Hi, first timer here.
I’m a 45 year old man helping my 90 year old female friend. She has heart failure. Only recently diagnosed as she has never been to the doctors, they had no medical notes on her apart from a couple of things.
Her mobility is bad, it alters day to day, the smallest activity leaves her breathless.
She has refused to go to hospital and she has also refused to have any tests done. We’ve recently put in place out of hour medical care access via community nurses etc as she doesn’t want ambulances etc and she has also put a DNR in place.
She has a build up of fluid on her legs and she is taking a water tablets and blood pressure tablets. Her last blood pressure reading was done yesterday one after the other and they were 173/81 sitting and 166/81 standing.
She has started to sit with her legs up which has helped a little.
I don’t know where this journey will take us and I do not know what to expect. The Dr has been quite vague about it and has only said she may improve it may decline.
She lives alone in a house with stairs an no downstairs toilet facilities. I’m in the process of getting her a stair lift. I visit her 3-5 times a day depending on her needs which vary from day to day.
Any advice would be greatly received, I don’t know what the outlook is here. I just want her to be happy, comfortable and for her requests to be met.
Thank you in advance 🙏