Amy from the BHF here. Thank you all for your support within the community.
We’ve been receiving some feedback that some posts are getting lost in the number of off-topic chats. The British Heart Foundation community is a valuable space for those dealing with heart related issues. To maintain the value of the community, it's important that we stay on-topic while occasionally enjoying some more light-hearted moments together.
We’d like to support you all, whilst keeping posts and comments relevant to heart health at the front of the community. Therefore, we’d like to try setting up a “Social Check-In” for off-topic social support, where you can still enjoy respectful conversations together.
Please use these threads for your off-topic social support. This can hopefully help with improving the visibility of heart-related requests. Outside of this thread, where deemed needed and appropriate, our moderators may remove your off-topic posts and comments to make space for our community.
Thank you for your understanding and commitment! Feel free to use this thread as your first social check-in and we'll share another to the top of our page shortly!
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Glad you have asked thought it was just me been thick
What if this thread gets lost though if that is right ?
You know I struggle I got my Bypasses done somehow and yet there was nothing for and still is not for the mental health effect it has on so many of us
Been able to laugh on here sometimes is therapy for so many and part of helping some not all with heart related issues
Posts always get lost on here the amount of traffic creates that and why there is the ability to follow a post or so I thought
You can start doing a heart related post and someone comes on to try and cheer you up and then it can turn into a chat or even a laugh then what do we do when this happens ?
I hate parties but you know what I do I don't join in and I scroll to posts that I might be able to help someone and even more so even for me that is so simple to do x
I complete agree, Shar, and Andy sends me off to work every morning with a smile! 😀
You are been sensible now I know you are not feeling to good
See how it goes you could even get your naught badge removed you never know but doubtful in fact I was wondering as you seem to have not been reported for a while if you are getting withdrawal symptoms at all x
Hi @ Andytheextransporter, that's correct! These posts are pinned to the top of the page to make sure you don't lose them.
Another thought what if comments on here get reported unacceptable ?
I always think out the box
I might have to review my membership here shall maybe observe a while x
Stick to the rules with his naughty corner badge on
Not sure anymore Andy to be honest making me to anxious not sure if I need this
Anyway I will think about it as I do with everything and work out what is best for me x
This sounds very positive for us all. There are times we need to extend the chat to something lighter for our mental wellbeing. To smile and laugh can be very important to help us through a difficult day which can be full of negative thoughts and this chat can distract you from going down further. To be able to communicate in this way is essential to our wellbeing. Thank you.
Amy said Respectful comments. At least this way they suit all ,those wanting just serious answers and those attempting to lift everyone’s mood and anxiety.
Not sure this will work though to lift your mood for some in the depts of despair would you switch to another forum?
Here we go……… off the starter block. I just looked in the mirror and someone was smiling back at me, no not the devil, ME. I am usually serious so this has made my day.
Well they don't get much worse or can they x
Already done it
Andy is having withdrawals from not been reported so been the friend I am I have reported him so he can get a warning what he us used to x
Hi Jean, we'll be setting up a new social-specific thread each week and pinning to the top of our page the most recent one. You're very welcome to post about any individual heart-related topics separately. Sincerely, Amy
This is your moment give it to them and as you are going down your list if they try to stop you and get you out the room tell them you have not finished I do and Doc will say I have been on 40 mins here BK and I say you have wasted a few seconds telling me that I did not know I was been timed so let's not waste anymore and let me finish my list x
It seems to work for me x
I've been away from the forum for a couple of years for this exact reason. It became like personal chat page of a handful of members and I hated having to dig for actual heart related posts. So a huge thumbs up from me for setting this up. I hope it works
What about the parties and quizzes we have on here that are off topic do they post them on here to if so if a new thread will be put on once a week the traffic and confusion that may cause will get confusing to try and keep following
Hi BK, I'm not exactly sure how I'll keep finding it either as this is the first chat forum I've been in. But we'll work it out, new things always take a bit of trial and error. We'll get there! I've very much enjoyed this thread today already. You and Andy are very cheeky and have made me laugh 😆
Nice to see you V even if you have now gone back in your hole but I have to say I cannot disagree with your opinion and something that has crossed my mind to x
I think they will only be once a week and pinned so they shouldn't drown anything out... I'm assuming people can still post related to mental health/general venting separate to this too and this is for general chit chat and terrible jokes lol
Nice to see you if only briefly. I think this will make it easier to see and respond to your posts where you need advice. I look forward to seeing if this works for you.
Your absolutely right V it's a terrible idea to do this spin off it will drown out posts of people in fear and needing help with their heart problems .
Seems to me like just lately can't post anything with out rubbing sometone up the wrong way unintentionally, or being judged this is supposed to be a support group and just lately there's no support just constant judgment I can't be bothered with it I don't need this I think I might just cut my losses and just leave.
Yumz199725 I’m sorry you’re feeling like you can’t post anything lately without feeling like you are being judged.
For the most part, I do feel like it is a safe space and most of your posts have either sought medical advice or were uplifting in some way, shape or form to others.
I hope you don’t consider leaving, but I do understand that you need to do what is best for you as well x
Please don't go I need people like you on here and trust me I feel the same and hanging on in just so hang in there with me because I need people like you x
Hi Yumz, I’m glad you’ve made the choice to stay but I’m very sad to read that you feel you can’t post any longer.
I know change is unsettling, believe me. I think we need to put our faith in the moderators that they’re exploring options in the interest of ALL members of the forum and this is their first proposal.
Stick with me, I’m trying to come up with ideas too to put forward.
Maybe together we can build a more collaborative forum that aims to cater to and supports every type of member 🤞🏼🤞🏼
I know how you feel lass, I've been thinking of leaving as well because the atmosphere (for want of a better term) has felt a bit off... Will see if having a chat thread maybe lifts it a bit again!
I really don’t want to see members leaving; we’re all valid in our thoughts and feelings regarding the balance of social/heart related posts and that’s exactly what we need to find, balance 🕊️
Although this is great, something tells me it might be easier to make a separate forum for a “social check-in” instead of a thread as members posts might get missed 🤔
Yeah your right I think I'm just having one of those days 💔. And so true its hard to understand tone on here theres only so much you can convey online.
What about my intelligence and knowledge don't you respect mine
Anyway what are you doing on here you are not supposed to like these chat posts yet here you are x
Hope the new medication adjustments start working soon in reducing that BP!
Hello
Well I am not a Doctor yes I know that may shock you but to be honest I believe you get more symptoms with low BP than when you have high BP and it does make you feel rubbish
Glad they checked you over and hopefully cutting these meds to half the dose it will come up and you will feel better
Thank you for the update as I have been thinking about you x
I suffer with the high BP when if first started years ago though I felt fine and I agree I don't think you get very many if any symptoms with high BP but you do with low BP
Aw so glad you got a thorough work up and they have actually been able to help you with your meds. 😁
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Harry was my favourite Royal at one time and it is obvious he is struggling and no one knows better than me what having MH issues feels like and how a square peg as I call myself is suppose to fit in the normal round hole but I cannot excuse him no matter what you think of the Royal family for doing documentaries and books slating them he does not hate them that much as he is prepared to keep the titles he has been given which helps him to be of more interest to make money of them without been a Royal no one would be interested in him
Also having MH issues is no excuse to try and bring others down like the Royal family for what you believe they have done right or wrong not in public had he just stuck to how much MH has affected him I would have had a lot more respect and been prepared to read his book
I believe he still needs a lot of help and hope he gets it because I do have my worries how this will end for him
This is just my opinion obviously
You must be in our time zone now wherever you are x
Now who is been cheeky with Mum
To be your Mum if I had you at 16 I would have to be 96 by now which as I am 21 the maths don't add up x
Sounds fantastic it really does x
Hello
I do see your point of view and no I have not read the book but there is a lot where both him and his wife have been caught out saying about certain things that was proven could not be true
If you are born into the Royal Family and no one asks to but if you are then I still strongly feel you should not include them in documentaries you decide to do just talk about yourself and again had he not been Prince Harry how many books would he have sold how many would watch the documentaries I expect not many
We shall leave it there or I will on the subject and wish him well and hope he is happy with his new life he has now x
Perhaps I should not speak to this topic as I am American, but here I go. I watched the entire coronation ceremony on Saturday—all of those hours in front of the telly—and I was quite impressed! Truly, the British excel at putting forth important events. I love the display of history, pageantry and the Royal family!
