Advice Please

[Caspar]

Hi all, I'm looking for some advice. I have been having stomach cramps and feelings generally unwell. Friends have asked if I am pregnant but I have shrugged the idea off. I decided yesterday to do a pregnancy test and was shocked for it to come back positive. Could it be wrong? What do I do now? I don't feel as though I can discuss is with my partner, my friends or my family so I am feeling very lost right now.

[Zoe310798]

I'm sorry to hear that you're feeling this way. I felt the same when I realised I was pregnant as I'd only just turned 18.

The chances are the test is correct as false positives are near enough impossible. You should probably go to your GP to confirm the pregnancy. What are your thoughts about continuing with the pregnancy? Would your partner be supportive? What about family and friends?

Sorry for all the questions just want to help xx

[Caspar in reply to Zoe310798]

Thank you for your reply. I have mixed feelings about continuing with the pregnancy. It's very unexpected and timing isn't ideal. My partner would be happy, as he's very keen on having kids, but I am worried as we haven't been together that long. I also worry that he might put pressure on me to continue and I'm not sure if that's what I want. I'm not sure how supportive my family would be. What did you decide to do when you were 18?xx

[Zoe310798 in reply to Caspar]

Maybe you should try and make up your mind before talking to your partner if you think he will influence your decision. It is your body and your decision to make. My pregnancy was unexpected and the timing wasn't ideal at all but I did decide to keep the baby. I'm 28 weeks pregnant now with her. Me and the baby's father had split up when I found out I was pregnant and he decided he doesn't want anything to do with her so that's his loss. Don't let anybody influence your decision though it is solely your choice xxx

[Caspar in reply to Zoe310798]

Thank you for your advice. I did think I should make up my mind before speaking to him. Just swinging from one extreme to the other of what to do at the moment. You are very brave for what you are doing and you are right, it is the baby's father who will lose out. Wishing you and your little girl the best xx

[Zoe310798 in reply to Caspar]

Thats normal, I was swinging between options for weeks. You can always send me a message if you would like to talk about your thoughts/feelings on your pregnancy.

Thank you Hun, all the best to you too xxx

[ChrisWest1983]

You're right, it's your decision and you should not feel influenced about this decision by anyone else as this is your life, your body! You'll be the one going through it, live with it (which ever way you'll choose)!

I think best would be to speak to someone neutral, like a professional or maybe someone here on this chat and maybe that would help you to make the right decision.

Thinking of you!x

[Caspar in reply to ChrisWest1983]

Thank you very much for your reply, struggling to get my head around it at the moment xx

[Bpas_1968 Partner]

Hi There,

A positive PT is always correct, as it is reacting to pregnancy hormones being present. It is often a good idea to go and chat through your options with your GP, as they are neutral in all this, and can help support whatever decision you go with. Sometimes writing down a 'pros & cons' list can help clarify your thoughts when you see it on paper. This guide from FPA may also help you? fpa.org.uk/unplanned-pregna... . Good luck, and I hope you reach a decision that is right for you.

Best Wishes

Jules