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On Saturday morning Molly died.

Molly had a good birthday on the Fourth. Made it to 42, like she wanted to. She was conscious for minutes at a time, able to interact briefly. We don't always understand her. I was able to brush and braid her hair, first time in over thirty years. Deb was holding her hand recently and Molly responded, took Deb’s hands for a long, lovely moment.

Two days ago Deb and I and the nurse were helping her stand—sometimes she just wants to, at least until recently—and she started grabbing the air between us. I had kissed her hands just before, while she was lying down. I went closer to her and she gripped my hands—she can hardly see right now, the brain tumors have hampered her vision for a month—and pulled me toward her. She then slowly, gently, kissed my hand, over and over. I said “I love you” and she said “I love you”.

In the midst of this very hard time there are transcendent moments. Few, and very brief, but we stay simple and calm, so we don't miss one.

A few weeks ago, just before her cognitive decline, she and I sat all day and formally apologized, asked for and gave forgiveness, for any and all. We declared what was most important, our love and gratitude to each other. Shared funny memories, watched Animal Planet. We said to each other that if for any reason I am not there at the moment she goes—unlikely—we have said all the things, and are at peace, in a place of love and acceptance with each other. A very good moment in this, the hardest weeks of my life.

And I was there, every minute during her very difficult final weeks, days, hours, Held her hand as the last breath passed through her.

She was amazing. We say so, the hospice folks say so, and so would Molly, too, if she could, with a wiseacre sideways grin on her sweet face.

Love is everything.

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sassy59

Please accept my deepest sympathies for your loss. I just knew Molly would make it to her birthday and she did.

Such a wonderful lady who has now been guided on her way to a place of peace and serenity. May she rest there now.

Bless you and your family. Xxxx

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Kittie103

Please accept my heart felt condolences, I will keep you all in my thoughts and prayers.

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klr31

So sorry for your loss but I hope you feel Molly around you with no more pain and free at last.

Karen

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MAS_Nurse

Hi gcorrell, please accept our deepest sympathies for your loss. Take care.

Deepest condolences for your tragic loss. May you find comfort in the love that you shared between you in life and that will never die.

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katieoxo60

With deepest sympathy to you and your family.Molly is now at rest with no more suffering, hold on to and cherish your memories as they will take you through this very sad time.

My sincere condolences and deepest sympathies for your loss GCorrell. Please, come back to the forum in the weeks to come if you need support? I know how hard the coming weeks can be. Blessings to you all at this sad time, but take heart, she is at peace now.

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Hellebelle

So sad to hear your news. What a beautiful photo of Molly. Your posts have really touched me and I send you and your family sincere condolences. Molly is now at peace and you have some very precious memories. You are so right to say that love is everything. Because at the end of our lives that is the most important thing to know that we are loved and you gave Molly that most precious gift.

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Just1-one1-more

Good night sweet dreams Molly x

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Johnem

I think that you have been quietly grieving for a long time and I'm sure that your lovely Molly knew this and would want you now to have peace. I hope that you find it soon.

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Boudica1

Sorry for your loss and sorry for being so late in responding, having similar experience at the moment.

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vmparkinson

So sorry for your loss. Thinking of you both xxx

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