Hello my name is Debbie and I'm new here. I am physically and mentally disabled and have been wheelchair bound for 3 years now. My partner who lives with me has taken on my care and does everything for me as I'm very limited to what I can do. Ive been with my partner 12 years and my disability and Patrick now taking care of me can be very stressfull,i have had to ask him to do things for me that is very personal and I still get embarresed and the feeling of uselessness. Do we have to claim as a couple now he lives with me or do we keep our own benefits. I don't claim carers allowance due to the fact they deduct it from me so we are no better off.