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A run to save my sanity πŸ˜”

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I finally got out for a run...in the pouring rain...after 9 days of no running.

Things are awful for me at home & because of this I am in a rather dark place at the moment.I am not well enough to be running but I had to decide between my physical health or my emotional health.this morning has been rather horrible & running was all I could do to stop myself from falling apart today πŸ˜” it seems to have helped temporarily...but now I have walked in the door I want to go back out again.sorry for this gloomy post but I am a heart on sleeve kinda girl x

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MikeJones68
MikeJones68Graduate10

Oh my goodness. I hope things pick up for you soon x

Hidden
Hidden in reply to MikeJones68

Thankyou...me too πŸ˜• life shouldnt have to be this hard

Sorry to hear this, good that you took yourself out running though. Maybe try walking if your health not good right now, being outside can help lift the spirits

Hidden
Hidden in reply to Superstarnewbie

I walk my dogs every day but it doesnt help much at the moment to be honest.running has the edge as far as that is concerned & today i just had to do it.9 days is way too long without

Superstarnewbie
Superstarnewbie in reply to Hidden

Maybe a visit to GP in order hun, may get some help that way x

Hidden
Hidden in reply to Superstarnewbie

Unfortunately i have suffered with depression since i was 18 but medication helps enormously with that 90% of the time.its only when things get difficult at home that it tends to get alot worse

mfamilias
mfamiliasGraduate10

Oh, dear, I'm sorry you're having a tough time of it :( Running is my escape route, too - somehow things seem so much clearer after I've laced up and got out into the fresh air. Emotional health is important too - is there anyone close by who you can trust to confide in?

Hidden
Hidden in reply to mfamilias

9 days was far too long without running!!!unfortunately i have no family nearby & i dont have a close family situation anyway.close friends all seem to be struggling with their own issues so i am just here feeling isolated

mfamilias
mfamiliasGraduate10 in reply to Hidden

Please don't presume that you'd be burdening your friends. Get out with them, even without talking about anyone's issues it may help to get out in company and do something other than stress. Keep running, keep posting, and believe in yourself.

Hidden
Hidden in reply to mfamilias

Thankyou 😊 i will try x

SaskAlliecat
SaskAlliecatGraduate10

Oh Claire, huge virtual hug coming your way (((((((( )))))))).

I'm so sorry to hear things are not improving on the Homefront 😟 but am very glad you got out for a run today. Sometimes you just have to do it. If the runs are helping with your mental health right now, keep doing them. Just keep them easy. You're not trying to break ant records right now. I like Superstarnewbie 's suggestion of walking if you don't feel well enough for a run. Just getting out of the house, away from some of the stress and turmoil can help.

Hidden
Hidden in reply to SaskAlliecat

Thankyou lovely...its just so tough right now i literally didnt know what else to do!!!

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Hidden

Oh Claire so sad to read you feeling poorly and down. Please take care of yourself ! A big virtual hug for you !πŸ’

Hidden
Hidden in reply to Hidden

Ah thankyou very much 😊

Hidden I don't know what to say. Things sound so bad for you at home, but you had some temporary respite with your run. I do hope you can see a way through this soon.

Hidden
Hidden in reply to Razouski

Thankyou...i really hope so too as its just too much the way it is right now

It’s great that you got out to run! Keep doing it if it makes things better for you. Unicorn leggings make everything ok!! Sending you virtual love n hugs πŸ’ŸπŸ¦„X

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Hidden in reply to Catbee

Ah thanks so much...hugs are definately much needed & appreciated x

So sorry to hear things are rough Claire. I read in the comments you don't feel like you can bother your friends, but believe me, they'd want to help. Imagine if one of them was keeping a situation similar to yours from you? You'd wish they shared. But at the very least, feel free to inbox me if you want to talk anything through.

Running can be wonderful for mental health, but unfortunately it cannot fix all of life's problems =(

Hidden
Hidden

Thankyou...thats really kind 😊 i initially started running in the first place to help with depression & its ended up helping with so many more things!!!but as you say it cant help with life's problems...especially a soon to be ex husband who is outstaying his welcome in MY house & making me feel uncomfortable in my own home!!!wouldnt it be great if it did!!!

Irishprincess
IrishprincessGraduate10

Sorry you're having a tough time. Remember that everything is temporary no matter how bad it gets.

Have you got good support from friends and/or family?

