Let's talk about grief and stress

[chloe40]

Stress seems to have gone hand in hand with my grief, everything I did was stressful for a very long time.

Did you find this and which areas stressed you the most.

Chloe

[Greyone]

I find thinking, writing or even writing about such things very strange.

Important I think is when grief starts. For me it was before my mother's dementia was formally diagnosed. The first attempt was a "no" and I may consider that is when my stress started. Stress is still there for me because my grief comes when it wants.

But stress is not on its own. There is also Anxiety. Has that affected anyone else?

[klr31]

Seeing dad suffer and not being able to help or save him, or do as much as I wanted to was stressful and adds to my grief. My whole journey since my mum died nearly 5 years ago has been stressful with regard to my dad. My grief has been held at bay a little due to that but I feel the time is coming when I will need to confront it head on.

Karen

[chloe40 Administrator in reply to klr31]

Hi Karen,

I'm sorry that you haven't been able to grieve fully for your dear Mum, you need to be able to express your grief but I fully understand that your concerns and worries about your Dad has held your emotions back.

5 years is a long time to suppress your feelings Karen and I do hope you find a way that you separate the two and grieve, not an easy thing to do <3

Chloe

[sunandbutterfly]

Stress is an understandable response to grief. As I was trying to cope with the tragic death of my 22 year old brother in law and dear friend, I also found out that my dog was dying. In addition, I was taking care of my grandparents and trying to work full time. The emotional stress was exhausting and made even small things seem like a chore. I believe that taking care of my grandparents and navigating family relationships was the most stressful for me.

I decided to see a counselor to help me to cope with the stress of this and other life events. In family relationships, it was difficult because of the verbal abuse suffered at the hands of my mom. Even though I drove hours every week to see my parents and sisters, they felt like I was not there when they were grieving. Things have improved greatly now, and I have found healing even though some grief is still there.

If anyone is grieving I would encourage you to reach out to a support system. If you need help with this or finding other resources, here are some good ones that may help:list.ly/list/2Eu7-a-guiding...