I had a most enjoyable coffee with a fellow liver transplantee this afternoon. I’ve not seen this lady (due to Covid) for almost two years, so it was nice to catch up.
Her liver transplant was due to PBC (Primary biliary cholangitis). This poor lady does understandably get frustrated as she is often being labelled with having a drinking problem by members of the public who still associate liver disease as being something that only old people with alcohol problems get.
She often uses this site but prefers to remain anonymous. I of course respect her anonymity.
During our conversation, she pointed out to me that there seemed to be an imbalance between women on this site who talk about their husband’s or partners drinking problems, but there didn’t seem to be many men talking about their wives or female partners drinking issues.
I know all too well, of the sadness of what it’s like living with a wife with a drinking problem. The rows, arguments, the violent temper, and yes for a while I was a battered husband, not many men will freely admit to this. Sadly my wife took her own life, which I suppose did more harm to me emotionally than I care to mention.
But what becomes of the men who find themselves in a similar situation? Do they suffer in silence or do that just up sticks and leave?
Why is there hardly any men talking about their wives or partners and of their alcohol liver issues and battles?
I think men should be encouraged to speak out more, and not feel ashamed or embarrassed.
If this report is anything to go by, it’s only a question of time before women catch up with men: bbc.com/future/article/2018...