Up date on daughter in-law

[Boudica1]

First of all thank you for all your kind messages.

Well she's still here thank goodness but not through her choice, let me explain.

They tested her sats again by turning off her NIPPY, thats the machine that breaths for her. Last time a few months ago she would have died within minutes but this time there was some evidence that her body was trying to cope, much to every ones surprise but she could not survive with the machine to breath for her.

So now the doctor's have said they wont switch the NIPPY off as she will struggle for a few minutes before passing away.

Now they are planning to go ahead with trying to tweak her pain relief but she has no faith in that as nothing has been working for years.

This has left her feeling more confused and up set as she has more than accepted the end and one she has control over, something she had thought was the one thing she could decide. That has now been taken away from her and she is very upset about having to wait for her heart to give up and being awake for that. Facing that, which they say is weeks or a couple of months at best and having no control must be the scariest thing ever. I really feel for the more girl who up till now has been so brave and strong.

On the plus side those that love her can heave a sigh of relief for the time being even if its for our own selfish reasons. Lets face it none of us wants to lose a love one no matter how bad living is for them.

Again thanks for all the kind and loving support and I will keep you posted.

[sassy59]

Thank you for the update regarding your dear daughter-in-law and I truly feel for you all. Xxxxx

[Boudica1 in reply to sassy59]

Hi, thanks for your support. Its much needed at the moment and not just reguarding son and daughter in-law.

Being torn all way at the moment, what with son and his wife but daughter and her pregnancy, she's 39yrs and having a lot of problems. Plus hubby and his medical concerns.

Seem to be running between 3 hospitals and trying to juggle multiply people's need's and health concerns at the moment and trying to fit my own health issue's and appointment's in between. It's all chaotic and a bit out of control. But hey-hoe keep me on my toe's.

It's a toss up at this moment in time as to what happens first. Hopefully baby arrives first safe and sound to meet its aunty. I would love to have a photo of the two of them together. Selfish I know but I really don't like the idea of switching from happy to have a safe delivery and dealing with losing some-one else at the time.

[sassy59 in reply to Boudica1]

That’s understandable and i’m thinking of you all at this difficult time. There is hope for the future in the safe delivery of the little baby and hopefully that will happen.

You take good care of yourself too. Xxxxx

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Hi Boudica1 and thanks for coming back to explain a little more about your daughter-in-law.

I can understand how anyone in her position can reach rock bottom and want the suffering to be over, but I also understand yours too and I don't think it's selfish to want her to stay with you for as long as possible. That's human, and it's love.

Thinking of you at this very difficult time and very best wishes again to all of you.