Hiv test

[Redcow]

So i am 16 and my bf is 19...I am a virgin but he is not in i know that he has had unprotected sex before and i asked him to get tested before we have sex and he said no and it kinda Hurt his ego... I really want him to get tested so any tips on that? If not are condom ls protection enough cuz i cant know if he is clear or not.

[selonuk]

If he refuses to get tested then refuse to have sex with him. Sorry to put this bluntly but his refusal to get tested shows that is willing to take risks or is hiding something and is not someone you should be going with, the only exception maybe if he can show you that he has been recently tested (at least in the last 3 months).

[markh57]

Unless your bf has had sex with someone from a high risk group (intravenous drug user or gay man) the chance of him catching HIV are pretty remote. However there are other STIs that don't cause symptoms that are more likely e.g. Chlamydia. So I think you are wise to ask him to get tested.

To give him the benefit of the doubt he may be nervous about going to the clinic even though he's older than you. Why don't you offer to go with him for some moral support?

Condoms do offer good protection against both HIV and Chlamydia

You might want to insist on condoms until he gets tested.

[exMan]

If I am asked to get checked out by my girl friend I will. But may be because I am older or because I really want to be with her. The truth is, you don’t want to start your sexual life with and STI. You might be considering the use of condom but in the heat of things, who knows you might even ask him to take it off!!! Then, here comes sorrow after mins of excitement.

[Galen70]

If you use a condom from the very start of sex ( no penetration without a condom ) then they are 100% effective. Did your boyfriend say why he didn't want to test ? also depending on where you live, HIV is unlikely in your age group, and chlamydia is much more likely ( 1 in 10 people in many European countries ) and that's just a pee test in men.