I do get seriously fed-up to the back teeth sometimes...not often...just sometimes. When the sun is shining and I have to stay indoors 'cos I can't walk fast enough to keep warm...when I imagine nasty Father Vincent standing over my grave sprinkling Holy water and platitudes while I hammer on the coffin lid and bawl 'go away you horrible person' at him...he won't do any such thing of course with me being so long lapsed and following the Old Ways...but it's a recurring nightmare that he'll be there...
And if that daughter-in-law turns up, so help me I'll haunt her...she once came to visit...didn't like our cottage...didn't like Ireland...didn't like flying...didn't like the goats...didn't like the goats milk... she said she had something important to discuss so we sat down at the table obediently and she asked brightly...'Are you leaving the cottage to us?' I laughed. She was ever so cross...she said she needed to know so she could 'plan for the future'...my son just shuffled his feet. Himself went outside to talk to the donkeys...
She's never been back to visit.
My lovely daughter-in-law, who lives among the wolves and moose in Sweden and is mostly completely away with the fairies, said we should leave the cottage to the local cats home...she actually said quite a great deal more than that but it isn't suitable to be put down in print...
And I get fed-up with the kitchen cupboards 'cos I'm a bit OCD and when Himself puts tinned tomatoes next to a jar of jam I go all over peculiar...then I find a bag of lentils right at the back of the shelf and the use by date was three years ago...there was a little box of Christmas cake decorations lurking on the top shelf and I've not made a Christmas cake for at least ten years...
But I have to stand on a chair to get to the top shelves and I wobble about and the cupboard doors won't stay open and I puzzle over the cooking chocolate bars...I've never used cooking chocolate in my entire life.
And Himself uses Brillo pads to clean the oven pans and puts the washing up liquid away in the cupboard full of cleaning stuff and switches the washing machine off and pulls the plug out and never thinks to use a clean dish cloth or change the towel...and he drops the soap down behind the washing machine. So I get a bit fed-up over that as well.
And my feets get awfully cold, even when I wear socks and my purple slippers and the bathroom is much like walking into a freezer and the gas heater in there smells quite horrible and has all manner of warnings about ventilation so I sort of dither about opening the window and letting the frosty air in and I can't wear polo necked jumpers 'cos they make me itch...
That all makes me fed-up.
The consultant makes me a bit fed-up when she sighs about the weight I've lost like I'm some wayward teenager suffering from anorexia...she peers at me over her glasses and says she isn't happy and I want to say' you and me both, dear heart' but I don't 'cos she's a sort of important person with letters after her name, so I sort of shuffle about in my chair and say I'll try harder...
I do try not to be fed up when one of Himself's grandchildren leaves cryptic updates on Facebook until it dawns on us she's attention seeking yet again and is best ignored until such time she gets a grip of herself...
There was a time was I was bright and cheerful...perhaps it's the COPD which drags me down into the slough of despond...though it could just be the winter.
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oooooh what do you mean about following the 'Old Ways' that sounds interesting too
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Nothing exciting! But I'll write about it...
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thank you lass. I will look forward to that
Dear Vashti, I am probably not the only person here who can understand perfectly what you are saying! I think I suffer from similar OCD tendencies in the kitchen Maybe it is gender thing! Big hugs and hoping spring sunshine and some warmth are not too far away. Xris
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Spring is coming...just wish it would hurry up a bit...lol
I think we can put all this annoyance partly down to our condition,partly to annoying people and of course the winter weather,once the Sun shines both sides of the hedges we will feel so much better,and we can take more control of our problems, you can always write a letter saying exactly what and who you want when the times comes for you to shuffle ( your words) of this mortal earth, I do not like wakes,so have told my Sons I am not to have one,just thank whoever turns up,and that it is my wish.
Hope we all begin to see signs of Spring soon,it makes us all feel so much better.
Oh And I can just imagine the letter you would write,should you ever do so. Lol
The cupboard & dish washing solved, I very rarely go into the kitchen I used yo get het up so now apart from doing the laundry ( I won't give that up). Kitchen I'd a me free zone. I
Morning Vashti, Obviously you are ( were) having a Black Dog day. Hope by now it has passed, It amazes me that all you lovely people with breathing difficulties are so cheerful, I had never thought about breathing until I witnessed it at first hand, very distressing for you all. Very best wishes, Bulpit
Hi I Vashti, it's normal to feel down sometimes, and it makes us snappy with the person closest and who means the most, so that's another guilt trip. I try to compensate on my good days. Had a bad pain day yesterday, and restless night, so hungover today. and it's change the bed and washing day, that's going to be a struggle. Poor husband can't retreat to the garden this weather either! My appetite won't be good today but I'll make a meal I don't really want and do my best to eat it. but I can plan little escapes tomy iPad and enjoy the company of like minded people, thank goodness for that. It may be warmer next week, they say. Love I ris x
Oh dear - I recognize the 'black dog day' feeling; I think it is our condition and winter! But....... the sun is shining this morning and I can see the first patch of snow drops in my garden so will try and stay a bit
positive. Hope you find something to cheer you up soon. What are the 'old ways'? Take care thinking of you.
I love Snowdrops! Real harbingers of the coming spring...
A fair bit of both Vashti a fair mix of both I never knew you had read The Pilgrims Progress good book and plenty of analogies of how many of us with COPD live life on the edge and in that slough of despond not like his mate who only got so far with him and feked off back over the fence, another thing we go through with COPD we often have people who say they are with us all the way but are in it only for what they can get for them selves.
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We read it at school...never forgotten parts of it...!
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same here it was the core subject in my 'A' level's
Do you know....you could be here. I've got a daughter in law as well.
Just the one ,which makes things tricky.
My cupboard doors are wonky ,and there's things out of date in the back of the top shelf. My kitchen is always cold......and COPD and the miseries lurk.
