Daughter update

I lost my daughter on the 11th Jan. Th funeral is Friday , i believe its the first of the day, 9-00 . I am suffering with a bit of stress. Though at this time I'm trying to be positive and look to the future. I have another daughter who is fighting fit, two sons of whom are both in good health. Tracey had APlastic Anemia which is a blood disorder. Leading to bone marrow transplant. The best match that they got for her would only give stem cells, of which she could have as many/much as she required. She had the stem cells Christmas 2015. It was fine for the first three month everything was going in the right way. After that it went down hill. She was in and out of hospital all year, including 24 hrs in ICU in November. This was the turning point we were then informed that her health could take a dive at any time. Her aim was to be at home for her sons birthday. When she reached that the next one was Christmas and the new year. These she saw and enjoyed. Her husband then told me he could see her winding down from that point.

So yes i have been reading the posts. Everytime my daughter was in hospital i was on antibiotic and couldnt visit. I put it down to when she was at home her husband and children took care of her. I wasn't needed so my adrenalin dropped. Hence i was always ill . It would always be the COPD

Hope you are all safe and as well as possible. XXX


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  • Oh Christine. What an awful experience. I am thinking of you and wishing you the strength to get through this awful time.

  • thank you , I'm just trying to focus on different things . I have three children six grand children two great grand children. I also have the dog that she trained she was going to show him as there was a lot of show champs in his line. He is now a retired gun dogs fully trained. Her husband said he missed him as he was the best of his gun dogs. He has five others. So she said dont spoil him i laughed.

    Thank you again. XXX


  • Hello Chris.

    I am so terribly sorry to read about the loss of your daughter. I cannot imagine how terrible this time must be for you and all the members of your family.

    Please do not hesitate to reach out to us here or someone you feel comfortable with for support. It is easy for me to say, but please take care of yourself as much as you can. I will be thinking of you and Tracey on Friday.

    Sending you a big hug.

    Cas xx

  • So sorry Christine what a difficult and aweful time for you. Hope you find the strength to get through this awful time. Thinking of you and your family. Love Bernadette xxx

  • Thank you all i do read all messages and will write again

    Hugs to everyone you never realise how helpful it is to put it in words.


  • Thinking about you Chris & sending my love. It must have been doubly hard for you having to stay away some times when she was in hospital, but you did that out of love for her as you could not give her your germs.


    love Sohara

  • So sorry to read your sad news the loss of a child is a terrible thing.

    Stay strong

    Love Patxxxx

  • oh Chris I'm so sorry this must be the worst time of your life my thoughts are with you

  • Hello Chris, I'm so sorry that Tracey lost her struggle with her illness, and so sorry that you lost your precious daughter.

    Keep strong in the ways you've had to learn. Thinking of you at this very sad time. Sue xxx

  • Hello Chris

    🌷My deepest condolences to you and your family at the loss of your daughter. 🌷


  • Oh Chris I am so very sorry you take care of yourself

    Dorothy xx

  • Sending heartfelt best wishes to you and your family as you face this tragic loss of your dear daughter ,, I hope you find the strength and comfort in the love from your family and friends here on HU, Take care and God Bless ,xx

  • I am so very sad to read that your beloved daughter has lost her fight ... it is so devastating to lose a child before ourselves and I cannot imagine your sorrow. I hope you find some strength and comfort from your family and my deepest sympathy to you. xxx

  • Dear Christine, It shouldn't ever happen this way, and I feel your pain in the loss of your Daughter. You keep your memories of your so determined to live little fighter safe now and share your world with your other children, for it will give you all a little comfort. It seems so cruel that your antibiotics prevented you having more time with her. I am sorry. Words just don't seem enough.


  • So very sorry to hear of your loss. My sincere condolences to you and your family, my thoughts will be with you on Friday. Stay strong.

  • My thoughts are with you, Christine. You certainly aren't on your with this forum. XXXX

  • I forgot to say she was 42yrs and she was born on 11/11/74. She always said how can i have a birthday party on Remembrance Day when its for all those people died. Her birthday she could never forget because of the date. So we did something on different day. XXX

    Thanks all sending you hugs. XXX


  • Dear Chris, I am so very sad and truly sorry, to hear of your tragic loss. You loved her and brought her her up, now she has been taken from you. My belief, is that she is still around you and your family. Her dog will be a great comfort to you.

    I am praying for you. The funeral will be very hard, but also a time to celebrate her life and all the joy she has brought to you over the years. Nothing can take away the happy memories. Please don't feel bad, that your illness kept you away, Tracey understood.

    Much Love

    AS xxx

  • I am so sorry Chris, how terrible for you all and truly sad.

