As so many ask about my Mum I thought I'll tell you a bit about her Esmeralda (Esme) Diaz was born in Seville Spain on 4th October 1955. She was the only child of Sofia and José and had a fairly happy childhood, In the summer of 73, When she was 18 a group of lads came over from Scotland and she first made eye contact with Duncan (my Dad) she fell in love instantly but like all good summer romance's it ended, they become penpals and just before she turned 20 she moved to Newcastle upon Tyne as Duncan had relocated there from Glasgow. A month after she turned 21 they were married.
They had a happy life and she got a job in Woolworths but they couldn't get pregnant, at the age of 42 Esme had almost given up the idea of ever having children, but one morning she woke up feeling different, she knew. She called Duncan up at work too tell him she was pregnant!! On Valentine's day 98 she found out she was having a girl. In the August I was born.
I had a great childhood I didn't even notice that my parents were older than my friends.
Unfortunately just 10 years later the cracks started to appear in their relationship Mum had left her job to bring me up and was missing Spain, we'd go for holidays and she always wanted to stay, when I was around 13 the spilt you and Mum moved back to Seville and I went with her, now being a stroppy teenager like all good teenagers I was a nightmare and although I liked husband number 2 I missed England and my Dad number 2 lasted just a year as he died then came number 3 I hated him, I took that as my excuse to move back to England while they were married and I never met number 4. In 2019 I was living in Oxford and Dad came to visit me as he'd retired as a history teacher (head of department) I hadn't seen or spoken to Mum in a few years and he convinced me to see her so she came over. Now something happened between them don't ask me what but shortly after Mum and Dad had found a place to rent together in Oxford, and through that me and Mum started getting on again.
Dad was 2 years older than Mum and had himself had a few health issue including a few stents and a couple of strokes and TIA's as well as being Type 1 diabetic.
Christmas 2019 Dad asked if she wanted to marry him again, she said yes and went busy into planning the wedding for May 2021 then lockdowns happened. In December 2020 Dad caught a virus that won't be named and unfortunately he passed away.
May 2021 came and Mum legally changed her name to Dad's surname again. Saying Dad was the only man she truly loved.
Thanks for reading 😁
V x
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That was like reading a love story novel and I really enjoyed it
The ending just like you I wished I could have changed but the not to be mentioned my ex Husband also died to early due to it
I love how Esme changed her surname to your Dad's and I love how your Dad brought you and Esme back together and a good job he did as even though you were Daddy's little girl I think your Mum has been your rock especially through these health issues you have had and I think you would have been so much worse of if you were not talking and back in each others life's so well done Duncan and Esme we all know you and ask after you on here as much as we do your Daughter
Keep bossing her about and making her do as she should after all she is strong minded like you so only you can
What a beautiful story, romance, love and sadness. Your dads heart issues might be inherited by you. I think I inherited mine from my dad and his side of the family too. Esmeralda (Esme) what a beautiful name. Now I know why you were named Valentina, lovely.
Such a lovely story, a rollercoaster of emotions. My mum was nearly 44 when she had me - though I’m the ‘baby of the family’, with her having three then a ten year gap. I think she was quite relaxed compared to some friend’s mums. Must have been all the practice!
Thank you for this lovely little story of your family. Your Mum, and yourself have had a colourful life and it is such a good thing that you are now together. Your Dad obviously wanted that for you. There is a reason for everything. Take care of her, as she is doing for you. You need each other more than you probably realise. Make some happy memories together. X
What a lovely story but I’m so sorry about the loss of your dad. Thanks for sharing it. My mum was 43 when she had me and I’m the baby of the family by 11 years. She always said that I kept her young xx
V what a family history indeed, it has everything (good and sad), I am really glad you get along with your mum now and that hopefully you will be there for each other in the future.
My first trip to Spain was in 75, I was 8 and still remember parts of it now.
Sounds like the story out of a movie. Surely cannot have been easy for you to live in that movie at times but what a great love story your parents had! Your mum sounds like a very passionate woman, like you’d expect from a Spanish or Italian!.
I’m italian and there has been some drama in my love life too 😋
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