I need all your healing vibes and heartfelt prayers at the moment! I mentioned last year that my eldest daughter, Dee, had been diagnosed with pancreatic cancer. She had her pancreas removed and has been on chemo every since.
At times, during last year ,she wasn’t to bad and could get out etc. She lives in Barrow in Furness and I last saw her in Morecambe for a day out last August. I treasure that day! Since then it has only been phone contact. She was taken into hospital last week, very poorly. Her husband is being allowed to stay with her. She was even too ill to wish me Happy Mothers day. She asked her husband to do it. Lockdown has made it worse because we haven’t been able to go and see her. They aren’t letting anyone in the hospital and I haven’t really been well enough to travel. I am willing to try it though when and if we are allowed to. My other daughters are willing to drive me there. Sorry but I feel so down today!
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So very sorry to hear this , and not surprised you are feeling down , of course sending healing thoughts and prayers to you and the family and also sending you strength to cope . Take care 🙏🙏
So sorry Aingeful, sending wellness thoughts for Dee and those of comfort for you and her husband and all concerned. 🙏
So Sorry for your Heartache Ange, It is a Truly sad Time for you, & all your Family. Fingers Crossed for Dee to Heal. Sending Gentle Hugs to You. XXX C.
Oh Aingeful I really feel for you, thats just awful for her, for you and the whole family. She's such a beautiful lady. Thinking of you my dear, with love. Massive hugs. P
So so sorry to hear this Aingeful, such a sad and awful situation to be in. I really feel for you, it is just heartbreaking. Sadly I found myself in a similar situation last May when my mum was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer.
With my mum in Stockholm, Sweden and me here in lockdown UK I tried desperately to find a safe way to travel over to see her. I turned to all of you in this group for help and advise and remember you telling about your beautiful daughter then.
Sadly it wasn't to be... my mum only survived another couple of weeks and I didn't make it over in time.
I talked to my mum on the phone every day until the last few days when it all became too hard for her, feeling constantly nauseous and so very tired that she was drifting in and out of consciousness. Those phone calls helped us along.
My mum only wanted me to be safe and not take any risks for her sake, she kept assuring me that it was safer and better for us all if I didn't travel. That I had to think of my own health and my own family......such a mum thing to say of course.
I cannot even imagine what it is like for you in the reverse situation, being the loving mum to a very sick daughter.
I so hope you can get there to meet your daughter once more but even if you can't, you can be sure she can feel all your love and care you have given her.
My thoughts are with you and your family. That you feel down is very understandable. With all that is going on I would be shocked if you felt any other way. I hope our heeling vibes reach you soon.
Don’t be sorry dear Aingeful. I’m sending lots of healing vibes and prayers for Dee. I truly hope you can get to see her as that’s what you want to do of course. Totally understandable.
Sending lots of love your way and to Dee and all the family. Bless you all.
What a totally soul destroying situation to be in. I cannot imagine being in the same position with my own daughter, how terrible. My heart goes out to you and your family.
I really hope you manage to see your beautiful daughter, loving thoughts a ND virtual hugs coming your way. My thoughts and prayers are with you all. Have a good day and take care 😊 Bernadette and Jack 🐕 xxxxxx
Sometimes one cannot help but wonder how some people seem to get everything life throws at them. I wish i could find the right words to comfort you Aingeful. But although a mother myself I cannot begin to try understand how you will be feeling. Stay strong by looking after yourself which will help you to cope during this agonising time.Sending you a gentle hug and my dearest wish that things will work out for you all.
So sorry you are in this dreadful situation. Sending you lots of love and hope you can find peace of mind. Thinking of Dee too and the rest of your family. Alberta
I'm so sorry to read what your daughter is going through and the effect it must be having on you too. It's so much worse that you can't get to see her so I pray that you'll be able to do that soon.
Don't apologise for feeling down. Our children are our children, whatever age they are, and that need to love and protect them never goes away. When we can't do it, it feels all wrong, doesn't it? For now you have to rely on others to let you know how she is and that's a hard thing to have to accept. Can her husband hold the phone close to her so that she can hear you speaking to her? Maybe just a few words of love from Mum will help.
Sending virtual hugs to you and your daughter. xx Moy❤️
So sorry to hear about your lovely daughter, I can’t imagine how awful it must be to be separated right now. I’m sure she knows how much you love her. Try to take care of yourself too and hang on in there. Thinking of you both and hoping you will soon get the chance to see her. xxx
Thanks once again. The latest update from her husband was that Dee is sleeping most of the time and is on IV antibiotics etc.They are allowing him to sleep by her bed.I'm not sleeping at the moment and am struggling to think of anything else. Keep those healthful vibes going!
The latest update is that my lovely Dee has been given two weeks to live. The hospital is allowing visitors and I hope that I can manage to travel up there to see her. As you can imagine ,the whole family is devastated.
Oh Dear Ange. I pray that you can Travel there to be with Your Beautiful Dee at this very Sad Time. Sending Heartfelt Love & gentle Hugs to You & all your Family. X. C.
I do hope you will be able to travel to see your lovely daughter and that it brings you both some comfort. I know we members don't know each other in a tangible way, but we mostly have a common bond of being parents and can understand the need to be able to be with our children in their hour of need. This is indeed such a cruel time with this lockdown and I can only wish you joy on being with her again xx
Dear Aingeful, I just read your update and it’s brought me to tears for you and your beautiful daughter. I pray that you can get to the hospital to spend some time with her! I don’t know what to say other than you are in my thoughts and prayers and I want to wrap you up in a big proper hug that offers comfort, support and love to you just now. Much love, ❤️Dee (the other one)
So sorry to hear your update. I hope you get to spend some precious time together. Beyond sad, just awful for any family to go through and this virus separating us all makes it even harder. Sending very best wishes to you all.
I am back from Barrow in Furness after being allowed to see Dee for five minutes or more. I went with my other daughters,my son in law drove us. I was able to hold her hand and tell her all the things in my heart. She knew I was there but could not speak.This awful disease has taken its toll on my beautiful daughter,it was so hard to bear .We all need to spend time with our loved ones and tell them how much they are loved. One day it may be too late.
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