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Am I the oldest member of this forum?

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Hello again, all

I've posted several questions today, and I don't want to avoid me for whingeing on too much, but an I just about the oldest member on here to have this problem?

As I've said elsewhere, I've already taken a very firm decision to stop drinking, and I know I wont go back on that one now but; am I told at 64 to make a recovery from all this?

Everyone else on here seems to be in their 40's or 50's at most, and I've struggled to fund anyone older than that. I know its going to be much harder for pretty old man like me to make a recovery, but can I really dare to hope I might just make it if I try? I'd love to think I might have a year or two left in me just yet...

Regards and thanks, as ever

Graham

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AyrshireK

Far from being the oldest forum member, we have many members 70+ and 80+ years young.

Katie

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GrahamB8 in reply to AyrshireK

Really? That's astonishing - and very heartening, too!

Regards

Graham

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Thehermit

You are not old at 64!. It is never too late to make improvements in our health and I,m looking forward to hearing how you get on. For sure, eating healthier and knocking the alcohol on the head now is setting you up for a great start to the New Year. There have been many folk your age and older who have used the site, the oldest gentleman that comes to my mind was Jack ( can,t recall offhand his username ) but I remember he was 85 yrs , I think he wanted advise about cirrhosis and needed general reassurance as many do who wind their weary way here!. Last I recall he was doing very well. Also, someone correct me if I,m wrong but I think someone had a transplant at 72. Anyway, 60 is the new 40 so they say , being only 64 you are in good company here. Bev.

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GrahamB8 in reply to Thehermit

Thank you for this, The Hermit, and for your encouragement in general in your post.

I'd love to think I might get the change to chat to one or two of these older people, so I hope we might get to perhaps meet up on here sometime.

Regards and thanks again

Graham

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Hi

You are definitely NOT OLD, as has been said there are many members who are much older than yourself, stay positive and you will get there. Please take care of yourself

Lynne

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GrahamB8 in reply to

Thank you so much, Lynne

It's very kind of you to say that, and it makes me feel really happy that that's the case.

Kind regards

Graham

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Thank you

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alfredthegreat

Hi Graham. You are just a spring chicken!! I was diagnosed with cirrhosis at age 63 and cancer of the liver at 64 (classed as terminal.....long story). I had a transplant just over 13 months ago at age 68. As far as my liver is concerned I am doing absolutely fine and feel very well. I have some bone and joint issues but that's a different matter and I'm really glad to be here even with these issues. I'm on holiday at the moment and looking forward to single day of it...……...It's never too late!! All the very best to you. Alf

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Hi

I hope you are enjoying your holiday!! Take care Lynne

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GrahamB8 in reply to alfredthegreat

Alf, you’re a wonderful man, and you’ve really lifted my spirits. Thank you so much for helping me in the very real way you have. I’d love to chat again when you get back from your holidays...

Kindest regards and thanks again

Graham

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Enjoy your hols Alf

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Kate50 in reply to alfredthegreat

I hope you have a fantastic holiday 🌸🌸

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alfredthegreat in reply to Kate50

Thank you Katie. I'm loving every minute :-) :-)

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alfredthegreat

Thanks Lynne. It's day one and I'm going to enjoy every minute :-) :-)

Hi Graham

I'm 67 and 4 months ! Do I qualify as an oldie who's about to do a sky dive in 2 weeks time 🤗!

There are many more on here a few years older so you'll fit in well my friend !

Regards

Trish

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cornishjan

My husband was diagnosed with cirrhosis at 78 and given months to live. He is 80 in January. After being drained fortnightly for seven month he didn't need a drain for eight months and that was a small one. Another eight months on he still has no ascites. His weight has gone from 9 stone to 13 1/2. After barely being able to make it from the bedroom to the bathroom he can now easily walk 1 1/2 miles or up our very steep hill. He hasn't drunk since his diagnosis. So, no, you are not the oldest person here and even when well past the age at which you are eligible for a transplant and apparently on your last legs you can still regain a good quality of life if you look after yourself.

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alfredthegreat in reply to cornishjan

Hi cornishjan. Thank you for sharing your story. Always great to hear of someone doing so well. it gives hope and inspiration to so many. In fact you have spurred me on, there is a very steep hill where I'm staying at the moment and I'm going to give it a go. I am post transplant but have some joint/bone issues that have held me back a bit from re-gaining muscle strength but I know I'm getting stronger. I'm not expecting to do the whole hill but some of it would be good. May your hubby continue in his improvement. Very best wishes to you both. Alf

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GrahamB8 in reply to cornishjan

Thank you for that very inspiring story, Cornishjan. Your account fills me with hope, and I just hope I can hold on to that in mind to help me through my current worries.

Thank you again, and every good wish to your incredible husband...

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ThreeSmiles in reply to cornishjan

Great story. Thank you for that! So impressed....

