Becca

[Rebecca1974]

Hi I'm new to this, please be kind. I just wanted to speak to people who are going through the same. I'm caring for someone that has had a cardiac arrest and now has dementia and I'm struggling to cope

[Hidden]

Hi Rebecca,When you say you are caring for someone, is this a family member or a client you work with? If its a family member is the person living with you?

Sorry for the questions, but it might help if we knew a wee bit more about your circumstances.

[Rebecca1974 in reply to Hidden]

I'm caring for my partner and he is living with me.

[Hidden in reply to Rebecca1974]

All my best wishes go to you Rebecca. Please don't feel.you are a burden. I'm sure you are not. Take all rhe support and help you can from friends and family and also any respite or breaks too. Try, if you can, to take some time for yourself too. Take care and God bless. X

[RufusScamp]

Love and best wishes. Either on its own would be difficult, but to have both just sounds so unfair. I've cared for a relative with dementia, the cruellest of conditions, as the person you have known is stolen slowly from you, and another with a heart problem, but not both. I hope you have some practical support as well as our good wishes.

[Rebecca1974 in reply to RufusScamp]

I'm getting support from friends and family. But at times I feel a burden

[RufusScamp in reply to Rebecca1974]

They are supporting you now. Perhaps in the future, you will need to support them. It's good that you have your family and friends to help.

[JimIOW]

Hi Rebecca, it may not be much but Ruby and I send our most heartfelt wishes to you, we are so sorry for you. You are not a burden to anyone, this is an awful thing you are going through and I hope you get some help and possibly some respite from it all. You should also contact your GP and local social services as there is additional support for you. There is information on the British Heart Foundation web site in article called living with dementia. Our thoughts are with you.

[AJCA]

Hi Becca. It's a tough ride! Check out Mobilise. A great network for carers like us mobiliseonline.co.uk/

[Tay99]

Hi Rebecca oh bless you it is so difficult looking after a loved one with dementia l did it with mom who passed last xmas l had her with me in an annexe on side of house l had live in carers in the end to help because l was physically and mentally exhausted social services were very helpfull to you need to get all the help you can because boy it can become so overwhelming at times and you must take care of yourself to.best wishes

[MelB51]

That sounds so awful for you. They can do great things about heart problems these days as people on this forum will testify to but dementia is a very cruel thing for everyone involved. Get as much help as you can and know you are not alone.

[benjijen]

I was my mother's carer for about 3 years until she died in January. It was the dementia which I found most difficult to deal with. It made her very stubborn and there was no point in trying to correct her. She also would hardly eat and became very thin and weak. It really affects your health so you need to take care of yourself. Try to get your partner into some respite home for a couple of weeks or maybe a carer to come in for a couple of hours a week so you can get out. Take care x