It makes me sad that Harry has turned his back on his family and his heritage. I did watch the Netflix documentary, but I refuse to buy the book and read it. My belief is that he should never have discussed his family in this way. I find that disrespectful.
I am not a fan of Harry or Megan, and I wish that we all heard much less from them. Well, I hope that didn’t come across as too abrasive—it wasn’t meant that way.
I also watched the coronation concert, and it was lovely! I am a huge fan of Wills, Kate, and the children and of Princess Anne. I admire her work ethic and sense of duty.
I am hopeful for this new monarch and for your country and commonwealth in the coming years. But I also know that all of this is a small blip in the vastness of history.
Unfortunately, in America today, we have very few politicians/leaders whom we can respect or admire. In addition, we seem to have new mass shootings almost daily.
Thank you for the lovely comments about our Country and I always say no other Country does it like we do and it makes me proud and I agree it is our History
I 100% agree with everything else you have said regarding Harry etc and could not have put t any better myself
I have to agree with yourself and Smitty, BeKind. It's just very sad that it's all turned out this way for him, and unfortunately - in my opinion - I think it's his own fault. The pair of them could have been a really positive influence if they'd stayed within the family, they'd so much going for them. And, thank you from me too, Smitty for your lovely comments. Carol
Did I miss replying to this I think as thread gets longer this might be a problem that occurs so sorry in advance to all if I miss something would never be intentionally
I agree with you and I think it is sad how it has turned out , I do wonder though how much influence Megan had though and hope one day he does not regret it and they could have been a positive influence x
I think in addition to his mother Diana passing, perhaps his deployment in Afghanistan also had a part to play in the drug taking as I know he has also killed more than a handful of people whilst with the British Army. I have yet to read the book, however.
Our son did one tour in Kosovo and two tours in Afghanistan he may have killed people, and seen friends killed but he has never reverted to Drugs so No Excuse for Harry little toe rag.
That is your choice. I do feel like it could be a good insight into how the monarchy operates behind closed doors. Though subjective, as it’s written from Harry’s point of view, it still might offer perspective on how he reached the stage he is at today (i.e. choosing to leave the royal family) as a result of his actual lived experience with the royal family.
It seems that the media have controlled his life for a good while now, perhaps putting out narratives that have not necessarily been true thus far. Therefore, releasing the book may too, be a coping strategy for him to get some control back and an attempt to deal with some of the PTSD he has from previous negative experiences.
However, I appreciate not everyone is interested in the royal family. I have never been particularly interested either, but I think what helps me resonate with Harry on this occasion is the mental health aspect of things.
Wishing you a good day.
Tos
Yep now this chat thread will be set up weekly hopefully people will stick to it and leave the actual posts more visible
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It does mean though that people have to check in on several forums/topics in order to make a comment. I for one found the personal experiences of others hugely useful, sometimes comforting and certainly informative, so to have to positively search for that will soon become tiresome for many. Levity is vital in the darkest of moments. Just saying....
Agree though with your Hubby time to just get on with each choice they have made x
😂 Well I posted further up saying I'd rejoined after 2 years as previously the forum was a personal chat space for a handful of members. I was wrong to think anything had changed.
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I am sorry you left because of people chatting some find this distracts them and a relief even if for a short while from the seriousness of their heart conditions as to why HU have done this post for those that do so you do not have to read it join in with it but can stay on the heart related posts and answer members on there so things have changed they have given those that find this helpful a separate thread and for those that don't they have all the rest of the Community x
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How patronising 🙄
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I am not sure if you have got to know me but I can assure you that it was not intended that way I am not that kind of person by nature it was just that you had come on twice and I wanted to say hello I was not sure if you realised that this was just a post for those that want to chat and that the rest that dislike it can stay on the other posts
So again I am sorry you felt my reply was patronising I was trying to help and include you even though now I can see that you do not want that
Hi Hidden - I am absolutely sure and certain that BeKind definitely wouldn't be 'patronising' and, to be honest, I do think that was a rather 'UnKind' thing to say. She was merely trying to welcome you back to the forum. Carol
how rude, obviously you are a strong person but some of us are not! We are lonely and and scared And we need someone to talk to,even it is only on text it helps me. Perhaps you are lucky enough to sit round with a loving family or friends and have a meal and a chat or go out and meet up lucky you or your one of those people who need no one ! so please don’t ridicule the likes of me who is desperately lonely.just scroll by and think there but for the grace of god go I.
Sorry if I’ve spoken out of turn but feel so low today I needed to vent
I hope the thread cheers you up a bit. It’s getting really busy on here, with so many different discussions, but I hope there is one or a couple that you like which you can contribute to, so that you don’t feel so lonely and can have a pleasant experience on here today.
They seemed to have left now and Andy has talked me round minus a joke though
Thank you though for your support as I must say I really did not think this thread would start turning nasty I thought we could chat without that again
So glad Andy talked you round to staying. I'm sure he will be back to telling jokes in due course to cheer us all up again ... although at the moment it looks like he's on the Rum ... so we might not get any sensible jokes this evening.
I'm OK today thank you for asking. I had my Stress Perfusion MRI Test Appointment cancelled yesterday for the second week running, so a bit miffed, but hoping next week is 3rd time lucky and that it will go ahead.
You try and calm down, relax and have a good evening.
I think it was someone that has been on here before now deleted they may come back again in a different user name some do this for some strange reason
Andy on the Rum
Well I never knew that you have to keep a close eye on him he could be writing some more jokes ready for us all tomorrow or he could be talking to the wife
I am sorry you have got cancelled twice that would really affect me and I really hope it is third time lucky next week
If you have time let us know if you get it done next week we will all be hoping you do x
There has been a few on here though and I struggle to understand why ?
They did not want this on the main forum so we have joined Andy in the naughty corner on our own thread and yet still some uncalled upsetting comments when they don't have to come on unless they want to join in
It really does get to me trying to work it out x
😂 seems nothing has changed and that a few more vocal members rule the roost. Seems, going by messages that I've ruffled some feathers. Worry not I'm off
Just like to say after the BBQ for the coronation seeing so my Select 151 Rum got drunk, I have purchased a bottle of Coronation Reserve 2023 up sprits edition. This is only 54.5 abv limited edition my bottle is number 12850 so not that limited lol. My bottle of Deptford Dockyard Reserve is bottle 0655. Deptford Reserve is 54.5 abv so maybe the same Rum. These bottles are for special occasions only, they will stay corked unless something special happens lol
Any one want to come round for half a tot they will be more than welcome !!
Hi Prada47 and Andytheextransporter Just for you I can dig out the 80% proof Austrian Stroh Rum which we used to regularly bring back on flights, before they added the 'do not fly with this product label' in recent years.
Not sure you could drink it neat as a tot...
