Motivation

[Gorgonite]

How do I get motivated to change my self for the better when I don't have anyone? Lost.

[flowersong]

Hi Gorgonite. I'm sorry to hear you feel lost. I guess many of us feel lost as various points in life so you are not alone. Your first step was asking your question on this forum so I would say you definitely have motivation (even if you feel it's not enough at the moment to make the change you want). I would say your second step is to ask yourself why you want to change and what you want to change. Also do you mind me asking, when you say you don't have someone, do you mean you want to make the change for someone else to give you motivation to do it, or do you want someone with you to motivate you make that change?

[younique]

I hope you are doing better today Gorgonite. It might be comforting to remember that you are not alone in feeling alone. It's something everyone, not just our community, experiences. The best thing, I've found, is to develop a healthy relationship with ourselves; to be generous with our self love, care and respect. People can't make us happy, we have to be happy with ourselves, and by ourselves, first. The only way to get there is to give yourself permission to do better for you. Not for anyone else. Because the answer is not in other people, it's in you. ❤️

[PB58]

Always remember that you & you alone have the strength & the power to be anything or anyone that you want to. Just believe that you can change & you will. You don’t really need anyone to motivate you other than yourself. Remember that the reason you are wanting to change, comes from within you & isn’t because of or for anyone else.

However, always know that we are all ready & willing to support you in this process of change, just ask! You don’t need to be alone when you are part of this wonderful forum😊

[AlwaysSmiling Community Ambassador]

Hi Gorgonite,

Motivation can be hard to find sometimes and I understand that it's probably even harder for you in these strange times. I just want you to know that you are not alone. Lots of people probably feel the same at the minute.

Anything is possible if you put your mind to it! If you want change then just go for it. You just need to believe in yourself. If it helps... I believe in you and I'm sure everyone else here does too!

Remember: you are braver than you believe, stronger than you think and have more support than you know!

YOU CAN DO THIS!😁

[Gorgonite]

Thank you all very much, really. What a lovely bunch of people.

[flowersong]

Hi Gorgonite. I really like what everyone has written here on this chat. It's definitely inspired me; I agree with all of it, and practise a lot of it already, but some is new to me and I always find that re-reading (many times!) any motivating and supportive words that I have come across (online, magazine, tv/film etc) really helps - I re-read them when having a not so good day to help the day feel better, and read them on a good day, so that I can remember them when I need them on a not so good day. I have my own 'inspiring' mantra, that I repeated to myself often until I really believed it and it helped during my difficult times of cancer treatment and surgery. Mine were "come what may (whatever life throws at me) I can do this" (this was about believing in myself, rather than it being an angry statement or me against the world). the other was "life is what happens while you're busy making other plans" - for me this was simply saying what was happening to me had no rhyme or reason, and wasn't something trying to stop me or take my self worth away (ie hinting I wasn't worthy enough to plan my life (career path, wanting a family etc) because at times it seemed I wasn't allowed to have anything normal in my life). These both really helped my motivation. Hopefully Gorgonite you've found your own way to start motivating yourself whilst also being kind to yourself. Lastly I'm pleased you asked the question because hopefully anyone else who is feeling lost can read all these comments too (including yours, as you reaching out is motivating and a big step) and be motivated by them and even put their thoughts down in writing here too on this website, if they want to.

[Gorgonite in reply to flowersong]

Hi flowersong.

Just wanted to say thanks for the response. You have a beautiful soul.

Hope your well. 😊