Hidden
Hidden in reply to Irishprincess

My family are far away & not really supportive...my close friends all seem to be struggling with their own issues at the moment so i am kind of on my own with it all

Irishprincess
IrishprincessGraduate10 in reply to Hidden

I'd urge you to talk to one of your friends. Yes, everyone has issues but you really shouldn't be handling this on your own. True friendship is about being there for someone when life gets sh*t so please consider talking to your friends.

I use to be very independent and suffer problems on my own too and thought I could handle them. But I couldn't and then something big happened and my friends found out and they were quite upset that I hadn't involved them. Now I've learned that if I need help I just ask and it's amazing how much other people actually appreciate this.

Please try to talk to someone, it really does help.

Hidden
Hidden in reply to Irishprincess

I know what you mean.i usually do but when things get really bad i automatically just want to disappear & shut myself away.the one person i always talk to has dropped off the radar totally as March is & always has been a bad month for her personally & thats all she can do to get through it.

FlickM3
FlickM3Graduate10

You are to be admired for getting out and running when you’re so emotionally burdened. Hang on in there, it WILL all get better, I promise. I dont suffer from depression but I have been through stuff like marriage breakdown, single parenthood etc, and the dark place you are in now will ease. It’s important you dont get pulled down by feeings of failure or lack of self worth because of the place youre in. I weathered one marriage breakdown. When it happened again, I began to question my ability to maintain a relationship. What Ive realised since is that some relationships are there for the long haul and some fulfill their purpose earlier. It’s not your fault, it just is. Huge hug. Youre amazing and are doing really well, both with the running and with coping with life pressures xxx

Hidden
Hidden in reply to FlickM3

Ah bless you Flick...you have hit the nail on the head.this is my 2nd marriage so as you did i am naturally down on myself.my soon to be ex husband is still here & throwing his weight around financially & making noises that he wont leave any time soon.he is still sleeping in my bed & i just cant bear it...its so stressful & i.think because i am not well i am not coping at all well with any of it.i think he knows that & is enjoying his little power trip!!!i am emotionally exhausted feeling very isolated.thankyou for your kind words & encouragement...its very much appreciated 😊

FlickM3
FlickM3Graduate10 in reply to Hidden

Your ex is being a piglet. I really hope you can oust him from bed and board soon! Xxx

Hidden
Hidden in reply to FlickM3

Thanks Flick...me too!!!

Sadie-runs
Sadie-runsGraduate10

Oh Claire, so sorry to hear of the rough time you are going through. <Hug> A mantra I like (and seriously, I am not a hippy, honest, but a good mantra can be helpful) is β€œThis too shall pass”. I often repeat this over and over if I am having a hard time / am down. Because it’s true. You won’t have to suffer this situation forever, you just need to get through it the best you can whilst also holding it together. Which is where running can help. So good lass for getting out! But, please also listen to your body, and take it slow. xxx

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Hidden in reply to Sadie-runs

Thankyou 😊 i think because i am under the weather i am not able to hold it together as well as i have been.its so draining but i knew i had to get out there today to just try & empty my mind for half an hour!!!

Sadie-runs
Sadie-runsGraduate10 in reply to Hidden

I totally understand; running is my therapy too. Hope things improve for you soon. x

Hidden
Hidden in reply to Sadie-runs

Thankyou 😊

Bluebirdrunner
BluebirdrunnerGraduate10

Oh Claire, thats an awful situation😐..stay strong, chin up.Good advice from everyone, take a hug from me too ((xx))😊xxx

Hidden
Hidden in reply to Bluebirdrunner

Thankyou so much...hugs are what i need the most 😊

Fishypieface
FishypiefaceGraduate10

:( xxxx

Oldfloss
OldflossAdministrator

Claire!!! Keep running, keep posting and just stay strong... we are right here:)

Hidden
Hidden in reply to Oldfloss

Thankyou lovely lady x

Anthie
AnthieGraduate10

So sad for you... Keep running when you can but definitely try to get some support and perhaps find something apart from running to help you with the mental even though the tension at home must be horrid (any way for you to see a sophrologist or get into a yoga class?). Can't do much that will relieve you but sending you lots of bear hugs!!

Hidden
Hidden in reply to Anthie

Thankyou so much...hugs are definately needed x

Anthie
AnthieGraduate10 in reply to Hidden

Sending some more for the day!! xx

Hidden
Hidden in reply to Anthie

Ah thankyou xx

Anthie
AnthieGraduate10 in reply to Hidden

Hope you'll have some good moments only for yourself today. Off to work for me and then stretching class...

