Imagine entering a room dominated by a group people that you did not know well, if at all; who were involved is some highly stressed and obviously unpleasant issues/arguments.
What would you do? Would you want to get involved? Would you think you might be asked to take sides if you joined in the conversation? .... which you wouldn't as you did not know or want to know what is was about.
Or would you leave, thinking this party is perhaps not that great and I'm not going to want to join in if this is what it's about.
Izzy this is not the norm for this site,99.9% of the time its caring helpfull and funny, just now and again there's one who likes to upset the apple cart. And never when the mediators are on.
What you say is very true izz, but what would new people think coming to the forum earlier today to see that virtually all of us have been accused of racism? Over a post that was not about a person, race or culture. Very hard to ignore. And, so far as I'm aware, no one has ever been asked to take sides, not since I've been here. Libby
Racism is a serious issue ...... there are no sides to take ..... it's wrong (and illegal) so if accused of it then that's serious.
The problem come with 'jokes' in my experience ..... I deal with this stuff in my work, where different people regard something as funny and some see it as offensive. These days we have to deal with the offensive side.
My son is 'ginger', ie red haired, he was plagued by 'it's just a joke' comments all his school days .... made his life a misery at times. His school could not see that saying 'it's a joke' did not make it OK for him .... I think the racism issue is probably similar
Izz
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Life was so carefree when I was young. People were relaxed and could have a good laugh without looking over their shoulders. Suppose I ought to move with the times.
What happened today was an extremely rare occurance and was caused by one person whose name was not known to anyone. The blogs are normally entertaining and good humoured. Please give us a try and join in when you feel able.
We never take sides as we never argue here, we support each other, advise where we can & laugh & cry together,
Now & again someone comes along & attacks one of the group & we, as one stand & defend that member, we do so because we,ve known them a long time, we know their hearts & today the person who was accused of being something he is not is a long standing & much loved & valued friend.
Stay & see for yourself how we usually are & in a month if you still feel the same, please come & tell us why
Annie I only use one I just recognised izzwizz from another blog earlier this month when we were having a giggle
try putting your mouse over my smileys & it should show you the shapes that are found on a keyboard that you press on & that should help you do smiles but remember to leave a space before & after the dots & brackets
Appreciate your help, SW. I am a kid, I want yellow smileys, they look better. I do think they are necessary to really make your point without causing upset. Tried getting a toolbar with smleys but got all sorts of rubbish.
How far away are your grandchildren.
Just about to blow a gasket - dying for the loo, but husband B beat me to it. If I went up the stairs, might have further problems. Joys of being old.
5-19 miles away I know it doesn't sound far but it may as well be the moon when the kids are angry I,m not 2mins away as I had always been ah well mustn't complain it only happens when they in a rush & having bad day
I notice your 21 year old son has recently left home. I have a 19 year old still t home. Can you tell me how to unprise his fingers from the door frame every time I try to get rid of him? Bobby
Ask him/her to tidy up hisher room .... that's all I said ... and in a flash, she was gone ... oh, yeah, you could also go down the road of asking for keep money .... you can ask ... just don't expect to receive any .....
Hi All, They say it only takes one person to upset the apple cart, well this person has done it big style they set out to get a reaction and reaction is what they got, NOW! they know that we all support each other and have a good laugh as well because that's what we do and we all know who our real friends are, back to norm I hope, Have a goodnight all starting my second glass of wine.mattcass
Good on you Mattcass you are a stand up guy. But you won't be if you keep knocking that wine back. lol Bob
Hi Bobby
I have no answers ....
All I did was big up the attractions of city life (live in rural Somerset) and did not deal with his clothes or bedroom in any way or form from when he was 16, and expected him to cook something once a week for him and me to eat
Hi Izzwhizz, I recommend you hang around a while and judge us when you have a little more experience of what were really like here.
You won't agree with everyone and so you should'nt but you will find some very good people here.
stick around, what have you got to lose?
In reply to your original question, depending on the situation, I would probably listen to what everyone had to say, hearing things directly from each person carefully avoiding hearsay, then reach my own conclusions.
In this case I had read the thread concerned. I have read similar jokes countless times including during multinational seminars held by publishers for language textbooks. They use similar examples of badly translated language as an icebreaker. Never have I seen anyone offended.
Best wishes,
koala
I think we are at the start of a new day! Lets have peace, calm and cuddles. Come over here, King!
I have cuddles, hugs and kisses enough for everyone. Any takers? xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx((hugs))cuddles x 1,000,000! Love this site.
Any ideas on how to get a 30 year old to move out? Way too comfy here that's for sure! xxxx
Phillips1 --Treat his room as a no go area! Leave his bed, his dirty washing. Cater for everyone but him. Turn on TV programmes that get on his nerves. Ask your friends for an all orgy. Make life hard for him, play your favourite music loud and press the nagging button.
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ah well mustn't complain it only happens when they in a rush & having bad day 
Back in the room ? Face to face or Virtual singing & PR? 
No doubt I'll get repremanded for this but .... what the heck here goes. Lol
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