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Ralph as cheerful as ever. Said a Dr from ENT came this morning and said we have a plan and walked out, lol. Not the consultant. I asked the nurse, she said yes he said keep going with the tracheotomy and take down to the next size. No idea what consultant thinks or even if he's seen the film yet.

I asked about the RIG and the blood thinners, she looked and said he started blood thinners again on Sunday night, so at least we don't have to worry about that. However now they'll have to book it in so he can come off them again 5 days before. There doesn't seem any sense of urgency!

I probably won't visit tomorrow as we have a gas service booked between 8-1, if it's nearer 1 I won't have time to visit.

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Qualipop profile image
Qualipop

OH that's good news about the blood thinners. A big relief even if it means doing it again later. I hope all goes well reducing the trachy. I think I'd have waved and gesticulated "Wait" at that doctor and not let him move until he'd explained "the plan". He needs a paper to hand with the word "Explain" written on it LOL.

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He has pen and notebook, but he said he just turned round and walked out. He needs training by the others on ENT who are brilliant.

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WoodlandLover

Hugs to you, dear, valiant Sue. You're both two of the most inspiring stars I've ever known. I'm rooting for Ralph every step of the way. What about you? I had such a lovely bit of time out yesterday from my own ridiculous twists and turns which I simply dare not share here at the moment, by having an aromatherapy massage. I hoped maybe you might be thinking about it too? I can't recommend it enough. It's so important you have self-nurture throughout your tireless, positive and loving support. XX

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Ralph is definitely inspiring, I'm not as strong as he is, I just put on a front and cry at home.

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It is all right to cry. Tears wash away all sorts of negative chemicals so not only are you releasing all sorts of stress you are detoxifying.

Housing association book the service every year.RIG was never booked in so hopefully they'll sort it soon.x

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WoodlandLover

🐻 πŸ«‚ 🐻 πŸ«‚ That's a given, dear Sue. Of course you would. But it doesn't mean you are not inspiring. Soldiering on through our tears is pure courage. Besides it's important to let all this vast emotion out. Physically, we can also feel really battered. Some hospitals offer patients and spouses a set of complementary therapies. I did these voluntarily for families for 2 years, for cancer and stroke sufferers. It's worth asking. There may be affiliated therapists if not. I think you might come to look forward to them, and it's a good release to feel you can let go in a safe space. Bear hugs. KBO, remember. Praying for both your Blessings. 😘😘

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I love your KBO😜πŸ₯΄

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😝 yep, it hits the spot!

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🀣🀣

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Qualipop

He certainly needs to learn to listen to patients who can't communicate normally. Thanks to a similar doctor who had no idea how to communicate with my deaf mother in law, she became convinced she had cancer and deliberately stopped eating. It took us weeks to persuade her otherwise, even spoon feeding her.

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So wrong isn't it, most of the staff are good, just a couple need an empathy transplant

Thank you 😊

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weepip

Hi Sue, Im glad the nurse was there to tell you what is going on :) good news he is back on the blood thinners it must of been a worry .I like you tend to put on a strong face in public but do find a good cry in private is a great relief of tension sometimes i even put a sad film on to help the process along lol Hope the gas service is straight forward for you xxx

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If anything is wrong with gas service the housing association will fix it x

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At the moment I don't need a sad film, Ralph had his heart attack 3 days after my dads funeral. Just hitting me when I think of I must tell dadπŸ₯Ί

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I always miss my mum as soon as anything goes wrong my first thought is to phone her but its been over 8 years since we lost her :( Unfortunately my Dad is in hospital since october and wont be here for much longer. Its hard to lose them and dosnt matter what age they are xxx

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I know, dad was 94, but still hard. I was lucky enough to have mum until I was 65 and I was 70 when dad died. Heartbreaking isn't it?πŸ’”

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Very much so πŸ’” Dad was 94 this month and has done very well but he had a massive stroke and it has been hard, they are always the ones we run to when we fall over to make it all better xxx

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They are, we are lucky with our parents x

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We know parents have to go at some point but it's no easier. I still pick up he phone to tell my dad things and after my granddad died I actually stayed on the bus to his house to tell him something I was thrilled about. Felt a real twerp when I realised. Mum and dad died at a much younger age than I am now.

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Aw, bless you ❀️

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andrea_waffle7

Lovely to hear from you, so pleased Ralph is smiling. You take care too. Feet up when you can. πŸ₯°πŸ’ͺ🏻

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Plum53

Thank you for your update I am always pleased to read how Ralph is doing. A long journey he is on but light at the end of it. Chin up your both doing your best and better days ahead I’m sure xx

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Furryears

Hi thanks for taking the time to update give hubby my best wishes and please take extra care of yourself xx

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Digger0

On ward and upwards! Well done for the good news!

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Wooodsie

Hi Castleview, I'm sorry I missed your last post, but I'm pleased to hear gradual progress for Ralph. The ENT guy is obviously feeling more acquainted with Ralph, as he's relaxed enough to paraphrase his intentions πŸ˜€.

It is slow, but you will get there 😊

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ETHEL103

That Ent person needs some bedside manner Sue xx

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He's usually with the "big" boys and I think they just sent him on his own. At least the nurse knew what he'd said to them x

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Dempo

Happy May Day! I hope you get some time outside today - it definitely feels warmer! Maybe Ralph can get some sunshine too! It’s good that they have a plan, however clumsy that doc was at telling him!

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It's drizzle here atm, hopefully sunny later. Was hoping to get washing on the line

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Nannysue1

Good to hear your update. What a pair of troopers you both are.

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Cavalierrubie

πŸ‘. All good! That’s good!

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pauljusa

Looking good! I'm just an ignorant foreigner so forgive a probably stupid question - what is RIG? πŸ™‚

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cappachina

Good news he is plainly slowly recovering Not good for his stress levels though when a doctor says we have a plan and walks out I hope you took today off and rested

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Yes, I did, could have gone as gas man was early enough, but messaged Ralph and he said stay home and rest. I rang my friend instead and we had 2 hours on the phone catching up.

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cappachina

That's good you rested and had s good chat positive for both physical and mental health Take care love to your Ralph and we are all looking forward to your next post

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