I may have missed her posts but I haven't seen anything from her since I came back from holiday.
Does anyone know where she is and if she is okay.
pm me if you don't want to respond on the general forum.
TIA.
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BeKind28 where are you?
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I do hope she comes back, she was one of the nicest people on here, I hope that person is feeling good about themselves!!!
Heather1957 her presence is definitely missed on here!
I totally agree Heather1957 she was so kind and helpful to me as a fellow anxiety sufferer she really was a very supportive helpful person I really hope she comes back !
Very sad indeed!!
I also miss BeKind very much too Heather.
She was as her name implied - always kind and gave such lovely, comforting responses to people in need.
Which is why I find it hard to believe that someone was intentionally bullying toward her.
I certainly remember when joining in January, this wasn’t the case at all. Light hearted fun was allowed on serious posts or medical advice seeking posts, and the OPs never seemed to mind either.
Shocking is all I can say!
I miss BeKind too, Heather1957 . She was a huge asset to this forum.
Heather I’m so sad and angry to read that BeKind has been forced to leave this forum, she was always so nice in her replies . Well I hope the people responsible for BeKind leaving feel bad about their actions and feel they should take a lead from BeKinds book , the world would be a much nicer place if people stopped to think about the impact of their words. I will miss BeKind and hope she’s ok .
They probably don't feel bad at all.But I believe in Karma. What goes around comes around.
I also miss her replies godbless her and hope she comes back Kwagmire ????
I'm another one who misses BeKind. If people like her continue to leave it won't be a helpful place anymore.
I miss her too
I must miss so many posts I don’t actually know what happened and who’s.this nasty person causing trouble. I find this site so comforting and wait for it to arrive in my box every day as I’m lonely and fearful. Please don’t let this person win let’s all stay on board and support each other
It's incredibly sad, Heather, that a reassuring, empathetic soul like BeKind was made to feel so bad that she felt she had no choice other than to leave this forum to protect her own mental health due to bullying and nasty comments. I miss reading her replies a great deal, and being genuinely touched by her compassion for others even though she had many physical problems herself. Surely that's what the ethos of this site, and BeKind's always gentle posts, should be all about.
That is so sad. I always had a lot of respect for her views.
As did I... she was as her user name suggested responded with kindness
I’m glad you asked as I had also wondered where she was. I missed whatever triggered her departure.
Well whatever it was it sounds mean and uncalled for-she copes with so much in terms of mental and physical health and yet always managed to be welcoming and solicitous of others, particularly of those new and very worried members.
I can understand why she had had enough of some of the negative stuff that seems to be spreading here-she didn’t need more reasons to worry and feel low- but she was a very valuable part of the forum and I miss her cheery posts.
I do hope that if anyone, just on the off-chance, is in touch with BeKind that they’ll pass these messages onto her. What a lovely, open, honest and fun person to have on this forum. I miss you too BeKind.
So sorry Bekind has left. I always felt how empathic her posts were to people scared and struggling. I also enjoyed her banter with Andy.
I'm sorry to hear this bullying is still going on. Being in a different time zone I often don't get to read all the posts. We are all "in the same boat" here, so it's sad to see posters being so unkind.
Definitely do.
I’m sorry that Bekind has felt the need to leave. I miss a lot of posts too so not sure what happened but it’s awful that some people feel they have to leave because of the negativity of some others. I understood this forum to be for support and to be fair that is what I have received when I’ve posted. Bekind was/is one of those supporters and is always ready to offer kindness to anyone who posts. I hope she’s ok and will come back soon x
That’s so sad that she has gone. I knew she left and came back, didn’t realise she had left again. She was always so kind and supportive
Absolutely shocking to hear this! My Grandson has spent a year being bullied at School which is awful, very sad to hear people are still bullying in their later years .
Can some one pm BeKind who has a connection, to show her how we all feel? Also is there no way for those in the know of who the trolls are to um ... monitor their every comment and perhaps complain of anything that causes concern to the moderators?
This is so sad and deeply annoying, Bekind was the first to reply when I joined and just seemed to be a caring soul, hope she is ok.
