Missing dad

Aaaaaaw x Our Dad is coming home later today after having had a long stint in Hospital, us being told he would die 4times, having a Pacemaker fitted. He is 80yrs young! The Medical Team couldn't believe his progress. He has Parkinsons Disease& his mobility is very minimal. We have never given up on him once. I am in total awe of his stoical will to live. I really do feel for you. We lost my Mum in 1999 & never thought he would survive without her. You must honour your Dad's Memory & know that (depending on your beliefs) he will be by your side, watching over you in Spirit. Good Bless. Your tattoo is to forever there to remind you in times of trouble and also in the Good times that he is with you xxxx

You sound like you did all you could. Sometimes the unspoken words are so profound that they are intangible xxxx He will always be with you. Listen to his advice when you hear it..... it will be that voice in your head that makes you think twice about any decisions.

I KNOW WHt u meAN MY DADDY WAS VERY ILL WITH CIRRIOS AND HEP C AND PANCREACITIS and he died on my bdAY NOV2 IM GOING THREW IT SO BAD I KNOW HE KNEW HE WAS DYING And i miss him so m uch just the thought of never have to see him ever again hurts me badly im 39 yearsa old he was a great father and drs took him way to soon overdosed him even if he knew he wasa leaving they had him so overdosed i lost my last times with him not faur im sorry for ur lost trust me it gets easier thenm harder then easy again to learn ti live without ur best friend n daddy is hARD

Hi, it's not easy and feel for you as well as hope you are well.

I cared and nursed my mom and dad for many years through their illnesses and do so miss them. but I always know that they are about me always in some way. I also feel that no matter what I was very privileged and glad to be with them at their passing. Always remember all the laughs and jokes and never hesitate to be so proud to share all with everyone those laughs and how much you miss him, like your tattoo, because like my dad no matter what, he was and always will be YOUR Dad.

I lost my dad too

Some days are better than others, some days I feel he's around me other days I feel alone. Time doesn't heal it just gets you used to the absence.

Thinking of you xxxx

Having nearly died myself I've thought long and hard about what happens after death.

I'm certainty not religious in the traditional sense and the idea of a heaven just seems too unlikely. However the human consciousness is something very special. The sum of all the parts of a person does not account for it, so where does it go?

Whatever you believe in the hard facts are that the matter that you are made up from have been around since the start of the universe and they will be around until the end. We are made from atoms created in stars, we came from the universe and we will return to it. We never really die in that sense.

Your post left me tearful. I along with many others will know exactly how you are feeling. My Dad passed away 28 years ago yet still now I can remember the sequence of events. I thought every day at 6pm (when he died), then every Thursday at 6pm, then every 5th and so on. I was a mess for a long time ... Years not months yet back at work after the funeral and living my life as normal. It will and does get better. You never lose the feeling of loss just adapt to being a 'child' who has no Dad anymore and envy people that do. Now I can look back with a smile and without tears except last Monday when my brother got married at 60 and I knew my Dad would have been ecstatic. My Dad wasn't a believer he was a questioner ... An agnostic he called himself ... Yet I believe he is in heaven and that I'll see him again. Your pain will pass and become warm comforting memories you can wear like an old cardigan. Bless you. Jean X

It's so sad when you lose a loved onee. When you think of him and speak to him he will listen to you. The memories will never fade.

Lperica10 Hi hun, I just thought I'd share with you a few examples of how my hubby has been back to see us...

After her passed away it was a complete shock and I felt like I was in the bottom of a big pit, not seeing, hearing and being by-passed by the world. We had two kids 14 and 13 and they both nose dived too. I couldn't help them because I couldn't help myself.

Lying in bed the Saturday after his funeral, I felt the mattress move, like someone had put their knee against it to wake me up - this is what my hubby did every Saturday morning when he brought me a bacon butty and coffee in bed. I waited and it happened again, so I said, 'Ray is that you? I hope you're OK, we miss you.' it nudged a third time and he was gone.

I'm self employed, so I also stopped working which meant money was very tight. He had a business and the utility bill needed paying - of course it was a quarterly bill so was astronomical! I had no idea how I would pay the bill and found myself on my own in the living room one Saturday afternoon, so I switched on the tv and channel 4 was on. it was grand national day. It reminded me of my dad as he'd taken us many times to the grand national and i recalled him telling me they always show the winner before the race. Anyways the last words my hubby said to me was 'special, special', so when the commentator who was talking to a trainer said but it was special, special (pause) to win the Irish national' it made me sit up and pay attention to which horse he was talking about. It was Rule the World. I rushed to my laptop and placed a bet each way on Rule the World using a free bet and then saw the favourite on the screen, so did an each way bet on the forecast. I won enough to pay the utility bill that day.

I'm a scientist, I think Einstein was right “Energy cannot be created or destroyed, it can only be changed from one form to another” so there must be something after life.

Time gives you the ability to manage your grief better, the loss never goes away, but one day you will feel a little more able to cope and whilst you might take two steps forward and one back, you will know that you are managing better.

xoxoxoxo

My husband lost his battle december 4 2016 and it still dont seem real he quit drinking 12 years ago and fought cirrohsis for 2 and 6 months I'm so sorry for your loss you are in my prayers

Your post made me sad. I lost my father in September due to COPD and eventually he had pneumonia and that is what killed him. It has been hard and seeing him suffer so much prior to death, it was difficult. Me and my siblings are finding it hard and the house seems so quiet without him. He was with me throughout my journery of liver transplant and regardless of how his health was, he stayed near my hospital until I was better. He used to sit beside me and pray.

I am a Muslim so our beliefs are of course different like all other religions. We believe we will reunite with him in the hereafter if we are good people. In the meantime we do a lot of charity for him. So we help our relatives or give money to the poor in different countries. Before he passed away, there was a new mosque near our house. He would go to pray there 4 times a day and he was so eager to see the mosque's building work to finish. Sadly because he was not mobile before he passed away, it was impossible to take him there but he wanted to help towards the cost of building the mosque. He took charity from me many times for that! My brother went to choose a lovely chandelier for the mosque that other day which is from us all.

He told us to be good people before he passed away and to be kind and considerate with everyone so we tend to keep all that in mind. I have a large family so we do spend time with them all.

But there are days when his absence hits me like a tornado and all I do is cry. I pray 5 times a day and that brings peace to my mind.

Something else you could perhaps do is voluntary work? For example visiting liver patients in hospital?

I really hope you find some ease and comfort soon.

Regards

Jahida