Pda anxiety

[LonerIP]

Im chase and im 21 years old i have extreme anxiety , i had a pda birth defect when i was 4 years old and my grandma told me when i was 18 since 19 ive been in the house almost everyday i stopped playing basketball , i stop going out because i cant stop my mind from thinking it was a serious problem every doctor i went to for it said its normal for babies to have the defect and its no problem but my anxiety always overrules and gets the best of me ive called the ambulance about 30 times this yr for panic attacks , i just wanna know is this serious for reassurance???

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I’ve replied to your identical post over on the BLF forum.

[Calliope153]

SO sorry you are still suffering anxiety Chase. Honestly I can;t think of anything else to add to all the replies you have had when you posted the same thing under your 3 (I am aware of) other names on this forum. I hope someone will be able to offer you something new in the way of advice - all your doctors have told you that it is common for babies to have this and it is corrected by surgery. Please, please try to believe them.

[Calliope153 in reply to Calliope153]

should have added that the top two related posts on the right hand side are both your earlier posts. Re reading them might be helpful to you.

[LonerIP in reply to Calliope153]

Okay and its just hard to trust doctors and ive made it hardee by crying wolf so much

[IrisCarter]

The problem with this type of anxiety is that the more you are reassured the more anxious you become. Reassurance is positive reinforcement for the anxious behaviour and thoughts.

The only way that you will get better is to have a course of Cognitive Behavioural Therapy. Ordinarily I would suggest distraction everytime you have a thought, but I think your situation has gone beyond that.

Assuming that you are in the UK, you need to see your G.P. and ask for a referral to the clinical psychology service or refer yourself to IAPS. Here is some information about the latter: england.nhs.uk/mental-healt...

Best wishes

[Rosie78]

Hi chase what is a pda defect?

[LonerIP in reply to Rosie78]

Patent ductus aertoriosis

[Rosie78]

well i had a quick google and even though they have reassured you at the GP . i think it is hardly surprising this gave you a fright! you have been going along quite healthily and happily and now your gran has told you something ( that even though is ok now) you never even knew about yourself.

hardly a mental health condition but a perfectly understandable response

The best thing is instead of reading the internet is ask the doctor what they did to fix the condition and maybe ask for your notes (medical) so you can see what was done to sort or fix it. Quite often when we get frightened about something its because the other person has not been bothered to explain what is going on!

[LonerIP in reply to Rosie78]

Yes i just want to talk to a expert and ask how was it done i knew about it when i was around 15 to 16 but once i developed anxiety it makes me go into panic modes

[Rosie78]

Exactly. It is very easy for people when someone has anxiety to be dismissive and critical but actually under anxiety is always a psychological need that is not being met. In your case to understand what happened with your body and why? And what was done to make it okay. This is normal and understandable and does not make you a mentally ill person. As someone who had severe mental illness ( I was suffering from a personal thing) when a mental health nurse actually after 20 years bothered to see me and not my mental illness and gain my trust I told her what was going on and got help.

This then was a swift recovery no medications and all because someone bothered to care to ask and not say i was lazy weak etc!

Yes get your notes which if you are in the uk you are able to ask for.

If they are being disrespectful because you are a young adult or being a knob because you are anxious get a trusted person ( mind ) charity would be very happy for you to take an advocate ( you do not need a mental health diagnosis to use their services or have referral from your GP) just ring your local centre they can send a trusted person to go to the surgery with you and get those medical notes.

When you have them as the surgery is being very unhelpful ring the local private health for your area ( an advocate from Mind can help you with that to) i suggest a one off private appointment with a cardiologist who can explain your medical stuff to you) this will cost between £150 -250

Hopefully you could possibly afford that? Or take the advocate to the GP as you will find they will be more polite with an advocate from Mind or maybe a trusted friend sat with you. You will need to book a double appointment for that. If they don't help change your GP surgery ( you are perfectly entitled to do that) really 15 or 20 minutes of their time properly and respectfully explaining to you would really release this worry.

I assume not playing the basketball is because you think it will harm your heart? well that can be explained.

At this early stage I would not jump on the mental health through GP wagon as these are the types of step i would recommend first.

I am a great supporter of mental health services and medication ( i help with research from a patient perspective with Bipolar ) and raise awareness for MIND I also have used self help group and psychology services but it is always sensible to look at things logically and do steps first like I have suggested and maybe after consider self help steps for anxiety. You can always call 'on the big guns' after if these steps do not work but certainly not the very first step you need to do.

Remember other peoples opinions will be based on their own lived experience, it will be based on their upbringing and their own family networks etc values etc. So won't necessarily be right for you.

As indeed you may not agree with my opinion or suggestions which is perfectly ok.

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[Rosie78 in reply to Rosie78]

I see that you are on a long waiting list for psychology services, so that gives time for these other things to work first and then after the psychology if it is still needed. Psychology support does not really follow the mental health diagnosis they think of it more as normal behaviours on a continuum with us all being on the line somewhere with behaviours.