Just 2 t-spoons with lemon, honey, grated ginger & hot water certainly clears a cold.
A couple of table-spoons gives almost a 15min Christmas pudding flame , without burning the pudding !
Immensely potent superstrength version of the cult Austrian favourite. Delicious in coffee and commonly added to desserts (particularly flambes) as well as cocktails.
Please note
This is a high-strength product and we recommend not drinking it neat – please enjoy this diluted or with a mixer of your choice.
Well there is Anxiety and Depression. There's probably one for ADHD or whatever - I don't know. How many forums do we need. I don't even have heart problems and yet I find myself here - a lot of the posts in my "inbox" are from this forum.
Yes, I think a forum for Health anxiety or heart health anxiety could be really beneficial to support people struggling with the mental load that living with these types of conditions can bring.
I know not everyone has the same experiences but they’re all relative to each of us individually and we’re all worthy of support to move forward 🙂
There was a very helpful supportive forum for those needing extra support during lockdown but HU closed it down!!
Two gentlemen(!) from across the pond joined in, and you were supposed to agree with them on everything or you got a blasting. Even one poor lady receiving end of life care. Instead of telling them to sling their hook the forum was closed!! Ouch. Some went to Anxiety and Depression but it wasnt the right place for them. They just needed a little companionship
I've read Harry's book as well and there is no doubt he has mental health problems but someone should have stopped him from being able to publish it for the damage he's trying to do to the Monarchy no sympathy from me for the selfish Brat
It used to be practically all about heart related problems with a bit of banter at Christmas and when people are scared and need advice they are not looking for jokes maybe that's what admin are trying to do go back to how it was.
There was problem in that one knowledgeable person, who was a fount of knowledge had his knuckles rapped for giving his opinion to help someone else who was wanting information about a condition. I think that most people who dip into these fora are looking for advice and reassurance, because it is sadly lacking in the real world from the 'experts'
I think its such a shame that people are feeding back (complaining in other words) that posts are getting lost. The forum is pretty straightforward to use and the so called 'social' chat is still support people with heart issues and is sooo welcome by so many of us.
It makes me sad.
But as BeKind has said lets see how it goes 🤞🏽🤞🏽🤞🏽
Hi All in the forumThought i'd send you all some flowers to lift all of your spirits after yesterday's hick-up of horrible-ness /upset in this thread , but as i couldn't decide what each of you would like - i'm sending the whole shop full.
I wish you all as pain-free and anxeity-free day as is possible for you to have, and I hope the sunshine that is here at the moment also has time to come and smile down on you too.
thank you. they look lovely in the drawing room. I am not good at cutting the flowers in my garden as they last longer out there and set seed or I am pruning my bushes/trees in the wrong way.
Hi, I politely disagree. As not all questions related to issues people are experiencing are heart disease related other questions & advice/support needs to be allowed too. Its v easy to scroll past and pick posts 'relevant' to your own experience which you may be able to offer advice about or read for info.
If people need help using the forum perhaps they could contact the moderators for tips on how to use it effectively - just a suggestion as NOTHING should or needs to get lost 🤷🏽♀️
Morning! Just found this thread whilst scrolling. Will look out for it in future.
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How are you doing today ?
You are more than welcome to join in on these posts x
It's like when you go on a course; you don't know a single person and it's quiet. Then as the audience relaxes and people get to know those sitting on either side of them, there's a murmur and some laughter. Then it gets noisy and there's lots of laughter. Then, at an appropriate time, along comes the course leader and there's a diminuendo of sound. Personally, I don't usually bother with the banter. It's easy enough to skim over those "off-topicers", or move on to another post. It doesn't seem to be massively annoying.
So what is being "Policed" here is actually natural progression? Surely it is quite natural to progress a subject as it tumbles around an educated group and when it runs out of steam, someone else will bring the group back on track with another "CLEAN" post! That is how a democracy works - well at least I and many others think it should.
I would like to know how many feedbacks have been received relates to percentage of membership? It is just not democratic to do anything else. After all, when does a post in the chat area become unsuitable if a general chat should stray , for however long, onto discussing heart matters. It's just so "Big Brother" that it worries me. Are we therefore to expect policing of the chat area...................and before the smarty pants has time to tell me, yes I do know how to leave the group if I feel it is not relevant, despite my triple heart bypass or my pacemaker or my angina or advice on when to use my GTN spray
Human beings are human beings and each and every one has differing needs. Some might hide their worries and concerns wrapped up in humour, or god forbid, differing points of view. Perhaps humour, if removed from main line posts will only leave some of us feeling like a specialist has just left the room after advising us on our condition! Those that might know me will know I do like humour very much, I also have needs and have asked for advice on many an occasion - I have also challenged some cruel replies, given my stance on a subject and also have the humanity within me never to hurt deliberately. I also have the knowledge to know when a decision should be challenged and this is one I do not think is wise or could ever be policed in a fair and human way. It's been working for years so why change it?
Dare I suggest that the establishment does not like hearing the truth occasionally - and that does not mean the BHF team!
Sincerely not impressed - unless of course the post gets removed
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This is not like me at all so shows how it is getting to me even doing bold writing here but I am just getting so flipping fed up !
Some did not like chatting posts or laughter fair enough so HU have done this post for those that do they have come on it and yet STILL there are comments of disagreement on here from people that dont like laughter or chatting from members yet they have a CHOICE to ignore this post if that is not what they like
So can someone tell me WHY are people coming on that dont like this with opinions and NOT sticking to the posts where they can help and it is more serious issues when some like some light relief on here
I am now THINKING I HAVE HAD ENOUGH !
I have heard it said it is like a playground on here this thread well then don't come on it then and play it is that SIMPLE
LIVE AND LET LIVE PLEASE or to some people's pleasure I am going to have to leave here I would not be a part of something like this in real life so getting to the stage I am certainly not going to be a part of something like this on line !!!
READ THE INTRO TO THE POST BY HU AND WHY IT HAS BEEN PUT ON AND IF YOU DONT WANT TO JOIN IN WE DON'T NEED YOU COMMENTS !
A very confused and distraught not so Bekind which hurts as I like to be what my username is KIND TO EVERYONE !
It might take some getting used to I agree but not sure if I am cut out reading all this arguing and so on it just gets me down and that is not the point been a member on here I just wished it would stop it amazes me we all have heart issues yet all this nastiness I read and wonder what on earth has happened to people nowadays
Ignore the numpties, if you’ve survived a heart attack or 2 in my case you need some banter to get you through the ups and downs. You’ve been given extre time on this earth, grab it with both hands 🤣🤣🥰
I survived three heart attacks and a triple Bypass and struggled ever since and as much as I like to help others it does help me to have some light hearted banter my problem is I am not very good with upset though but thank you and I hope you are keeping well x
Hey hope your all keeping as well as possible and enjoying this weather while it lasts ( I give it day before we get rain 😂☔)So gym day today was very productive was amazed I went actually haven't been sleeping that great for about 3 days now not sure what's brought that on. Anway maneged 35 minutes day as the the extra 5 minutes on treadmill was too much (just one of them days 😅 I guess) erm really got my heart beating and working hard average was 133bpm which is good but not great for me. Legs were tired as usual after 5 minutes just seems to be the norm for me on the bike. All in all was a good gym day and don't worry I had my breakfast before I went 😁😅😆😎💪🏻
I think gym updates are really important for others with heart conditions they show what you can do and how you are going about it how it makes you feel and so on which so many need to know
But I understand and you post wherever you feel most comfortable x
We have more than a sprinkle it is coming down here in bucket fulls I am fed up it has been raining every day now what seems like weeks !
