British Pregnancy Advisory Service


I'm about 6 weeks gone now and it was a total shock when I found out. I had come of my pill and honestly wasn't expecting to fall as quickly as I did. Also I really don't think I thought it all through very well.

I've been so unwell since finding out, pretty much sick every day. I can't eat or drink and I feel miserable, I can't even be in my own house because the smell is making me heave. I'm unable to look after my 10 month old dog nor am I able to be there for my partner emotionally (who's mother is suffering from cancer, about 11 different types).

I am only 22 and haven't really achieved anything in life so far. At the moment I'm thinking of all the other options I have without being pregnant or tied down to a partner who is looking to settle. I had so many plans and dreams that just won't happen now.

Abortion is not something I could do easily and it would be so difficult for me to go for that choice, I'd also lose my partner and house but I almost don't feel ready for that part of life just yet.

I don't know what to do and I feel like a terrible person for it all. Also talking to my partner is not easy. He is however aware of how I'm feeling to some extent.

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Hi There,

Sorry to hear you are having a tough time. Have you been and talked to your GP yet about the pregnancy? As they could help with the sickness if you continue with the pregnancy. They are also a neutral person to help you decide what you want to do. A pros and cons list sometimes helps, because seeing the different sides on paper can give real clarity. Whatever you decide it's your body and your decision what happens next. If you did decide on abortion, it would be because that's right for your life at this time, but won't affect future pregnancies. Good luck with decision, and don't be to hard on yourself.

Best Wishes


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