Am worried as our gp has asked my mum... - Lung Conditions C...
Am worried as our gp has asked my mum amd me to go and see him about my dad ! he has end stage c.o.p.d. and vascular dementia ,heart failer
Of course you are worried
Try to ask the questions that might help your dad
Maybe he's not going to get better .... what are your choices for him?
What would be best for him?
Maybe hard times ahead for you all but there is no such thing as pointless knowledge... ASK ASK and ASK
Very very best wishes and strength for you and your mum
Bo xx
I would be worried too but you already know alot about your dad from what you have said and going to see his GP can only be a good thing in the way that you will be more knowledgable to help your dad in his time of need. Use this as an opportunity to ask as many questions as you want but don't be afraid to say if you are unsure of anything. Also, you may need extra help at home to help care for your dad when the time comes and your GP should be able to help.
I know from personal experience how hard it is so I speak from the heart and hope it's not as bad as you fear x
Hello child 
Like bolilly and tanyamarie I can see why you are anxious. Please give the British Lung Foudation a call tomorrow, their number is 03000 030 555. There are trained peope there who will help you form the questions you will need to ask your GP.
I hope you and your mum manage to get the support, both emotional and physical, that you will need for the days ahead.
xx
and .... keep on keeping on.
Good advice above. All I would suggest is to make a list in advance of everything you want to ask. It's so easy to forget when you are there. Also, write down the replies.
Lynne xx
Excellent advice above! I feel for you all. Tough times!
I really like the support that this site offers. Especially when they understand the problems
Thinking of you child x x x
Good advice from your friends above. Stay strong child. Will be thinking of you, your Mum and your Dad.
With love
C xxx
Thank you all ! you are so kind .well we went today and doc was lovely he talked about what he can do to help with dad as we get closer to the end . i think he was just makeing sure my mum and i understood just how ill dad is which we already did .i just find it so hard to see dad like this but i always try and stay upbeat and cheerfull with him and make him laugh and then have a good cry at home with my wonderfull husband and family . my main concern at min as well as dad is supporting my lovely mum who i am so proud of the way she cares for dad at 80 ! thanks again all xxx
sorry i could not answer before you went for i could have foretold you what you might of heard from the doctor and what he would be telling you. it is hard but you are fortune to have a good support. i have no children nor family and went threw this with my husband who past a away in jan at home aged 59. i wish i could cry,
please for you that your doc was lovely.
i am at the end stage,and now get regular visits from hospice nurse and copd nurse LOVELY people and such a help and comfort to me.ask your gp to contact these people on your behalf and NEVER give up best wishes
