Hi everyone, on this mid-July Friday, which, here at least, has dawned warm and sunny. Wherever you are, I hope that you are feeling well and for those of you who are active carers, I hope you are coping OK.
First today my customary welcome to any new members and I hope you'll find something of use and interest here, and a safe and happy space to be.
Fridays herald the chance to go off-topic (within community guidelines) and it's fun waiting to see what's going to be posted each week.
I guess that for most of us in England our thoughts are with next Monday's lifting of most of the restrictions we've been living with for the past 16 months and I know that feelings around that are very mixed. As with most things, change is always difficult, and with this pandemic and its huge unknowns, it's not surprising that we are nearly all quite nervous. How are you all feeling about it?
I'd welcome a bit of input this week on the topic of aggression in caring for those who have dementia. The last two times my sister has called me, she's done it when her husband with dementia has been out of the room and quickly ends the conversation whenever he reappears. It seems that he's become paranoid every time she's speaking to anyone on the phone, or leaves him with her paid carer to go to her zumba class once a week, or pops to the shop. He imagines she's having an affair with someone else, gets aggressive and this lasts for hours and she's trying to avoid this.
She also said that he seems fixated on his long deceased parents at the moment and constantly asks where they are. She had asked for advice about the latter on another forum. (Why not here I ask myself? I don't know....😃 ) But I digress! I'm happy to ask you all on her behalf. The replies she's had, suggested she lie and say they are away somewhere, but she's uncomfortable about this. Frankly I think my advice would have been the same, but I'd love to know what others think? And then how best to deal with the aggression? It seems very cruel to now have to pick her moments to make a simple phone call to family and friends, and to consider giving up her much loved and equally needed zumba class. My fear is that he'll escalate things to lashing out at her.
But enough of my family. I hope you all have a reason to be looking forward to the weekend and that each and every one of you manages at least a little relaxation.
Take care everyone!