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Trying to conceive

Hi there,

For the past few years I've been trying to get pregnant but with no joy.

It's now got to the point where I've given up hope.

I've been to Doctor's and all that he can say is it's unexplained why I'm not conceiving.

I've tried everything from clomid to letezole tablets.

I've got another appointment to see the fertility doctor very soon.

I just don't know if I should give up trying as it's getting be down and depressed.

Any thoughts 💭

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Hi have you had your thyroid levels checked including antibodies?


No KatieKatie, I've not had that checked.

Do you think it will be a good idea to get that checked.

Can my gp do it or should I wait for appointment with the fertility clinic.


Hi, it depends what your GP tests for a lot only do TSH and T4 and they will tell you the results are normal but you can be told results are normal even if your levels are at the bottom of the range and this can effect fertility. T3 levels are important in fertility and a lot of doctors miss this out on their tests. Same if you have a overactive thyroid that can affect fertility. You need to get a full thyroid panel check which includes all these things TSH, T4, T3 and antibodies and request all these to be tested. The hospital will most likely be best to do it as I know my local hospital check all. But my gps only do tsh and t4. But when you get your results ask for a print out along with the reference ranges.

I have an under active thyroid called hypothyroidism and did eventually get to the point where I couldn't conceive at all. There is also a thyroid group on here called thyroid uk you can put results up on there and they will tell you if anything is wrong.

Good news is if you do you can still carry once on medication and your thyroid levels are ok x


Also if you get no joy from either these two companies do home thyroid function testing kits and may be worth considering. I've used the blue horizon one but ask the NHS first x



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Hello .

Only thing I can advise is push for blood works to be done and find out if there is an underlying issue such as anti body issues and conditions which may be preventing a pregnancy . Most doctors tend to do these before prescribing any medication . The gynaecologist I saw first wouldn't prescribe it to me until I had had a laprascopy and dye test to see if my tubes were blocked.

Unfortunately we have to push and push for these tests to be done it can get frustrating . Only yourself will know when you have taken all you can take.. but things can turn around .. they did for me.. unfortunately I lost the pregnancy again but have since found a possible cause for it. And now looking at starting again but with this new information. All the very best to you xx


Thank you for your comments.

At least it makes me feel like I'm not alone.

I will push my hospital to have these test done when I see them in a months time.

At least that way I can rule everything out.

Hopefully I will get some answers.

By the way I've had lap and dye test done. Was told all clear no blockages.

Had Fibriods which I had removed 3 years ago.

All that consultant says is he does not know the reason why I can't get pregnant as there is nothing showing.

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He obviously needs to do more investigations then. Many many things can cause problems. Even little things you wouldn't think that could. More intense blood tests are def a step in the right direction though x


Would deffinatly push for the bloods to be done for any other issues . Xx


Hi Shivvyboom79. Has your partner been tested too? I'm surprised that if you have been trying for a few years now they haven't offered you any alternative treatments yet (e.g. IVF), or have they?


Hi Dcba,

Yes I was offered ivf but the stress of trying caused myself and partner to split. ( he had children from a previous relationship)

In one way it was a blessing in disguise as it made me realise that it would not of worked.

My current partner has had his sperm tested and we are now just waiting for the results.

So fingers crossed everything will be ok with that.

All that I can do is hope for the best.

If things are not ok, then I suppose it's time for me to let go of wanting children and focus on me.

As I'm not getting any younger.

I'm nearly 38 and my clock is ticking.


Hello Shivvyboom79,

I wrote in response to your post a few weeks ago. I'm currently waiting for our appointment with a fertility specialist which frustratingly isn't due until the end of May. I wonder if you've already had a consultation and what they advised you. I hope it was something positive (Please write here as I don't get private messages.) Thank.


Hello Dcba,

I know I've not been on here for a while.

But here is an update on what's happening.

I've had loads of test done since May and still no joy.

So I've now been referred to an IVF clinic to start the process. I'm hoping that the wait will not be too long.

How is your journey going.

Shivvyboom x



Are you checking your ovulation?? Are you actually ovulating? Are your periods regular?

Demand the blood tests to rule everything out. I know its easier said than done but are you quite stressed out? This doesn't help try to relax as much as you can. IVF is obviously an option but is very expensive and surely if you don't have any other children already they usually offer some sort of financial help. Have you looked online on the NHS site?

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Hi Shivvyboom79,

Thanks for sharing your experience so far. I hope the results of your partner turn out to be normal. I partly asked those questions because I have problems to conceive too so I'd be really interested in what advise they give you next.

I am 36 and my husband is nearly 40, and we don't have any children. We started trying for a baby about a year ago (mainly because my husband wanted to wait) so I'm now really worried we've missed the boat. We both got tested in the last few weeks. My results came up normal, but he's got issues with sperm motility (some of the sperm is not moving). So we're now waiting for a referral to a fertility specialist. I don't really now what this means in terms of our chances to conceive naturally.

So if it's ok, please do let me know what they advise you. They should offer you more than tests and I hope there is a solution for both of us.

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I read about tv presenter Alex Jones - she's 39 and in Jan or Feb had her first baby! She did a documentary on fertility (google it as it has good advices) and one of the reasons mentioned why people don't conceive was low Vitamin D in body (once body has Vit D from sun exposure or artificial- it turns into a hormone in our body and apparently it's important to conceive) Also quitting smoking, being active and in healthy weight can help.

Before I got pregnant I was taking folic acid, Vit D in liquid as it's easier to absorb it that way and also took bio selenium in liquid form.

Good luck!x


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