I myself know that my 9 year old has dyspraxia.She has an appt in 3 weeks with a peadeatrician for something else.

[crumbs]

Should I take her to her GP now or should I wait and mention it to the peadeatrician later.Im worried but don't want to bother the GP if I don't need to.Has anyone got any advice on wether I should take her now or wait? This is all new to me,thanks.on reading some stuff on this site,I'm now thinking she could have Asperges.What should I do? Please help.

[Springsong]

Which one are you happier talking to? Both GP & Paediatrician should be in contact/share notes over your child's health/welfare so it shouldn't really matter whom you choose to talk to first. I know with my 3.5yr old we started off talking our concerns through with our health visitor at a general health review, she then met up with us at home & outdoors to observe my child's behaviour in both environments before referring us to paediatrics who then made all the additional referrals (blood tests, hearing test, eye test, SALT, SENCAN, CADU, Occupational Therapy). It can be a daunting process with lots of questions to ask & lots of information to process so do ask for support where you need it (friends/family). Best wishes.

[ToniManifesto in reply to Springsong]

Crumbs & Springsong. As a Grand Dad of a 3 year old boy who I think is very mentally disturbed you should talk to anyone & everyone & all at the same time. My daughter asked me tonight to babysit my Grand son. But I'd already agreed to babysit my other daughter's little girl. My daughter wanted me to take both children but I had to refuse. I'm almost 62 years. The little boy is extremely difficult, very strong like a ten or 12 year old. I would fear that my grand daughter might get injured and I could not cope. My partner ask tonight why they could not take their son with them which was to a youth football match. It's just dawned on me from my experience as a youth worker that there would be scores of under 5's at an event like that! So my daughter & son-in-law KNOW my Grandson can't be controlled in public! Why are they giving him to me? At least Crumbs you are facing your problem. And trying to resolve your child's issues. My daughter & son - in - law are in almost extreme denial but still won't take my Grand Son out in public because they can't control him. And will not seek help from Paediatricians or Social workers. I hope you get sorted Crumbs. And best wishes to your little girl.

[Springsong in reply to ToniManifesto]

Toni, are your daughter & son-in-law afraid to ask for help (fear of having their little boy taken away from them if they are seen not to be 'coping' as his parents). At the initial mention of Social Services becoming involved my heart skipped beats with those very thoughts - 'What if they decide we're not doing the best for our child & place her into care?' alongside the thought 'What is best for getting her the help she needs?' It is only now I've gone through the process that I understand that the Disability/Learnning support Social Services are not the same people as the ones who deal with abuse/neglect.

It is a difficult one to approach but encourage your daughter to take her son out to various groups (Seeing her health visitor at baby/child weighing clinic, local support groups, nursery/pre-school) as the more he is out mixing with other children the more likely it is that any 'learning difficulties' or 'behaviour disorders' will be highlighted (by health visitor, nursery nurse, teacher....). I know I initially shyed away as I felt embarassed as a parent with an almost 'ferral' child kicking at me, screaming/shrieking as I tried to engage with her, pulling me, pushing me & biting me to achieve her goals so I tried where possible to be with a friend/family member who knew my daughter & could help when I needed to 'step back' (which does still happen). My daughter does 'blossom' when outside though & everybody notices the difference between a day where we've been out for an hour or two as opposed to the day stuck indoors. I do hope your daughter will see some benefits for her & her son too. Xx

[ToniManifesto in reply to Springsong]

Springsong my personal problem is my daughter not recognising that not being able to take my Grandchild out for a walk is abnormal. My Grand son is not abnormal. His parents are abnormal. Instead of taking him to a football match and having normal parental control & care, they give him to me!