So sorry you have a bug you are brave though and strong I can see after your nap it is not going to stop you going to see the paintings
Sometimes people think with me been agoraphobic they should not mention what they are doing and where they have been as I cannot do it yet I enjoy so much reading or talking about where people have been etc because it gives me a glimmer of the outside world and what is out there and I am really enjoying your trip I can only imagine but that is enough so keep telling us where the next stop is and hope that bug is just a 24 hour one x
I'd like to add my thanks to Amy to your post too, Anne. When I have an off day (only occasionally I have to admit), the forum always manages to both educate me and cheer me up!
My wee bruv ordered one for me from Amazon, Andy. It's sort of like the one on the very long link I've included below! 😳 It wasn't very dear and it's a handy wee thing. The day he brought it down to my house my sister was here and the three of us spent an hour taking our blood pressures over and over again! 🤪😂 What a fun way to spend an afternoon! 😆
Hi Cee-Cee1 ... if it really was fun taking & comparing your BP readings then I suggest that maybe you get a pulse-omiter / Oxy meter to play with too. The pulse bar movements for me due to my heart arithmia are so different to my husbands, friends & work colleagues ....It's quite interesting to see.
It's been a good way of physically showing work colleagues why I'm so exhausted & tired too.
Hi 1234, that was the first thing my wee bruv bought me after my op last year - we'd great fun with that! We're a bunch of medics now, me with the HA & triple bypass, my wee bruv with the permanent AF and my big sister who's just had the ALL CLEAR (Yay!) after her op for breast cancer. Honestly, we're definitely not exactly the "fit family" 😆but we do try! 😂
So glad that you are able to support each through all of your different medical traumas & treatments, and to see and hear that you are all still laughing. Congratulations to your Sister on being given the All Clear. Continue to take care of each other & sharing fun times - it obviously does you all good.❤️
Thank you so much, 1234 - we're tickled pink with my sister's amazing result. She had chemo followed by her op then the all clear - which was the best news ever! She still has to have a short course of radiotherapy and will have herceptin injections every three weeks for a year. We were incredibly worried as our other bruv actually passed away two years ago, he was diagnosed with Myelodysplastic syndrome (a sort of blood cancer) and passed away just 11 weeks after diagnosis - it was a dreadful shock and he was the fittest man I ever knew, then we lost our Mum and two very dear Aunties so it's been a REALLY rotten couple of years! You'd think at our ages - 70 (sis), 63 (me) and 55 (bruv) - we'd have grown a bit of sense by this time but I think laughter, and each other, which keeps us all going! 😄
Well you dont look 63 🙂. But as you are now in your 2nd childhood you are entitled be silly, to laugh and have fun and enjoy life.It sounds like you really do all deserve to celebrate about your sister.
I'm sorry to hear about your family losses. You must miss them very much.
You have my sympathy over how tough the last two years have been for you all. You will still be grieving (& possibly in shock still), so need to ensure that you look after each other.
We lost Mum-in-law and Dad within two-and-a-half weeks of each other in Jan two years ago, ( her going was out of the blue, and him going a little more anticipated, but still not expected at he time), then a year of sorting two Estates, and I'm only just begining to feel I'm back on planet earth.
What a lovely compliment, 1234 - you're looking very young yourself 😀there are days when I feel at least 103! I'm sorry to hear about your Mum-in law and Dad too - it's hard isn't it. I still sometimes go to lift the phone to Mum and I actually automatically dialled her telephone number a week ago, intending to ring my Sis - it's always very sad reminder when things like that happen. She passed away in February 2021 in her sleep and four months short of her 92nd birthday - she still lived alone, was fit physically and mentally fit and had a glorious sense of humour - and we comfort ourselves with that, it could have been so much worse. When my big bruv took ill, we couldn't even visit him in hospital before he passed away. I can relate to the Estate sorting out too, Mum didn't leave a will and I was her 'next-of-kin' so that was a nightmare. It was during the shut-down too and impossible to contact a solicitor but I managed to apply to the Courts for all the legal necessities and paperwork on-line myself - which drastically shortened the usual lengthy time it takes to sort out an estate when using a solicitor in normal times. All done and dusted in seven months and we only had to use the solicitor to sell the house!
Take care yourself - keep that wonderful sense of humour and embrace all the little things that life throws at you! We'll all get there - onward and upward! 😀👍
Glad you got sorted out, Andy. Hopefully the reduction in meds will help a lot. Isn't it really great when you see an attentive GP - there's one at my surgery who's flippin' brilliant, but he's only there two days a week.
This is about my heart. It’s my heart, not BHFs heart, not anyone else’s heart either. But it does like to share, and loves to see you guys cheering up one another and the world. Shine on you crazy diamonds!! xxx
Yes, they're born to privilege, but are under the eye of the public for most of their lives. I wouldn't swop my life for theirs, money and expensive clothes etc don't make you happy.
I had occasion to act the part of a VIP a few times, with police protection officers, my god it stressed me so much! Posh hotels, treated like royalty but under protection officers gaze - no thanks I'll stay ordinary, poor and just be me.
You cannot leave it at that !
Why what have you gone and done to not be allowed to use it and don't say tell you later or whenever x
Right that's it now you are tormenting me and stressing me , don't want to know ☹️you are only just going to get my smiley face x
I can Black Cat you as mine is 88/55 HR 56 I only checked it because I was feeling a bit off.! Must of been all the Rum I have had over the last few days,even though it was all virtual !!
Nope I don't want to know now given up waiting settle for nothing 😢 x
It's a good idea to separate the heart-related posts from non-heart related ones. You could also suggest that if people wanted to comment with something not related to the original post that they do so privately.
Another idea might be to create a social room for meet-ups. I, for one, don't know of anyone in my town/area that is going through my symptoms,, has my condition, having treatment at the same hospital as me, etc, and some people might like to meet up to celebrate post-op.
Or maybe BHF could hold regional events. They could ask members to help with organising if needed.
Hello in the olden days 60s/70s Submariners needed the Whisky to wash under their arm pits to get rid of the smell of Diesel. Now they just Glow in the Dark lol
Its ok
I am getting a bit lost on this post though you have to read everything again to spot if anything is new
Yes, I've found it a bit confusing too where posts end up 'in between things' because we've responded to a reply & not to the original post so it doesnt go on the end / at the bottom of the thread. Maybe we might get used to it in time.
Just had a lovely day out visiting the poppy factory in Richmond and then a river cruise from Richmond down to westminster. So glad I had no angina, just knackered knees🙃
I find it strange Whisky is meant to be drunk and pleasure derived from doing so. It is what whisky is for, not hoarding unless it improves with age.
I also find it strange that an exact copy of a painting is worth peanuts and the real thing millions. If you put them on your wall and enjoy them why not have a copy? I know all the arguments about the original but an image is an image.
Morning Andy, l am getting a bit confused with this forum and it seems all over the place for me and confusing. It’s not as straight forward and having to scroll down all the replies to get up to date and then can’t get a word in edgeways………. maybe it’s just me and not used to it, hope so. Hope you make a go of it and find it helpful and less worrying. 😀
Don't you get an Email when there's a new reply and then you just click on read reply and it takes you straight to the latest post passing all the other messages.Are you following this thread?
l get an email when l get a reply, but get nothing if l don’t reply and have to go to the beginning. If this is going for a week it will knacker my phone lol.