You beat me to it Heather, I have been wondering where Be Kind is, but I don't read this forum every day so thought I might just have missed her comments. I'm disgusted to learn that she was bullied off. She is such a nice person, and always one of the first to offer help. Is there anything we can do to bring her back?
Hi Heather. Bekind and I chatted an awful lot until the last time she left some months ago. Everything went very quiet.
I can post a chat to her but I'm not sure if she'll read and respond. I hope she will as we all worry about her. I too missed the nasty post which caused Bev to leave.
Andytheextransporter's 'off topic post' post says it all.
Lots of love and hugs. Jan xxxx
I have chatted privately with her and confided in her concerning the problems I was having but felt I couldn’t openly talk about them on here and I so needed to explain to someone what was really going on in the back ground of my life. Nobody should have the power to cause such trouble and they should be removed or if THEY don’t like what’s said GO
I agree with you. I'm hoping Bev is doing alright with all the worries she has. I've sent a message via the chat thing but she hasn't replied as yet. Hope you're doing OK. We all need a forum where we can have a moan and get some support. The idiots who seem to have made this impossible have a lot to answer for! xxxxx
Oh Ok I’m beginning to understand the noise in here - that’s a sad day indeed - her posts are some of those who have helped me whilst I’ve been in here
It is so sad that people are leaving due to bullying. Be kind has helped me with the things that be kind says. I for one have found many of the posts from people helpful and makes me look at things in a different way. Yes none of us are medically trained. But we all have real world experiences of our issues and it helps to talk and discuss. This forum has helped. And if there are people who want to bully then they need to find some where else.
I completely missed that. That's appalling. If anyone needed this forum it's her. If anyone's in touch privately, please do let us know how she's doing. Despite her own concerns, she never failed to support anyone who was worried; one of the kindest people on this forum.
This is really sad reading Bekind ws always positive and kind to everyone ♥️
she was certainly kind to me
Thank you all for replying it seems to me that some people were very jealous of her popularity and kind spirit, rather than bully her off this site they could have learned a thing or 2.
She had her own health problems, physical and MH but always had time to support others even if she wasn't feeling 100% herself.
Sadly it seems the moderators on here are protecting the wrong people, they need to re-look at some of the posters, those who have been previously banned should not be allowed to re-join, they were banned for a reason.
Many of us who have suffered heart issues have suffered with depression or other MH issues , there are very limited resources to assist and support and people like BeKind was someone who just with kind words helped and supported those who needed it.
Shame on those who drove her away, I'm sure you are all patting yourself on your backs thinking what a good job you did, trust me you did not.
Do unto others!
Sorry to be late to this post; it is likely the time zone difference.
I find myself actually reading posts and hoping to read something written by BeKind. I also miss her kindness and support of all new members. She, better than most, understands what having anxiety actually feels like. I know that she always made me feel a little better—understood and supported.
Now, when I read someone’s post and the responses to that post, I often can feel the tension and conflict among members. I don’t understand where those feelings come from, but it makes me feel sad, confused and angry. Some people do seem to be more concerned with outdoing, or out knowing, another member of the forum rather than how the person posting feels, or what s/he is worrying about. Just my two cents. 😊
I am so sorry that she has left HU because she was so kind herself and has given many of us a great deal of support and information,
I have the feeling she rejoined with a different name..
I don't think she did, although I hope she did so she can see how much her kindness was appreciated.
I believe this happened before I went on holiday? I had no knowledge until yesterday that someone had actually made a vile comment about her leaving.
I am not doubting it is true I am saying she left and joined again before my holiday, she has gone this time and not rejoined (as far as I know).
I don't want to know the name of the person who made the comment as I would feel the need to make contact with them either privately or publicly and tell them what i think of them and while they are being protected for some reason I don't want to be banned.
Tell me ... ill make them public! I'm not scared of reproductions either!BeKind was adorable with me when I recently joined and I'm happy to be banned if it means standing up for good folk & the honest truth Bring it on
don’t leave. Their not worth it..!!! I They can say things on here but they wouldn’t say it to your face. it’s the easiest thing in the world to type rubbish and insults from a device but it’s another to do it face to face.! These people tend to be weak and know they are deep down so just let it pass.! Poor souls.
