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Normally I’m so happy - he’s my best mate in the world. For the first time ever I’m genuinely scared to see him and all his stuff.

Seems very unlikely he dodged it down there surrounded by teens / twenties who probably haven’t been very careful.

I’m imagining germs / viruses coming home with him. Going to be very mixed feelings and I’m embarrassed / ashamed to admit it.

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Chappychap

I'm very sympathetic to the point you make, that many households have constituent members with starkly different priorities, however I'm not sure I agree with the statement,

"Seems very unlikely he dodged it"

Right now the statistics are pretty clear, even if you multiply the official numbers by ten, twenty or even a hundred, then as of today it's still very unlikely that he personally has it.

I guess the bigger test though will come in the next weeks or months. Anyone in their teens or twenties will find "house imprisonment" a terrible imposition, their biology and hormones are screaming for them to get outside and find a mate!

It's a really tough dilemma when, under the same roof, you have someone who is at high risk from the virus, and someone who is at hardly any risk at all. I'm sure your family will come together, but it's easy to see that, in the same way that Brexit tore some families apart, coronavirus could cause some terrible rifts.

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DavidG1971 in reply to Chappychap

He been back 1 hour and already bored.

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Chappychap in reply to DavidG1971

That's so funny!

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MilkfairyHeart Star

Hi DavidG1971

I have 3 adult children who have now all come home.

On their return they went straight for a shower and changed into clean clothes. I didn't go near their stuff.

One son cannot see his girlfriend for 2 weeks as her household is self isolating. He's taken it quite well.

They are washing their hands etc and they will be going to the shops to do the shopping.

I actually feel much more settled with them all being at home. The only problem the banter between them all and their dad is constant .....the household is very noisy and I am the smallest at 5' 8"😳

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DavidG1971 in reply to Milkfairy

Mines not driven since he passed his test - so can’t even use him for shopping. He’s home and although I’m very uneasy ...still takes my mind of other things.

Milkfairy profile image
MilkfairyHeart Star in reply to DavidG1971

Perhaps sit down together as a family and go through the NHS advice about preventing the spread of the virus.

Have a family strategy that you can keep to.

nhs.uk/conditions/coronavir...

Keep your distance and no hugs....I for the first time didn't hug my returning children it was very sad.

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DavidG1971 in reply to Milkfairy

I know I couldn’t hold out - had to hug him. If he’s bought it to the house, chance of not passing it on is slim.

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cowparsley in reply to Milkfairy

Wow,lucky you Milkfairy,ahouse full of life and laughter.x

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MilkfairyHeart Star in reply to cowparsley

Yes I know they bring alot of joy into the house

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Qualipop in reply to Milkfairy

My son works at a Uni and lives off site. He is working at home but I worry for him. Haven't seen him since Christmas

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MilkfairyHeart Star in reply to Qualipop

You never stop worrying. It's in the job description of being a parent 😊

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Sunnie2day in reply to Milkfairy

My children didn't understand that until they had children of their own. Now they both get it. The oldest grandson just earned his driving license and my son told me he now understands why I used to say my least favourite question was 'Mum, can I borrow the car?'.

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