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I get an email if someone has replied to me but that is all
Yes I am following this post the first one I have ever followed x
lol. That made me laugh out loud. You are getting better BK and l think he had met his match in you. 😂. Thanks for info. Will do, or should l say try to do when l have a spare couple of hours. 👍. Hope you are ok today. Xx
You have to keep that Andy in check keep a close eye on him but it would not be he same without him
I have worked it out by doing that but then you do tend to end up with another problem your email inbox gets really full
To be honest I am not feeling great woke up anxious as always and I have on my mind I have to go to the Hospital next week for a bowel scan which getting an agoraphobic out the house never mind all the other fears is a major task so no not great but thank you for asking
You sound in good form and busy so I hope this means you are feeling good today x
Fact of the day 12/5 1789 Britain abolishes the Slave Trade William Wilberforce makes his first major speech on abolition in the UK House of Commons, reasoning the slave trade morally reprehensible and an issue of natural justice
it’s such a shame after hundreds of years we still need a Modern Slavery Act (2015). As long as human beings have the propensity to do evil, exploitation of other human beings will remain. But the good in human beings still has to keep fighting it. Sad truth. 👍
Found what I might be doing wrong went in my settings and as I said never followed a post before but I had not got ticked to notify me when someone replies to a post I am following so I have ticked that now
Nd on my home page it says I’ve got mail but never anything new to see !!!!!🤪
Shocked faces
I did correct it to me
Did you watch I'm a Celeb ?
The one's I wanted to win have all gone out now and I think they are going to throw Myleene Klass out next who I think has done really good and then if they do I am not sure who I would want to win out of what is left should have let us vote ! x
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Afternoon Kevin
Love it god knows wHere the message will go
I have worked this all out now so am starting to see them
Do you really want to know how I am the short version or long one think we will go for the short one which is simple rubbish !
Not to sure about Nixies new hobby could she find another one
Hope you are doing ok x
I hope I am not the latter x
Creep x
Glad you are doing ok and yes she has picked a very smelly hobby but with plenty of shampoo you can sort that out will keep you busy and it is so nice how much you love her I can tell she brings you so much happiness x
Does anyone know why there appears to be a notification on my private messages however, when I enter the private chats, I cannot see the message? It’s been like this for a month now. I’ve logged out and logged in multiple times, but it doesn’t allow me to see message 🤔
This has happened to me before but come good again within the day and so I would look down at the bottom where it says support go on that and just follow it and report what is happening I can't say they are the quickest to sort things out but normally they do
Some other clever cloggs might have a better idea but that is what I would do x
Oh I see. No I can’t. I believe it’s a different format when using a mobile device. I do however, see a contact section for the moderation team. Perhaps I can give that a go.
Hopefully others will be along soon. It’s hard to keep up with the posts on here, but I’m hoping we’ll all get the swing of things soon.
No, not at all. I brought my mum an iPhone in 2020 with the hope that she would start using a mobile. She’s 60 in October and can’t stand those things. She’s conventional and prefers the landline, so I’ve surrendered now.
I didn’t realise the moderation team are hard to get through to. Oh well, it’s not the be all and end all. It’s just slightly annoying that the notification is sitting there and I can’t see it for the last month and a bit.
Hope you’re having a fairly good day so far a part from the anxiety x
Well I was 60 at the end of last year and just the same as your Mum this mobile just sits here doing nothing and I use the landline all the time and if anyone phones me on my mobile I ask if they can phone me again on the landline so yes give up looks like we get to a certain age and get set in our ways well some of us do
For me when it happens I just hope whoever it is they are not thinking I am rude and because you do not know who it is you cannot even do a post telling them either
Try the moderation team it might be just my name they ignore
Anxiety is having a good old time with me today but nothing I can do x
Well yes, she’s definitely set in her ways now. She can also be very stubborn. But they do say “mums know best”, so there we have it.
Yes, I was thinking the same. I’m sure this person must think the worst of me by now as it’s been soo long 🙈.
I’ll let you know if they respond. Doubtful though.
I hope being on here helps eliminate some of that anxiety you are feeling today. There are lots of people on here that enjoy having pleasant conversations filled with humour so I hope that helps ease it a bit for you x
I always remember my Mum at my age and looking at her and her ways thinking what is wrong with her now I have turned into her and you will eventually to
I say things my Mum used to say and when I do I think that is my Mum as well as little things like she would always have a tea towel in the house near by her and guess what now I do to
I hope you get it sorted and wished I could help more but when you do I am sure whoever is messaging you will understand
Yes I like if I can to help on the Community especially is someone is anxious but it is a light relief to just chat and not be afraid you are breaking any rules x
What does the silver foil do
If it works to calm you down I will wrap my head in it now as I could do with something to help this anxiety x
Well the way my head talks to me it could be aliens in my mind for all I know so it could work
Have you had any therapy for this at all x
Yes maybe a good idea to keep quiet I am not sure if an all white straight jacket would suit you
I only use the laptop for work. I hate it on my lap, I find it’s too big. I prefer the phone as it’s lightweight and I can take it around the house with me x
Well just maybe I could be helping him if we think this through so he has low BP but by me upsetting him that sends your BP up when you get upset so you see all this time I have been here in a clever way trying ( which he does not appreciate by the replies ) to keep his BP up
I am such a good friend ( again not sure if he appreciates it ) x
hi it’s my son’s birthday - I sang happy birthday, clapped and led the three cheers - got out of breath and got flutters in my chest which then started to get tight. All I did was sing - I didn’t think I sang that badly it would trigger a bit angina🥹
I had been standing for a while too.
(I didn’t post as a heart post as I find it hilarious- I mean who does that? Oh well no singing career for me then)
You may have been doing a little more and it just came on at that moment
I still think though this is heart related and you should be able to explain what happened today with a post but you are always welcome here just post when you need to as well x
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think you’re right, i have done a little bit more. D I didn’t get my usual nap! One learns 👍
don’t understand what to do, can just about use the phone, it’s a smart phone but I’m not smart enough to use it, don’t know what threads are only the ones in needle work 🤪
Basically people were making reports that people were chatting to much and having to much fun because we like a joke as well as addressing the serious things about the heart
So HU have put this post on so those that like a chat or laugh can do that just on this post and leave the other posts to heart issues
If you press to save this post then in your My feed you will find this post and can get to it straight away
In your settings also make sure you have ticked the option that any saved posts you want to be notified when someone replies on it that way you will always be able to see and follow the post what new has been posted and so on
Every week HU say they will start a new post as you can see this has already got very busy
Look out next week for them doing so and then do the same save the post
I am not sure if I have managed to explain this very well but if you keep getting lost which hopefully you won't just keep asking x
I'm with you on that ,what we had for years was a forum strictly for heart problems you could ask for advice and many people gave good reassurence and advice especially those newly diognosed. I personally don't need a chat room for trivial jokes and banter there are plenty of social media sites for that so maybe I won't be joining in on this one,I'm sticking to the afib site which as far as I can see hasn't changed from its original purpose of informing ,reassurening and giving knowledgeable advice
I am sorry you feel this way but not sure why you feel the need then to come and look on this post as the aim was that HU put this post on here just for those with heart problems that do enjoy a chat and banter as it actually does help them and can give well needed distraction and a bit of relief from their conditions at the same time they can mention their heart concerns with others that will understand so a mixture of both real;y advise and some banter
This is just one post just one for those that find it helpful the rest of the site should stay the same that meets you needs
You do right though if this one post is upsetting you stick with the other forum that helps you and with posts I do not like I scroll past them and just don't comment but move on to the one's that help me
I hope you have a lovely day and get all the support you need on the afib site that does not allow a post such as this x
Exactly that is why they have done this post so people can have a choice as you say each to their own so they do not have to come on if it is not what they like
I'm not upset not at all just what we had for the last 6 years worked extremely well and now it's chaos. It's all mixed up together a serious subject mixed with constant banter will not work.