Hidden
Hidden in reply to Anthie

Have a good day 😊

AndG
AndGGraduate10

Sounds like you are having a dreadful time I can sympathise partly one divorce years ago and my current relationship (married 3 kids) is going thru rough patch. I also suffer with depression, sometimes I handle it better than other days, sometimes I feel all I want to do is to hide away.

It sounds like your husband is being a A***e! Keeping situation dangling and it must be v hard to keep things together with that going on. I hope you can sort that out and make a fresh start.

Sounds like you have got some good advice from everyone and brilliant that you feel running helps.

Hold on to things you enjoy and do more of them would be my advice. This is looking out for yourself. Gradually when you start to do this you feel better I have found.

Everyone has got busy lives and I know exactly what you mean about not wanting to burden friends. What about arranging some things to do with your friends. I do Park run with my friends and after we have coffee/cake bit of a gossip and I come home and feel 10 times better.

Sending you love and hope you feel better soon and manage to find some good times ahead. Take care of yourself x

Hidden
Hidden

Oh bless you!!!its just so hard isnt it...this is my 2nd marriage so kind of feels worse.thing is...the reason we have split up is his fault so him being awkward at this stage just adds insult to injury!!!i have a couple of things in the diary...but yes...i need to add some better things to my life to counter balance the crap!!!

Sorry to hear you are going through it too...i hope things improve for you soon...take care of you too 😊

AndG
AndGGraduate10 in reply to Hidden

Relationships are tough sometimes. Remember reading you can’t control everything but you can control your reaction to it (basis of cognitive behavioural therapy) I try to think about that when I have issues with my hubby. I would like to say that I apply that all the time but sometimes I struggle. My situation doesn’t sound as bad as yours it is more about petty pointless arguments and disagreements on parenting. I am trying to sort them out but it gets v wearing sometimes!

Hidden
Hidden in reply to AndG

Yes i know what you mean!!!sometimes i can think.clearly & react in a positive way but other times i am just not in the right frame of mind to do it.take care

AndG
AndGGraduate10 in reply to Hidden

You too at least this weekend there is always Easter Eggs!

Hidden
Hidden in reply to AndG

That is very true...my eldest son bought me a Llindt Bunny so i will most definately be scoffing that...plus HE is taking our daughter to see his parents over the weekend so i get a whole 2 days without him at home...absolute bliss 😊

AndG
AndGGraduate10 in reply to Hidden

Brilliant enjoy! X

EmmaRunning
EmmaRunningGraduate10

Aaah Claire sending you a big virtual hug and hope it lifts your spirits. I think talking to friends helps if you can. I also think it’s hard to stay positive when you feel so low physically as well. The physical low state will pass, just remember to be kind to yourself in the meantime.

Hidden
Hidden in reply to EmmaRunning

Ah thankyou so much...i think you are right...its so much easier to cope with pretty much anything when you are feeling fit & healthy...fingers crossed it wont be too long 😊

Motherin
MotherinGraduate10

Sorry to hear your having a difficult time. I don't pretend to know how you're felling but I do know how much better I feel after a run. Wishing you a speedy move to a better place πŸ’—

Hidden
Hidden in reply to Motherin

Thankyou 😊 even though i felt so rough yesterday i was really glad i went 😊

Decker
DeckerGraduate10

That situation is a painful one Claire and all you can do is get through it. It will pass and you will be stronger for it. Keep running and keep posting and if you and your friends can be there for one another in these harder times, then maybe you can help ease one another’s troubles a little. Easier to say, I know. πŸ™‚Hoping that things shift to a better place soon.

Hidden
Hidden in reply to Decker

Thankyou Decker 😊 i need to keep running thats for sure...9 days without was far too long!!!even though i feel rough i was really glad i went & looking forward to getting out for another at the weekend.

Decker
DeckerGraduate10 in reply to Hidden

That's good to hear Claire - hoping the running therapy is helping a little. Its great to clear your head a little and simplify your goals - for a hour or so at least :). all the best to you.

Hidden
Hidden in reply to Decker

Yes...i felt so lost without it...it will be good to get that focus back 😊

Just sending you a virtual hug for today and hope you have a bit of repute when he goes away for a couple of days. Recharge your batteries and be kind to yourself. X

Hidden
Hidden in reply to Razouski

Thankyou very much 😊 so far its made the world of difference x

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