I do miss BeKind who despite her own problems still tried to help others It's a pity that these people who are so nasty can't live by her tenets of being a human being I have posted my views on Andy the transporters message I thought about leaving as I didn't like the way the website is going but decided not to let them win
Just wanted to add my name to the long long list of people who feels so sad. BeKind has suffered such awlful treatment. Not for myself but for all the new people, who, like you say she welcomed and comforted. BeKind you are missed greatly, I wish you could find the strength to ignore these sad, pitiful and downright ignorant individuals behaviour.
Hello 
Thank you Heather for caring and asking after me
Thank you to all those that left such lovely comments about me on Heathers post as always I appreciate it x
Hiiiiiii!!
So glad you could join us again. We’ve missed you ❤️
Someone emailed me and asked me to take a look at a post only if I felt I could which their kindness made me come on and to look I had to join
Hope you are keeping well and helping to make a go of the other forum x
As you can see, you’ve been missed by many, if not most of the members on this forum.
Yes! In-between both forums, and you know what that means, a double dose of Andy’s jokes 🙈 just about bearable I think! 😂 x
Welcome back, take it easy for now, be here for you and only those you want to reply to.
Welcome back, my dear sweet friend. ❤️ I didn't want to contact you just in case you didn't want to hear from anyone at the moment, but it's so good to see your name again. xox
I'm really pleased you felt able to return, BeKind. Welcome back!
Hi, BeKind28,
It is so nice to see your posts again! I look forward to reading more good advice and supporting words from you. ❤️
Hello
Thank you not sure how good I am at advice but I hope I have compassion to offer to those in need
I hope you are keeping well x
You have compassion in bucket loads BeKind. Just a very great shame a very small minority of invertebrates on here, think it is ok and feel bigged up by taking advantage of your compassionate nature.
Hello
Thank you that is really kind of you to say
I hope you are having a lovely evening x
No need for thanks your sweet nature and friendship ring speaks for it self. Had to visit the dentist today to have a wisdom tooth extracted. It got to about 8 o’clock and mouth was feeling a bit sore and I felt a bit worn out so took paracetamol and went to watch a bit of tv in bed. I can nod off there and not have that awful thing of waking up on settee in the small hours feeling stiff LOL joys of old age !!
Hello
I don't envy you having to have a wisdom tooth out and at first everything feels ok while it is still numb and when that wears of then we can start to feel it
You have done the right thing paracetamol bed and TV and I hope you get a good night's sleep and wake up feeling less worn out x
What a relief to see your name appear again ' Be Kind' .I too want to sat I have missed you.I have not posted much but I do remember that you were one of the first to respond to me .Your words were very reassuring and considered, just what is required after the shock of a heart issue diagnosis/ procedure. I, and many others will be always grateful
Thank you Heather for asking the question, ' where is ' Be Kind' ? ' I was wondering that as well especially as I don't keep up with the nasty comments.
Hi Be-kind,I'm so pleased to see your name again in a post / reply. I hope that your hospital visit (approx 3 wks ago now) went OK & that you have recovered from the stress of it as I know that you said it would be a lot of effort for you. I have been hoping that you are doing ok.
Please take care of yourself.
Hello
I failed miserably I could not get out the door agoraphobia won I lost 
Booked in again for the 27th of this Month so we shall see what happens this time
Thank you for remembering that is so kind of you x
You'd had a very stressful week then too, so maybe it's not surprising. Don't be too hard on yourself. Let's hope & 🙏 for a calmer week next time & that on the day you feel strong enough to fight through the fear & panic to get out & have the tests done. In the meantime please try & keep calm & not worry about it too much. Much easier said than done I know.
Hello
Yes there has been a lot going of all at once which I never cope with so I was not shocked no matter how hard I tried I failed and it would be lovely to have some calmer days weeks and maybe just maybe I will find the courage
Thank you for your kind encouraging words x
👋👋 Good morning and welcome back. 🤗 xx
Such a shame just seen that bekind has left forum, will miss her and hooe she is ok x
Hello
I am back but thank you x
This is awesome to see! Welcome back BeKind! 🤩
Hello
Thank you
I hope you are keeping well x
Huge thanks for asking! I do get left arm aches but I’m also left handed so always hard to know isn’t it. When I’ve gone to A&E in the past, they say everything is fine so you don’t want to keep going, just for that.
