A very warm welcome to our new members <3

[chloe40]

We're so pleased you have joined us! You'll find all our members are a very friendly and supportive, so why not pop in and introduce yourself, it's good to have you with us.

Chloe

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[Dalipup]

Hello all. I do not have a current death however in the past ten years have lost both my parents, a friend from childhood who I considered my brother and my best friend died three years ago. Currently I am suffering bereavement over the loss of future with my husband. he was diagnosed almost two years ago with stage four prostate cancer and we are still in the battle to keep him around after one therapy after the next fails . My husband is only 64 and didn't plan to retire until 67, then we planned to travel. We have a 17 year old son who will graduate from high school at the end of May. All the hopes and dreams for our life without kids in school have disappeared with this diagnosis. We have been on a continuous roller coaster for almost two years, and each time we do anything fun or forward thinking, you get slammed with the thought that this time is probably the last. Most often we both realize that for any of us, today's trip to the store, could be the last and we need to live in the moment loving each other and appreciating all we have had through the years. But every now and then our reality slaps me in the face and breaks my heart. I know eventually when he is gone I will survive. I have a great support network, but at times it's just hard to let go of things we had hoped for.

Thanks to all who share their sorrow. It's good to know you are not alone.

[kenster1 Volunteer in reply to Dalipup]

hi welcome to you sorry about your losses and your husbands illness good to hear that you have support its the most important thing.god bless and take care.

[chloe40 Administrator in reply to Dalipup]

Hello there Dalipup

A very warm welcome to our Community.

It's a very sad situation and one I personally have been involved with so I know how difficult your situation is, the not knowing what will happen next.

Has you husband had brachytherapy? I do know that this has been successful but obviously it depends on the individual case.

One thing I am pleased about is the positive way you are both leading your lives and enjoying every experience you have together, saviour every one of them x

The fact that you have a strong support network is very good too.

We are a very supportive group here and will always be around whenever you want to drop in, so please do anytime Dalipup.

Sending love and {{{hugs}}}

Chloe

[Dalipup in reply to chloe40]

Hi Chloe,

Unfortunately my husband's cancer has metastasized throughout his body, mostly bones to this stage, but ribs, skull, shoulders etc., So many therapies are past benefit. Drugs that are giving many men years gave him only months. The roller coaster of a new therapy working for a short period then not working has truly not been a fun ride. we have found out this week he is down to some clinical trials or we can spend a fortune and get treatment in Germany which may extend his life for a couple extra months or maybe a year or so. Decisions are difficult and add to the mix the grief of looking at empty nest syndrome as my youngest graduates, which was hitting me even before the cancer diagnosis, and some days are tougher than others. Grateful to have my faith to fall back on and good support. And happy to have found this group. We are on the advanced prostate cancer group here as well and that has been a blessing as well.

[chloe40 Administrator in reply to Dalipup]

Hi Dalipup,

So sorry that your husband is in the advanced stages. I completely understand about the difficulties of making decisions at a time like this but I do hope that together you will find a way.

Your daughter graduating is clearly affecting you and I would try and see this as a separate concern entirely, there will ways you can get though this x

You may like or have started already a living memory book, of all the events, places and experiences you are sharing right now together, you'll find it a great comfort x

Glad to read you are with the advanced prostate group here on HU, the more support you have the better.

Chloe x

[Dalipup in reply to chloe40]

It is my son graduating and I am currently working on his scrapbook sweet memories! I also have kept a journal to him that I am typing up for his graduation. Thanks for your support!