    I wish you strength and take time to grieve. Deepest sympathies to you and family. Xx

  • Dear Chris

    I am truly sorry for the devastating loss of your daughter, my heart goes out to you. There are no words that can offer you comfort. She sounds like such a marvellous, brave lady & you must be enormously proud of all she achieved in her tragically short life. Will be thinking of you on Friday, stay strong. Much love Penny

  • Hello Chris , my heartfelt condolences for the loss of your daughter.I'm praying for strength to see you through your time of grieving.Always here for you if you need to talk. Love huff xxx

  • So sorry for you and the whole family. Love and hugs for this very difficult time.

    K x

  • So very sorry for your and all your family Chris, you must be heartbroken. Will be thinking about you on Friday, you will all be in my prayers xxx

    Peg 🌹Xxx

  • So very sorry for your loss, sending sincere condolences and hugs x

  • Such sad news very emotional to read a hope you stay strong Chris a hope she has a lovely send of thinking of you take care sx

  • Dear fastball be brave and strong. Thinking of you,especially on Friday morning.

  • sorry to hear of your sad loss , my condolences to you and your family

  • Chris I am so sorry. There is nothing I can say except I am thinking of you. Lots of hugs xxxx Bev x

  • Condolences, Christine. Happy memories will win through in the end. xx

  • So sorry that you have lost your daughter Christine. My condolences to you and all the family.

  • Hi Chris I can't Begin to no what your going through, and im so sorry for your loss. sending you big hugs and thinking of you and your family. Take care

  • So sorry for your loss I know what it's like I lost my son 8 yrs ago I'd be lying if I said it gets easier but you learn to come to terms with it my son was an only child so enjoy your other children I to have severe C.O.P.D and she d much of my time in bed.God bless you and your family x

  • So so sad Christine, must be the worst thing ever to watch your child suffer a terminal illness, you sound a very busy and strong lady. Coping with such stress must be agony for you, do hope Friday will pass as painlessly as is possible. Bulpit

  • Thinking of you in your sad loss xx

  • So sad to hear of your loss,it is the hardest thing in the world to lose a son or daughter.All we can do is to offer support and comfort and think about you and your family on Friday.If you are going to the funeral make sure you go with a good friend and your family.Sometimes a good friend understands you feeling better than family.

    Will think of you .

  • Thank you everyone the response is over whelming.(sorry spell not very good). Its nearly time just one more day. Tracey picked where she was going her husband took her to look as she always said how much she hated the old crematorium. We had a new one built the other side of town which is nearer to us. This is the one it could be that she is the first one in our family to go there. Its got no history with us. It makes it much easier if we talk about her, which we do when someone comes round.

    So thank again sending you all hugs. XXX


  • Am so sorry for you and your family at this dreadful time ......Will be thinking of you on Friday morning . 💐


  • Condolences to you Chris and your family. My thoughts are with you on your tragic loss.

  • Please accept my heartfelt sympathy fastball. I have been where you are now when I lost my son and nothing I or anyone can say will take the pain away. Just know that there are so many of us thinking of you and praying for you and your family. God bless, Sheila x

  • So sorry to hear such terrible news, it must be just awful trying to cope with the loss. No one should have to attend a child's funeral. Will say a prayer for you.

  • Sending you my deepest sympathy for your loss, thinking of you at this terrible time x

  • So sorry for your loss. Please accept my condolences. Thinking of you.

  • So so sorry for your loss - condolences Chris to you & all her family and friends - May she rest in peace x

  • So sorry to hear this. No one expects their children to go before them, heartbreaking. God bless you and your family.

    Sue E

  • Oh l am so sad for your loss, nothing can take the pain away of the loss of your child. I hope you were able to say goodbye as well s possible. Right now it will be second by second, then minute, then hour until you cope over a day or week. Just keep talking, try to eat well, sleep when able and if need to, see your doctor. Just be gentle with self and not to harsh on others, who maybe don't get pain your in. 2 and half year ago l lost my hubby to Idiopathic pulmonary fibrosis of lungs.......... On 19/10/16 my 29 year old son died, his funeral was on 10/11/2016. The pain is beyond description, just know there are many standing with you in thought, in prayer and understanding your grief.

  • Thanks everyone the response was is amazing. Just a foot note, i have ended up with a chest infection it started on the Saturday . I believe it was standing around in the freezing cold after the service. It was the coldest night/ day yet this winter. Not doing to bad been hospital for a scan on Sunday, GP yesterday for anti biotics. Now to rest and due just light duties.

    So again thanks and sending you all hugs. XXXX


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