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Lindc

Hi Graham, I'm a 73 year old woman dx with cirrhosis during a gall bladder op last year. Not a drinker, consultant says it's probably due to type 2 diabetes dx 20 years ago. So far, only symptom is fatigue but I put that down to age as well. Lots of walking and eating sensibly.

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GrahamB8 in reply to Lindc

Hello Lindc

Thank you for your reply. I’m sorry to hear of your illness, but you seem be made of much tougher stuff than me, and I only wish I could muster some of your clearly very real resolve...

Kind regards

Graham

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davianne

Hi Graham,

I'm 72, and was diagnosed with ESLD 3 years ago, so, from where I'm at, you are just a youngster🤣🤣🤣.

David

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GrahamB8 in reply to davianne

Thank you for your reply, davianne

I’m so sorry to hear of your diagnosis, but am encouraged by your comments, and determined to try to find a way through my almost constant state of fear...

Kind regards

Graham

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davianne in reply to GrahamB8

Graham, you'll get there, just try and stay positive👍👍👍

David

Just hang on in there Graham , your friends above are behind you !

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GrahamB8 in reply to

Thank you, ShropshireLass, that’s very kind of you to say that.

I do think there’s a real sense of caring for each other on this site, and I’ll be looking for ways to repy everyone by helping anyone I can. It’s the very least that I can do after all the care that’s being shown to me.

Regards

Graham

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Graham

I know those above will agree, it's our pleasure to be of help to you as we're here for one and other! I must say we do have some occasional banter between each other which can make you 🤗🤗🤗🤗 or pee your pants with laughter which is a good thing on those bad days😁

Well nighty nite my friend !

Trish ☺️

Most certainly not the oldest Graham, I am 69 this Christmas so chin up, there are others on here a tad older.

I and many others have indeed come through this, and have had transplants and living a good life.

Not everyone is chosen, so if you are chosen. You will indeed be most fortunate and come through the other side.

Everyone here is in the same boat, some have returned from transplant in a speedboat, some in a row boat, some in a leaky row boat with one oar, but return they do.

I believe age does come into it for selection, but more is focussed on your fitness level and your determination. So get fit, stay strong!

You will find so much love on this site and support, so do come tell your worries. There will always be a kind listening ear. They will laugh with you, and cry with you when needed, but most of lift your soul. You will not be alone.

No worry is too small, there are so many unbelievably kind hearted folk on this site. Who will tell you their stories and cheer your soul.

Take strength from them and their incredible journeys.

Others like you are still waiting. Others just still suffering with humility, grace, and hope in their hearts.

You will not find a kinder more understand number of people anywhere else in the world.

So welcome Graham, welcome to the best forum ever.

Jaycee

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alfredthegreat in reply to

Absolutely lovely post Jaycee. All so very spot on :-) :-)

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Thank you a huge compliment from one of my many hero’s !

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GrahamB8 in reply to

Thank you, Jaycee

Those were really kind words, and really much needed, too, as my confidence is low again this morning.

There are some truly inspirational people on this site, and we all share the common goal of just trying to stay alive. Oh that life was a little bit kinder and less scary than it is...

Kind regards and thanks again

Graham

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Stay strong my friend, bask in the kindness of the folks on this site. Xx

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sunnysmile in reply to

Aww love this post Jay - as per Alfred - you are spot on - I am on another 2 sites for the same thing but they have nothing like this site offers - so much help and affection - it lifts the spirits when others don't understand. Bless you and all on here xxx

Gwen :) x

p.s. to Graham - stay put on this site - you won't regret it x

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Thank you Gwen, we are all for each other 😘 Jaycee

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Cats2018

Hi Graham,

Rest assured you are not the oldest! I was diagnosed with NASH F3 in May 2018 and I am now 75. Since my diagnosis I have definitely improved my FibroScan results by avoiding alcohol, sugar, processed foods, and losing some weight. You are a youngster. 😊

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GrahamB8 in reply to Cats2018

Thank you for your encouraging post, Cats2018. Oh, and you don’t look anything like your age going by your photo!...

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Cats2018 in reply to GrahamB8

Oh thank you Graham. At this age that’s encouraging as it’s good to know the exterior is looking better than I feel! 😂. ( it is a recent picture too).

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Loungingsofa

I think that I'm a little older as I'm 70. I had my liver transplant back in February just before the lockdown, so I was extremely lucky. I haven,t got any post op. aches and pains except a back pain on the right hand side. My biggest bugbear is acute tiredness after doing the simplest of activities. I try to walk about 2000 to 3000 steps each day but I always have to have a rest afterwards. Does anybody else have this problem ? It's really beginning to get me down and I'm becoming a bit depressed as I thought I'd be further forward than I am. I hope everyone else is O.K.and it'll be great to come out of lockdown at the end of July.

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