Are you sure your not here ????
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Don't think I was there...but you never know...lol
Bless your heart...sounds like you need a big ol' hug. {{{{{HUG}}}}}
I once put a cuppa soup for my dear Hubby in with his sandwiches for work. There was an uproar in work when he noticed the sell by date was up on the packet. Lol. He never let me forget it....in fun of course. xxx
Hi Vashti So so sorry my reply seems to have been edited by the gremlins. I have no idea how it happened but clearly it did as it has all disappeared into the ether. I wont try to recapture the moment but just wanted to suggest that you introduce Fr Vincent to the daughter in law they will be really good for each and hopefully stay well out of you way. Thankfully our priest is a delight and has time for everybody.
I so wanted to go out in the snow yesterday it looked so lovely from the window but it would not be wise so sat with my nose to the window like a little kid. Have you tried those little pads you heat in the microwave or a pan of water and then put them in your slippers or gloves my daughter-in-law uses them they live in Norway and she has a problem with the circulation in her hands and feet.
Glad your feeling better today and felt able to have a good vent you have such a neat way with words even when your fed up.
best wishes Nan
Bless you Vashti,it wasn't your day today! Well we all have them.
To think you're the lady that keeps us in fits of laughter,& amazed at the intrigue at times,what can we do to cheer you up??
Loved the bit about the Daughter in law,what a cow!(if you don't mind me saying!)
Take care,& get a good nights sleep,& the world may seem a tad better! xxx
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And of course it's better today...
Don't mind you saying in the least...she is actually quite awful!
Hope you've cheered up a bit Vashti - daffs are poking through in my garden so a sign of renewal. I've got central heating on full blast day and night at the mo. - if they jail me for non-payment Her Majesty will be paying for the heating, I refuse to be cold. I have a friend who invested in one of these watchamacall it lights for the winter and she swears it's cured her S.A.D, wouldn't work on O.C.D of course. Himself is just trying to help by stacking the shelves - my friend helps by drying dishes (I seem to be the only person on the planet with no dishwasher) and she chucks all the cutlery back in the drawer every which-way and my wooden spoon and whisk take some finding! "They mean well" must be one of the most hilarious phrases, but they do. I have no daughters-in-law, praise be, the son is not big on commitment, but I get on well with his current GF ( and all but one of his ex-es) and, being an "only" he'll cop the lot when I shuffle off - good luck to anyone who tries to relieve him of it, tight as a crabs arse as we say down this way! He does his best to keep me fit and healthy though - I'm a very good secretary and un-salaried. Cheer up hun, it's another day tomorrow and it's going to be a good one, promise.
Vashti bless.Have you tried wearing oneseys yet or maybe a flannell vest and long johns.My uncle and aunt live in a cottage in Ireland and it is lovely in the summer but but freezing in the winter.They have fireplaces but no central heating.At home I feel the cold and my hubby is always toasty ,so it becomes a game of me turning up the thermostat and him turning it down and pretending we each dont know what the other is doing.This sell by date thing none of us will chance it even just 2days over,and I think back to when I was a child and no such things as dates was on our food,and we hardly ever got sick.You be careful climbing up on chairs I can just about manage the few stairs to the bedrooms.I need some advise ,My preventer puffer for my asthma is fine when I only have to take 1puff mornings,1puff at night but when I need 2puffs I find I cant hold the 2nd puff as it makes me cough.Clenil Modulite.The past 2days my breathing is bad and I cant get an appointment with my chest nurse as I call her until Friday .Good job himself has his goats as all I have is s budgie that cant talk. Take care Vashti and all you lovely peeps on here.I would rather ask you than see my dr.Between us we should have medical degrees, Bless All mags xx
Mags people might not see your query about the inhaler here...could you write it again but not on this page? There'll be plenty of folk able to give you some advice xxx
Vashti, I'm sorry to hear of all the things that make you feel down, but I have to admit to finding it a very entertaining read. You must have kissed the blarney stone at some time in your life, as you use words so well.
I have to admit to feeling admiration for your nice DIL, living in Sweden. One of my daughters is away with the fairies most of the time - no, actually two of them. But both live in England. One in deepest, darkest Derbyshire (near the peak district) the other in deepest, darkest Devon (near the coast). Both enjoy the seclusion and wildness of their particular haven.
Hope when the spring arrives you begin to feel a bit more cheerful Sending big hugs. xx
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Once it's warmer and I can go outside then I'll feel much better...
Hi I am back again as I have just seen someone talk about a management pack,Can anyone let me know about this.At this moment I a m very chesty and as I said before breathing is not at all good at the moment,Thank you mags x
Do so relate to the D I L, UG but son finally got smart and refused to tolerate the abuse. Boy, that was a long 25 yrs staying out of their lives which included 3 grands And keeping my mouth Shut!!!
The days of being PO'd are also familiar but have reached a place that I feel entitled to have a tantrum ever now and then, but only when I'm alone. Lol. After all this is not fun and it is sure not easy. Yes, for the most part, at least I brought it on myself smoking but back when I started there were no advertised health risks. Now the damage is done, I suffer the consequences both physically and mentally but I still want to kick a hole in the wall at times, if it wouldn't be so painful !!!
What is really wonderful about this forum is sharing the down in the dumps, dark days and then The Sun shines and the birds sing but you feel ok being all those things. It comfortable !!! And safe.
Im Sure your husband understands when you feel grumpy. In the long run what does it matter if things are in the wrong place? We worry because we want to keep things straight without doing extra work, we just can't do anything extra very easily. It's not the dirty floor we care about, it's being unable to get down there and wash it like we did when we were fitter, so we try not to get it dirty and men don't see it in the same way, that's how I see it anyway. all the best to you, Iris x
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