Hi all. My 81 year old mother lives with my husband and me, she has done since we lost my Dad, 4 years ago. She was diagnosed 6 years ago. She has Atrium Fibrillation and a leaking heart valve. She was offered a bypass op but declined as she was looking after my Dad at the time. It has been suggested that she reconsider but feels she wouldn't have the strength to recover.She will not change her mind on this. She is s lovely bright opinionated person. Mostly she is happy and is very good company. Recently her breathing has become quite bad. If she is just seated, she is fine, so friends and family do not see her when she is struggling. Any slight effort, even just going to the loo, leaves her quite breathless. Going upstairs is not good either, but although we have suggested living downstairs, she doesn't want to as she loves the view from her bedroom. We have spoken about a Stair lift recently, so that may be the next step. I usually take her out once a week at the weekend( I work full time) and it is becoming a challenge to take her to suitable places. Usually garden centres, as we need to be able to sit down often. More recently, over the last couple of weeks, she has been taking most of the day to feel ok. She thinks that sleeping, well the lying down,does not help although she's very comfy. Recently the only word she can use is rubbish when i ask how she is. We've seen the consultant and he suggested she increase he Furusemide which helped at first but I'm seeing a decline for the first time really. Does anyone have any ideas, thoughts comments to help please?