Time will tell
I'm in News Zealand so having a lovely Mother's Day beautiful Sunny day
You can't be reading the same book as Harry comes out of it as a liar attacking the Royal family with his often very personal attacks on William and Camilla. He changed as soon as Archie was born snd his wife got him out of the country.
His mental health problems are being addressed with therapy so why can't he just stay away from the UK and leave the King to reign in peace
If you want a balanced view Anne read Tom Bowers book on Megan Markle.She had a wonderful life with her father as her Mum had left them and look at how she repays him now he's never met Harry or his Grandchildren she's the problem.
'In the darkening twilight I saw a lone star hover gem-like above the bay.' This was the last diary entry of which explorer, written on January 5th 1922 at Grytviken in South Georgia?
Question: 2
Sao Vincente, Boa Vista and Santiago are among the islands of which republic? It gained its independence from Portugal in 1975, has a population of around half a million, and is situated around 600 kilometres from the coast of West Africa.
Question: 3
What name is that of an Arian Christian Germanic people who maintained a North African kingdom in the 5th and 6th centuries and who, under their king Gaiseric, sacked Rome in 455?
Have a good weekend if I haven't given you a headache?! 🤕
Is there any possibility that these posts could be done daily rather than weekly as they’re very difficult to keep track of when running over numerous days on a scale such as this?
Could we nominate a few trusted forum members to carry out the work so it’s not taking moderators away from their main purpose?
It is strange you have posted this as I have been thinking today this is just not suited for someone like me and I am very much struggling with it as well as not feeling a part of it or that I belong on this post and I was going to let people know I will have to step away for those reasons as well as finding it to overwhelming for me to deal with daily it needs reasonable adjustments for me to cope but not to worry I will just leave rather than feel the odd bod as always x
I sincerely hope that you reconsider, I’m sure there are avenues to explore and we can find a solution for everyone 🤞🏼🤞🏼 please stick with me, I’m trying to find something that I can propose that might be likely to be a greater success.
I'm still receiving the serious stuff posts in the daily digest email which I can respond to. I think this post was set up for the trivial banter to avoid it getting mixed up with the serious questions - I'm enjoying it to be honest, it brightens my day. 😃 Carol
Just to let you know I am unfollowing this post and won't be coming on it
One reason is it is to busy for me and I feel I do not fit in
Second people are still moaning and to be honest I just cannot do with it I am sick to the teeth of it all in fact after I have unfollowed this post I shall spend the next few days assessing how much good this forum does me compared to how much I try and fit in and support people where I can which I think I have done my fair share of supporting where I can since been on here
So carry on and enjoy but thought I would say what I was doing as I would not want anyone to think I was been rude as I would not want that
You do so much good on this forum, BeKind and you'll be sadly missed if you decide to leave. You always take the time to reply to so many people who are worried or concerned and your posts are some of the most supportive and empathic I've ever read. xox
I'm sorry some of the replies on this thread have upset you, Hidden , but I agree with Cee-Cee1 . Doing what is right for you, though, needs to take priority here.
Be Kind we will miss you very much! You are always so kind and supportive. I do agree that this stream is so much more difficult to follow than the shorter posts. There are just too many conversations going on & it gets confusing to review them.
Please take care and good luck with hospital on Thursday.
I always do a fact of the day for my students, I'm missing it. I used to do it in the group but it got reported for being off topic so I figured I could post it on here.
Hello Valentina. I have always (even as a child) been interested in broadening my general knowledge. Now I have multiple health issues and can’t do very much physically it’s important to me that I exercise my mind.
it was beautiful in the north east yesterday but a bit cloudy today. Going to take the dog out for a walk before it rains. I haven’t seen TWU on here for a while, hope everything is ok.
Good Afternoon, Andy - hope you're well and the blood pressure's behaving itself. We had the most glorious warm, sunny day yesterday here in NI 😲, and I spent most of it in the back garden examining the weeds - I didn't pull any out 'cos the bees love'em (that's my excuse anyway😇). It's back to the usual form today - still bright but with a 'hint' of rain! 😁
Have you ever tried those wee probiotic drinks, Anne - Yakult or similar? I have diverticular disease and they're the only things that help when it flares up or I have indigestion. Might be worth a try.
Has anyone read this story today about Kevin Sinfield and his friend Rob Burrow who suffers from MND. It would break your heart but it's just an inspirational happy tale - I'm sat here with the tears tripping me after reading it. If anyone deserves a Knighthood, it's this guy, rather than failed politicians or so called 'celebrities' - he's raised over £8 million for MND charities as well:
I know it's fantastic what Kevin has done for the charity. It's such an awful disease 😞 Did you watch the documentary on BBC 1? Its so sad how quickly it took hold of Rob. He looks unrecognisable.
No - I didn't see it, Sylvester - this was the first thing I'd read about either of them - and what a story! Hopefully the documentary will be repeated and I'll make sure to watch it. MND is just a disease horrible...... Carol
They both played for Leeds RL. 🏈 Really good players and very good friends. You were up early today. I just got woken up by a skip being delivered then the sound of concrete slabs being chucked in it 🥱
I definitely think he deserves a knighthood, Sylvester - what an amazing man! If I knew how to start a petition, I would recommend it! (I've always been one of those boring people who wakes up at the first hint of dawn - mind you I'm also snoozing in my chair at 10pm these days! 😂). Don't fancy the idea of being shaken awake by a skip delivery! 😱
Well, Andy, it seems you were right to doubt my 'Summer in Glasgow' announcement yesterday! Dreich this morning, overcast and a chilly breeze all afternoon, and the sun finally came out at 5.30pm. Huh. ☀️
what about anyone who has accidentally or for a dare shaved an eyebrow off? What about people who don’t have any facial hair ( remember the swimmer Duncan something)?
Thank you, Tos - haven't decided what to cook yet - but it'll be a lot! (I'm really hungry tonight for some reason - must have been all that hard work today😁!)
Good Luck with it, Tos, I don't know how anyone does it! I've never had to diet (skinny minnie), but I've been trying to eat a lot more healthier food. Walking past the home bakery when I go to get the newspaper on a Saturday morning drives me nuts with the smell of gorgeous home-made sausage rolls wafting out - I've resisted..........so far! 🤣And there's another branch of the same bakery next door to the chemist where I collect my prescription!😧
not a clue I’m joined to my phone (recycled teenager) it’s my security blanket I get a notification on my home page telling me I’ve got new mail i excitedly look and can never find it or I click and get all old repeats just like the Tv!!!! The weather is good down here in the south I’ve got a spare single room if you want to get away from the rain 🤗
I have also noticed lately, when I click on a post in this thread, it takes me to two or three different posts on the thread before jamming and having to refresh it. I think the replies have outgrown this thread and perhaps, it’s time to start another one soon.
Surprisingly, I have sun where I am today. I did go for a walk in it earlier today, so that was nice. I shall keep the offer in mind for the next rainy I have - thank you ☺️
This is becoming silly now......was it one of my answers? I always rabble and go off subject, but hay that's me, my answers are written with concern and given with love x
I wouldn’t have a clue whose response led to the closing of the thread. All responses to the OPs question seemed reasonable and appropriate to me. But clearly someone’s response was considered as breaking the rules.
