it’s hard not to. The alcohol is in control, not you. It’s a battle between you and it. The more tools you have to fight, the more chances you have to win the battle. They’re there for you to use when you’re ready. Alcohol wants your life, don’t let it have it. 🍀

[Poodlefanforlife]

I felt the guilt from drinking last weekend too. Be proud that you were able to go 3 days sober. If you’re able to, try mixing a water or two between drinks.If you’re with friends or family, tell them you’re feeling dehydrated lately and have them remind you to drink more water

[Golfbro]

Sooooo hard I’ve tracked my drinks and feel so guilty that i can’t control my life now im feeling depressed cause the amount I drink this is so hard I’ve cut back but feel worse this isn’t easy I know I’ve got a problem can’t see a way out .

[Isinatra in reply to Golfbro]

AA saved my life. It’s a twelve step program that has saved millions of lives. It teaches you how to live without alcohol. Sometimes therapy is needed along with it. You can find a local meeting of AA on the internet. It’s the fastest way to get things started. Today, tonight, tomorrow. It’s free. You can find another twelve step program if you want in the future, but it sounds to me that you need help now.

[Golfbro in reply to Isinatra]

Thank you I’m going to look for loacal aa group trouble is I don’t want anyone to know I’m ashamed first thing I havnt been able to deal with dosnt feel like I could ever give up completely.

[Isinatra in reply to Golfbro]

That’s the way a lot of people feel, that we can never quit. It’s an overwhelming thought. That’s where the slogan, one day at a time, came from. Try to think of not drinking just for today or for the next hour. You don’t have to tell anyone of your plans unless you feel comfortable telling them. It’s not about other people anymore, it’s about you and doing what you need to do to for you to stop drinking. It’s your life….nobody else’s. Remember when you go to your first meeting that no one there is a stranger. You all have the same thing in common. Everybody there has a problem with alcohol and everybody is trying to stop drinking. When you leave your first meeting your burden will feel lighter, but you will probably have a lot of questions. People will offer you their phone numbers, take them, but only from men. Good luck, keep us posted and pm me if you need to.🍀Keep going back.

[Isinatra]

I must have been tired when I replied to you. I was thinking you were a woman. Sorry. So I edited my reply….take numbers only from men. It works better in the long run. 🥴