... and to rub salt into the wound ...
The cancer is back.
My wife needs another operation... and when you think that things cannot really go worst than this... the hospital calls to tell us that they are cancelling most of the procedures (due to covid), even the one related to cancer even the urgent one.
Is it Karma? Bad luck? Are we been punished for something!?!
Why can't we have a break from... this!
Thanks
Hello Neodymium, I really want to scream when I read stories like yours. It’s truly terrible. I know covid is taking over the NHS and is all consuming but that doesn’t help your poor dear wife.
Surely urgent surgery can be carried out somewhere. It’s cancer so needs to be dealt with pronto.
I despair, and am so very sorry. Xxx
Hi Neodymium,This is rotten news indeed! Many times people have said to me that life never sends any more than a person can withstand. I think that's rubbish and often times we'll be tested beyond anything reasonable. But it's also random. It makes everyone feel helpless when they can't get what they so desperately need. I wouldn't call your latest news deserved, because in an ideal world we would all have a timespan of life which we could enjoy. Sadly we don't, and there's been so much tragedy inflicted on so many by this vile pandemic.
I can't offer you any peace or hope on going forward but I might question the absolute validity of what you have been told by the hospital and I'd definitely say to fight tooth and nail for your wife's operation to be carried out as an emergency, even if it's in a hospital far away but which is less pressured. I know that this is being done, so don't feel hopeless. Put your battle armour on and and go to war to get your wife what she needs!
Hi, I am so very sorry to read this. It seems that the health service are struggling so much with this terrible pandemic that they are having to make the most awful decisions about who gets treated and who doesn't. I know it is no consolation to you unfortunately. I am hoping so much that once the vaccine gets rolled out, the admissions will go down and the hospitals will be able to get back to doing other urgent work.
All I can do is send my warmest thoughts to you and hope that things get better soon.
Helen x
Morning Neodymium
I was very sad to read the news about your wife’s illness. Stories like this make me so angry with society. I totally agree with Callendersgal and would fight and push for further treatment despite the Covid. I have had to do this for my sister who has been in and out of hospital with strokes for 10 months. It has been very stressful but I have tried my best to make sure she is safe and well looked after. I am the only one to fight her corner and unfortunately some individuals have no one at all!
It infuriates me that certain well known celebrities and their family have travelled to Italy and the USA on numerous occasions during Covid by private jet without a care in the world displaying their designer face masks ???? whereas, if you could pay privately your wife’s treatment would be carried out much sooner.
I know this is happening as a close friend of mine recently had a knee replacement privately and only waited a few weeks!!
Society is not always fair but all you can do is try your best to fight your wife’s corner and hope someone will help you. Take care and keep well. xxx
Thanks all for the kind words!
The hospital has called and they will go ahead with the surgery!!!!!so relived on one side...
so scared on the other.
The kids were asking at dinner time last night when will she get better, and if this is the last operation...
i nearly cracked... oh boy i was soooo close to cracking.
My wife was away yesterday to do some tests... So i was trying to do home-schooling with the Kids and was supposed to work as well... I got my computer out and then started with home-schooling. WHAT A FOOL!
3 children, 3 different teachers, 3 homework pack... read the teachers instructions and requests, try and sort one child out to go then with another one and the other again... thinking at my own work that i need to do... i was going mad!
Daad, daad daaaaaad look here, how do i do this how do i do that...
It is physically impossible to work full time and do home schooling. IMPOSSIBLE!
After 3 hours i barely managed 50-70% of all work and then i had to stop, send them out to play and cook some lunch. As soon as my wife came back i carried on with my work till late last night.
This is not sustainable!
How do you do if you are a single parent? How?
Neo
That’s so dreadful.
The saga continuous!
Surgery Planned for Today. Last night we go to the hospital to see the Anaesthetist and guess what?! too many covid patients so they had to cancel all surgery. No more beds in ICU! I am angry but I cannot point the finger at anything... it is not the surgeon's fault! Maybe the covid patients? The Government? My wife? me? life? Luck?
who do i blame?
I just have to suck it and carry on.... maybe with a big smile on my face!
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