I have read your responses to forum members questions. I have personally, never considered them inappropriate in any way x
Oh, that just looks gorgeous, Anne - thank you for posting. My friend had a 2CV years ago and I remember looking at the log book when she bought it and the colours were detailed as "midnight blue & custard". It was a lovely wee thing, but not too reliable unfortunately!
That happened to my friend when we were out for a drive in a Mini years ago - she was sitting in the back seat and the subframe came up through the boot when we drove over a bump! 🤣😆 Ah - the good old days of rustbuckets! 😂
Still flippin' are, Andy - except they call them 'traffic calming' humps now! 😜There's even a red traffic warning sign with 'Humps Ahead' detailed below it - always make😆 me laugh when I see them!
I think you need to complain if someone's really bugging you via responses on the forum Annefrom,oz! Also i hope that you are feeling better.
Lets take away the fact the TWU post might or might not have been acceptable and get to the point that you were one of the main members on here that objected to off topic posts on the main Community and people having a laugh
Yet since this post has been put on here so members like you who objected and wanted these kind of conversations away from the main forum which has been done you seem to have showed great interest in it
You have made more comments winding people up till they lose their temper with you on this post than you have been supporting people on the main forum which is full of members needing support and advice where I think they would appreciate your input unlike on here where no one wants it
So if you are going to report TWU because of his reply which you baited him till you got what you wanted then I shall report your comments as been unacceptable on a post which is meant for light hearted chats and laughter of you know what laughter is that is or do you just know how to be a person that wants to stir up trouble and then go pressing your little report button
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Now this post is for light hearted chat and fun and laughter and if you keep insisting on coming on and not sticking by the rules of this post
Guess what
You will be the first one I press my report button on and run to teacher !
Yes I do believe in been kind to everyone as you never know what issues they may have but you had to be a exception because you are just nasty and I hope whatever your problems are you get help with them soon
Now trot on you are not welcome if you are not going to join in with the nature of why this post is on here !
well said, why have people got to be so unkind I’m having an awful time again today and can’t stand this, I keep my phone on for some company but am going to switch it off as it’s so upsetting I need friends
I am not having it good either and t is going to be one awful week for me no doubt so I agree we do not need upset from people on this post that obviously just want to come on and try and cause it
I really wish they would’ve created a separate forum, instead of this thread where a lot of upset may have been avoided. I hope this thread is not the downfall of the BHF community forum. I for one, do post questions related to my specific heart condition every once in a while and I find that it’s beneficial due to the fact that my heart condition is niche and there is not a lot of support or information out there for me.
I hope this will all be resolved soon x
Read my reply again
Where did I actually say TWU was right please get your facts right before you reply
I said if it was right OR wrong and then I went on to how I felt about your behaviour and yours alone
Now please stop this as it is unacceptable and stopped been obsessed with TWU because that is how it is starting to come across this subject has already run out of steam you do not need to keep trying to add fuel to it or do you ?
Do you accept suggestions ?
Do not look on this post as you always said quite vocally you do not like these kinds of posts so do yourself a favour and give your attention to those that will appreciate it because it is obvious to someone even with my issues that it is not appreciated on here
Hello
I am not usually this way but again I am human to and keep pushing and pushing and lets be honest he can try the patience of a Saint that one I will speak out x
Thank you
I hope you are a man of his word and if you are then it will be very much appreciated
Read the intro for this post and what it is here for and it has not been put on for this
Other than that to be honest you are seriously not worth the energy to reply to you are no one to me and never will be so I really do not care about your opinion or what you have to say
It looks like the moderators will have their hands full tomorrow morning with all the reporting going on tonight 🤣. Let’s hope they listen and perhaps set up that separate forum x
Honestly, this thread has had more bad/upsetting comments on it than some of the most popular social media pages I’m on like Instagram and Facebook. Unfortunately, people don’t know where to draw the line and I suppose one of the most easiest things to do is to sit on these forums and type away without taking any accountability.
Bullying you please come on and stop been silly
You just replied and agreed to leave this be just a few minutes ago and now you are back again well you will have to talk to yourself because I have got something better to do now than read this rubbish !
I could say it equals something else but better not x
I suspect that the moderators will take into account all sides of opinions and statements made on here tonight and hopefully, find a peaceful, respectful, and fair way forward for all members to get the best use out of this forum.
I’m not one of the gang I don’t join in the chat but I read everyone’s useful posts and comments and agree with everything being said but if I don’t I move on. The only one I see that never has anything useful to say or give any advice round and bulling people here is you, why is that? These poor people and myself have to suffer everyday because of health issues and other things going on they don’t need you causing crap.
Sorry I can’t advise you with whatever issues you got going on in your head but I can tell you if acting this way in the real world you’d be lucky to still be standing.
I have read all the reply’s but it’s been awhile now so just put it behind you and move on, doesn’t need to keep being dragged up every time he comments on something. Ruining everyone’s time away from whatever they got going on.
Hello
Well I have had a couple disagree with your statement tonight and this is something I would avoid at all costs but there comes a time even people like me can only take so much and to be honest I can see and now I might get some more for saying this why you snapped
Talk about a dog with a bone saying springs to mind as seems some are reminding me of that at the moment
Nice to see your reply and now I might get accused of been in your fan club but I could think of worse one's to be in x
I have noticed that the heart stars do not comment on this thread very much. This could be ignorance on my part but do they not have a role to play when there are disagreements on the forum, or is that the role of the moderators only to intervene?
The role basically is to help maybe newcomers but they have no power more than we do as members and can report things like we can to if we wish
To be honest personally I cannot blame them for not coming on and getting in the middle of all this which should never have happened as this post was put here because of complaints of chatting and laughter for those to enjoy it x
I think everyone here now understands your opinion about what TWU has had to say in his posts. So maybe it's time to drop the subject, certainly in this thread which is for a particular purpose.
Perhaps messaging the moderators privately with your views would be a plan, but good luck with that.
oh how sad it all is, I just need friendly chat to help me through the day, anyone got some happy chats, holidays , happy families, funny pets story’s from your daily exercise outings. Then across to the other sites for the important serious stuff, please
Anne
I was feeling this way yesterday but then as the day went on I thought why let a few win because they don't like something that many do so thought no I won't let them and I hope you don't either x
I am here to check on folk's progress and for a bit of light hearted leg pulling to counter act some of the crap that life throws our way. I am truly sorry for those who don't see the importance of that. I look forward to another reminder of what happened on this day in history, how you're doing in the gym, whether that walk today helped you, what you're struggling with...
Feeling sad the King of Dad jokes has decided to retire and on the week when I could have done with the crap jokes the most as well as we are going to try and get an agoraphobic out the House Thursday to the Hospital which will be a challenge
But the Sun is out I love my garden and looking at the weather I think it is time to get that patio table out today I am stuck in all winter so will be nice to sit out even if just in my garden
Hi BKWe'll do our best with the bad jokes but I don't think we'll get up (down) to the standard set for us.
Also out in the garden, the sun is in and out here. I'm a bit breathless and weak today. My program is to potter around for 30 minutes then strictly sit down for 15 minutes. When I was young and fit we called it interval training. Today it's more like interval trying.
I'll be thinking about you on Thursday. I understand how very hard it'll be for you going to the hospital and will be sending every best wish to give you strength to get through it all. Carol xox
Well the passed few weeks have been worse than usual so not as much as I'd like. I do try and push myself to go 2 or 3 times a week as for me it helps with the fatigue! Even though it's so hard to get out the house, once I'm there I'm fine.I've been so out of breath lately so it is a challenge ha. Although gp rung yesterday saying my bloods were abnormal so need to see her. I'm pretty sure sure I'm just anaemic again so a few months on iron I'll feel better.
