Always looking

[Jaywalking]

To be honest what I'm looking for is reasons to go on! My kids have grown and moved on. My wife is training in a new career.  

So far all I have been told is find a distraction, the more distracted the less likely to have negative thoughts. 

So I need a goal, purpose etc

[Sheila32]

Who have you talked to? 

Negative thoughts are a distraction! from positive ones. 

I would expect GP to have offered antidepressants, or recommend I-talk, , or just to have listened. 

 Samaritans will listen, any time. 

Volunteering to help others will give you some value if family appear to be managing well. 

[Jaywalking in reply to Sheila32]

Hello sheila32. I have spoken to the doctor and the mental health unit and I'm on antidepressants.

One thing in the talks always comes up is "talk to your friends" I don't have any it's just the type of person I am.

[Sheila32 in reply to Jaywalking]

Thst is why this forum is here. Talk to us, share your hopes and dreams.  

[patliputra]

Do you have any hobby ?  Anything in particular in which your interest lies and you want to pursue it ?

[sati006]

Right a book man, on your experience, make note of all the good and bad things that you faced and look back how easily you are now in this juncture of lie

[sati006]

Meditational really helps, try that, do yoga it will calm you, read a lot , see every new movie that release , just chill and enjoy

[sati006]

By the way the other guy in your picture looks just like u

[Jaywalking in reply to sati006]

I'm the slightly younger one and the guy was my Dad who passed earlier this year

[sati006 in reply to Jaywalking]

i thought i was referring to the older person, look at your father he was so happy, in time of adversity patience is prime, please note that every bad phase passes away, this is my expereince, i have been through hell my slef, what i learnt was just to keep quite and wait, i feel if you make a mind set that u will do better after 2 years you would do great

[Rosabeth]

why not join your wife and train for something new if this doesn't appeal join a club, bowls, badminton, hiking,book club the list is endless. You don't need a reason to carry on you already have plenty, support and encourage your wife your family were always going to move on and you can email or phone them certainly you can keep in touch. If you are at home all day you could cook a meal for your wife to come home to and if you can't cook go for cookery lessons. You could get a dog and go forwalks. The list is endless I have only scratched the surface. I don't know your interests but the library is a great place to look for inspiration. I am a firm believer is that there is life in the old dog yet so don't waste what you have by crying about what you no longer have grab with both hands what you can have and then some. Take care and keep us posted as we will all want to know how you get on. Rosabeth.