Is Dad on the way out ?

[Sesic]

Long story short...

My Dad... 67 years old

Chronic alcoholic for the past 15+years, sounds strange but a totally harmless drunk.

3 weeks ago went rapidly downhill

Bad pain in right side

Loss of appetite

Sleeping 16 hours a day

Night sweats, also if he takes paracetamol for the pain he sweats like crazy, soaks the bed. I guess his liver can’t process anymore.

Not always making sense

I’m not superstitious but a robin flew into my house 2 days ago!, making me think.

He stopped drinking about 3 weeks ago too, I think he can’t physically bring a glass of wine to his lips. He would drink it if he could I think.

He is shuffling on his feet and for a man that was a big walker, 10+ miles a day was no problem. He can’t walk more than 10-15 steps.

He had an ultrasound last week, liver is covered in lesions, one is 10cms. Liver is enlarged also.

He is scheduled for bloods on Monday. GP is talking about us not knowing anything until a biopsy is done, but I fear they may not do one because he is on a lot of blood thinners and his blood doesn’t clot because of his heart. He has a heart arithmya. Also caused by drink.

Our family is very close, we have no regrets because believe me we tried everything to get him off the drink but to no avail.

I would just like to know how long is left in him ??, I know nobody has an answer but what does anyone think ?

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It was good to talk to you, if there is anything further we can do to help please let us know.

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I would just like you to know you are all in my thoughts and prayers. Always here for you. Please take care. Love and hugs Lynne xxxx

[hillyfields]

Very sad for all of you to see your dad so unwell. Just continue to love him and see him through whatever comes next. From what I have read on here we hear from those who have seemed to be at death's door at one stage in their lives but somehow made it, changed their lifestyles and are still here years later and we've heard from relatives whose loved ones have slid down that slope and been unable to recover. But it's awful not knowing what will be when we see someone we love suffering. Best wishes to you and your family. xx

[Sesic]

That post was 7 days ago

Dad had a ct scan.... 10cm lesion now 12cm

2cm tumour in lung, lots of shadows behind his heart & cancer detected in his lymph nodes.

Thought he had 0 calcium but he has way too much calcium.,. Cancer Maybe in his bones too.

He is on iv antibiotics to fight an infection, of which they do not know the source.

Temp spiking

Abdomen swollen

Breathing heavy

Liver biopsy scheduled for 4 days time, apparently they have to do this to get palliative care.

Is it common for a person this unwell to not survive a biopsy ?

[Sesic]

21 days since my 1st post

I write this sitting in the hospice, Dad is most definitely on the way out.

Morphine pump etc, he is peaceful and we are just waiting for him to take his last breath.

The biopsy was never done as the risk was deemed too high, I guess the cancer was so far gone at that stage it was pointless too.

Primary liver cancer, diagnosed on tumour markers, secondary’s in lungs, bones, lymph nodes & shadows behind heart.

Extremely aggressive and it has literally eaten him from the inside out.

Short & sweet.

2 weeks & 1 day since his diagnosis.

He’s been sober all this time, we’ve actually had the best time with him over the past 3 weeks.

Good luck all

Take care

[Smyally in reply to Sesic]

Thinking of you in this difficult time. Xx