I sometimes struggle to describe how I feel. Today I think weak is the right word. It seems that the heart can't work efficiently/ effectively. I think inefficiently is the right description. However I'm sure you're right about making yourself do something, but these days it's necessary to be as strict about rest as well.
Thanks you've helped me get my thoughts straight. Quite an accomplishment. 👍
I am sorry to read this no one could tell a crap joke better than you and it is very sad that for those that struggle take things so serious and your crap jokes would just give them a little relief as well as the banter a few have pushed and pushed till you feel you no longer want to continue been you on here with your skill of picking people up when they feel so down
The Sun is out here and I won't let anything spoil that even if they have got what they want and spoilt this x
1943 Operation Chastise: No. 617 Squadron RAF begins the famous Dambusters Raid, bombing the Möhne and Eder dams in the Ruhr valley with bouncing bombs
There are more WW2 things for today but that is more on the grim side. I'm sure my students would find it fascinating but I'm weary of offending or upsetting anyone.
Thanks for the memory from history. Here we remember the end of the 2nd world war on the 8th May each year, marking the liberation of Prague. The Americans stopped after liberating Plzen in the west. It is one of the ironies of history that they didn't continue to Prague; things could have worked out differently for this country. My father-in-law (RIP) did his military service in Plzen in the 1950s and it was forbidden to say that the Americans liberated the city.
Sorry if that's off topic, but sometimes it's important not to forget these things.
Yes. I only picked up on the fact that she left after seeing V’s post on the main forum. I still can’t believe the moderation team have not come forward yet. What is going on?!
I can't believe it either, Yumz - BK was a REAL asset to this community with nothing but empathy and kindness for everyone. Such a sweet person and such a shame that they've left us. I'm keeping my fingers crossed that they might decide to come back at some stage. Carol x
I think the first post I ever read here before I joined the forum was a post BeKind had written reassuring a worried someone. It encouraged me to join as her reply was so lovely. 💔
I've been there Andy - it was heartbreaking. Bought one book and read it as I walked around and then bought another with a lot more in it. A place I'll never forget.
Have also been to Auschwitz twice. plus loads of other places connected to WW2.
It was and there was a sign as we walked in saying something like 'Quiet Please'. It made me want to cry. Also the pram in the church, where so many people old and young had been killed.
One woman climbed out of the church window and hid in rows of peas in a garden, according to the book I read. A lot of people were shot and their bodies burnt, others were dropped into a well. So very sad, but we and Americans also did dreadful things which aren't talked about. I remember going to a museum in Northern France and seeing all the dear old ex soldiers proudly standing in their blazers and hats. I was encouraged to speak to one and approached him to ask about his experiences. His first words, totally shocked me, he said, "They called us the butchers, we left no one alive." Wasn't at all what I expected to hear.
I'm wanting to re-read the Oradour-Sur-Glane books again now. Was many years ago that I went there and it was a beautiful sunny day. Ah I've just read that one woman and five men escaped the carnage. I'm going to send you a private link to something you may not know about.
I'm really glad you're staying, Andy - why let a few gurny trolls get the upper hand and push us all away! (ps - If you happen to be in touch with BK will you let them know they're in my thoughts, especially for Thursday please? I don't know how to private message them myself).
I’m so confused. The moderators are able to take your post down as someone has reported it, but have they not seen the mayhem on this thread and the reports that were made on it last night? Is no action going to be taken on that?
Did you receive an email to say your post had been reported and why?
I feel like the more I try to understand it, the only conclusion it leads me to is that there is perhaps, some impartiality or bias involved, in the way in which these forums are moderated. Unless they are extremely understaffed, and I imagine the job of a moderator is probably challenging in itself, maybe some reports get picked up on and others don’t? Gives me a headache trying to understand it all. I think I had better stopped trying to understand it now.
once again I don’t know what’s happened when I get a notification I click on see reply and the whole thing dissapears and I get Amy’s original letter about the thread she put on
I think I might have to give up! I so want to be part of this but am getting really stressed about it all as I just cannot understand what I’m doing is wrong !I am a technophobe and to bloomin old 😩
I have something similar. Maybe it's my phone or our internet connection but it can take ages to get from the feed or alert to the relevant message on here now that the thread is so long. It seems better for me if I use my laptop. "But get here I shall" (he says in his best Winston Churchill impression)
Yes, I remember something like that. I think a German general, or someone of high German status had recently been killed and they thought (wrongly I believe) that some people in Oradour were behind it.
I'm really glad you're staying, Andy - it would be a such a shame to allow a few trolls to push us all away. (ps If you happen to be in touch with BK will you let them know that I'll miss them, and will be thinking about them on Thursday with the hospital visit - I don't know how to contact them privately.)
How interesting that they’ve had time to take down two posts today, yet not a peep from them on this thread where their time could’ve perhaps been used more wisely 🤔 It’s like we have to beg for clarification.
Also, I’m sorry that you’ve been reported again. It seems like this is trending at the moment. I might be next.. who knows.
Anyone know when the new thread is supposed to start? I thought a new thread would be started every week, but I can’t remember what day in the week this was set up.
EDIT: never mind, it’ll be a week tomorrow. Feels like it’s already been a year on here 🤣
Indeed. I assume if a post is removed because of bad language, then the email would say it’s been removed due to “offensive language”. I wonder if a BOT would be capable of recognising and tailoring such emails based on the breach of the post 🤔
I’m confused why some posts appear “off topic” and yet others such as pictures of flowers or queries about holiday insurance appear to be considered ok. I don’t mind the off topic posts at all, I’m just struggling to differentiate between what’s ok and what’s not. If the BHF wants to enforce its rules surely they should be applied equally. Xx
I included a photo of flowers in some of my posts, but realised this afternoon that I had posted in the wrong place. Have since apologised and will not be making the same mistake again! I am fairly new on this forum and do not want to contribute to the present mayhem.
hi. I thought the picture that you posted was lovely and did no harm whatsoever on the forum. I just don’t understand how they differentiate between what’s considered on /off topic.
Thank you and everyone for your support, I made a mistake by posting in the wrong place. Didn’t realise it would generate such interest. Not sure anyone can go through life without making a mistake or two. 🤷♀️
it’s better to let her decide if and when to get into contact, she knows most of us care about her well being and will support her whenever it’s needed. I suffer from severe anxiety and depression so I know what it’s like and I have nobody to turn to, but she has a loving family who will help her please be patient xx
Thank you for your response. The moderators at BHF appear to be struggling with it given their inconsistent approach towards enforcing their own rules. Unfortunately this has created a climate where people feel they are being unfairly treated. It’s not difficult to see why.
I see pictures of flowers being very much on topic as it is scientifically proven to Lift The Moods Of Patients. Generate Happiness In People's Mind (obviously not yours). That’s just a few examples the list goes on and on. Also flowers used to be taken into hospitals for patients, so why can’t they be on here instead?
Believe it or not, I actually trained as a classical pianist with a private tutor for 16 or 17 years, starting at the age of 5. I still can't listen to the William Tell Overture without thinking of the Lone Ranger!! 😂😆😀
I didn't say it was you. In fact I'm pretty sure I didn't name anyone. So I don't have to apologize to you. No you haven't made any personal comments to me, and nor have I about you. As I'll make it quite clear my comment wasn't aimed at anyone in particular.
I will however apologise to anyone who took offence, to my message about enjoying some pretty flowers.
Don’t matter where it’s posted, not doing any harm it’s all good, helpful and mindful. It’s not up to you to decide who posts what where and to say what posts should be deleted and what shouldn’t.
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