I’m lucky in that having aortic regurgitation I’ll be scanned regularly. Just a little anxiety provoking once you’ve had a stent fitted to know whether it’s the arteries becoming clogged again.
Thanks again for asking. Lush to see you back here. How are things with you? Sal.
Hello
I know that feeling very well
Even though I have had my Bypasses now I also have Fibromyalgia which causes pain and usually in both sides so sometimes both my arms can be aching and you are sort of on red alert thinking wait a minute which is this and the anxiety sores up
I suffer with bad indigestion to which gives me fleeting pains in my chest again the anxiety goes up and like you I sit and wonder which is this not good when you have heart issues and other things that can mimic them and to be honest I would live in A&E if I went every time I felt them which is most days
I now try and trust my Doctors when they tell me I am ok and I do get checks and just do my best so I do feel for you but the checks you keep getting done I hope they will help to reassure you
Lush I like that word you do not happen to be from Wales do you ?
Of course you do not have to answer that but by watching Gavin and Stacey a lot over the years I know that is a word the Welsh tend to use
Thank you again x
Ha! Yes I am from Wales 🤣.
I agree, I’d be in there every day if I went each time I get left arm ache. I also have disc bulging in my upper back. That might be the cause too. When I feel bloated, I can have sharp stabbing pains in my stomach and chest. Goes after the bloating settles.
They say listen to your body. You can listen to it all you like, doesn’t mean you can pinpoint the origin of the pain etc.
Thing is, A&E do the ECG, Chest X-Ray and Trop-T blood test where they can tell you if you’ve had or are having a heart attack or have an imminent blockage, but they don’t say if the arteries are generally clogging up again. I guess they’d have to periodically and routinely have to repeat an angiogram but I guess they wouldn’t want to do that due to risk and I doubt they’d have the resources to routinely do that for everyone who has had a stent fitted.
For us then we experience twinges that alert us, and we just have to sit with the fear ‘could this be my heart’ and just hope for the best.
Not many of us are in a rush to leave this earth so suddenly!
I’ve notified my GP, who might in turn notify my Cardiologist. I feel there isn’t much else I can do, apart from throw it to the universe to deal with.
Take care lovely 🥰🥰🥰
Hello
What a lovely place you live it must be lush 
I agree with everything you say and I could have wrote most of your answer as if it were me and what I feel I go through
I also have something wrong with my shoulder which can radiate down my arm sometimes my neck and I just st anxious most days but still try and just get on with it the best I can which is not very good but I try
Have a lovely day and I hope the sun is shining in Wales x
Hello
I have had a few root canals done over the years and I never found the experience pleasant at all in fact they hurt or did me
Yes with the Aspirin we have to be careful what else we take with them
I really hope this time yours has worked and you have no more trouble with it x
BeKind was ALWAYS so supportive, understanding and encouraging.
The bully who bullied her off this site needs to address their own psychological issues honestly!
I go to my GP and Cardiologist for the serious stuff.
I come here and mix with others like myself in the Heart Club for information, emotional support, laughter and tears from the very people, my fellow club members who have or who are walking the same or similar path.
We should all feel hearty friends here. Shame the opinions of one resulted in her losing the support of so many.
She remains very much missed, Sal ♥️
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Oooo poor old you root canal treatment not nice. Yes anyone on heart meds are told to avoid ibuprofen or related medication. But think that is more for any long term use. But tend to avoid all painkillers if I can, but find paracetamol is the one that suits me the most if I have to.
Oooooo you REALLY would need to speak to a pharmacist about that. Aspirin is a strange one to be mucking about with. Apart from the rules of this site on medication. I would not take anything on someone else’s say so, before I had checked it out with a professional. Please have a chat with either GP or Pharmacist. Good luck hope you find effective relief xxxx
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