I didn't think it would come to this but reading other members comments i feel the need ...
I had a few messges which were ignored as they were not in good taste ... ( I wont go into detail ) the certain member that sent them has now left the group ...
When the messages were ignored the group member then started to comment on my public posts these again were ignored ...for what reason i dont know or understand...
Yesterday evening on one of my posts i called time on it as everyone has a limited patience threshold myself included...
Other members got involved without knowledge of previous messages i had received.. they were asked not to get involved and i said that unwanted comments are trolling ...
I never at any point called anyone a troll just asked them to leave the situation alone .. said person wouldn't leave it alone and went on to make there own post about leaving the group (their choice ).. i feel quite sad they felt the need to get involved in something they knew nothing about then go on to make a public post to further fuel things ...if you see something that dosent involve you or anything you dont like scroll by ..
If people feel like they should or shouldn't add anything to my comments then feel free i have nothing to hide from anyone .. my patience ran out after weeks of messaging and silly childish comments which were totally unnecessary...
I thought this was a community for adults with health issues...
For me to share my pics has been an absolute winner for me im quite an insular person and was happy to share . And im very much still happy to do that ..
Maybe now i have enlightened people they will understand my reactions if not scroll by
The above comment is not said to upset anyone just giving you my thoughts matter hopefully now closed
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I read the offending post BB and just want to say I understand why you are annoyed and I have had the same thing here too. I think Hanne was just defending Daveyboy as she was aware, as many of us are, that he recently had a terminal diagnosis. I thought he was taking over the site a bit but was willing to give him a lot of leeway because of this.
If you get unwanted pm messages, in case you don't know just report as it goes straight to HU. Then do a copy for admin and ask them to sort it. Then mute them and you won't see any more pm's. It's always best just to report and not respond on the site too as it just causes upset.
Many of us are very vulnerable and I am sure the last thing any of us want to do is upset anyone. I know Hanne has been very poorly. I don't know about you as all I have ever seen you post is pictures. Never anything about yourself to get to know you a bit. Not criticising you for this but just an observation. Pictures aren't really my thing but hey ho if it helps you or others than as far as I'm concerned that's fine.
I hope things settle down now and we can get to what we do best ie help and support each other through our illnesses and lives as much as we can. Take care. x
my pictures are my escapism from my condition and if i can share with others who find 5 mins of time out from daily life then i will do that ..sometimes its not about words or feeling vulnerable or how we are feeling today ...its an escapism for myself not just others ..
im not speaking for everyone here as some people find escape in other places knitting painting reading poetry crafting ..
I dont just actually post pics there are lots of posts and comments regarding my condition in fact only just on Friday i had mentioned how i was going to bed as was feeling rubbish so there is more to observe than a picture...
Daveys posts didn't bother me at all he can post all day long anyone can ..
but if i get rude messages and comments then thats where my vulnerability appears and I had asked him previously to stop on the post concerned but instead of giving up he had to come back just for another little joke trying to cheer himself up after a bad day .. (his words not mine ) seen on another post by myself.
... we all have bad days me included but i will not be the butt of somones jokes and certainly wouldn't come on here to do it to anyone myself so why tolerate it .
Im aware of the buttons and had used them ..
As for Hanne I cant say why she left as i never called her a troll ... but she seems to think i did ..she got involved in something that she knew nothing about and in her defending davey ironic as it is .. it was her choice to leave sadly .
But thanks again for your comment its appreciated x just to add to the mix you say you dont know me that well cause i never post anything other than pics yet i seem to remember a night with myself.. mike as in skischool and yourself with a few others having a disco all be it imaginary but thought i would add it on here ... from what i remember i let you borrow a green glitter skirt but that was a while ago maybe you dont remember ๐
My you have a good memory BB! That was fun wasn't it and we must do it again one day. Not sure about a green glitter skirt as I don't really wear green. Glitter yes
I must have missed your posts about you so I will make sure I read them in future. Like I said though I do take a quick look at the photo's I rarely read anything and just move on. I do read every post here even though I am quieter on here now.
I really miss Mike though. It's been over 6 months now since he passed. He would have put everything into perspective wouldn't he and put a funny post up to ease any tension. God bless him. x
My memory is good and you definitely borrowed the skirt as you had spilt a drink down yourself.. as it was an imaginary disco the green glitter didn't matter i guess ๐
Yes i miss Mike sadly and a few others gone before i still have him on my fb list have a lovley day ๐
I enjoy your photos so please keep them coming. I donโt comment on all of them but doesnโt mean I donโt appreciate them. Please ignore any silliness!!
Only one negative comment I haveโฆโฆ please we need more pics of Stan the man and tales (or should that be tails) of his antics. I love to hear about him, he is very special and they always makes me smile.
Bevvy i dont mind anbody commenting on my pics your free to decide that ... I will fire more of Stan from now on ...๐
I just didnt want to cope anymore with the messaging inuendos and due to them being ignored the poster felt to seek attention publicly which is why my temper failed last night enough is enough from me and thankyou kindly for your comment ๐
Iโm sorry that I didnโt see any of this but I do have to ask - did you report the troublesome person to the administrators? It is their job to deal with them. Unfortunately I was forced to do this with one member who was causing trouble for myself and several other people some time ago. That person was removed from the forum.
I'm really sorry to hear this Bb, no idea you were having to cope with this and no one should have to put up with unnecessary comments. Just glad to know you are still going to share your photos with us, thank you xxx ๐
Your photographs are always stunning. Your eye is so good, I either have the best shot ever only to discover I left the lens cap on (camera I once had) or my hands tremble and I blur the shot.
Iโm so sorry that controversy has arisen. Seems rather silly. To be subjected to anything that tries oneโs patience is enough to make even those in the best of health, snap.
Iโve clicked โlikeโ to your post, it didnโt seem quite appropriate given the subject matter but I wanted to show my support.
I am sorry this unpleasantness has arisen for you, life is difficult enough! I must say I did think that one of the members who has now left the forum was rather taking over. I appreciate he had recently received a terminal diagnosis and I am sorry about that but I am certain he is not the only one on this forum to have done so. I also saw some of his inane comments to your posts and can quite understand why your patience was pushed beyond its limit.
Iโve always enjoyed visiting this forum in the past, with its lovely, supportive, community. Your stunning photography, Caspianaโs beautiful prose and Donโs legendary poems are the icing on the cake! I do hope you will continue posting your photos for the benefit of us all.
So sorry blackbird --am not sure what has happened.
I wanted to say a huge thank you for your beautiful photos which have given me so much joy when life has been endless hospital visits uncertanty and pain.
Sorry to hear this .I do not check in every day and missed the nasty comments. My motto is "If you dont have anything nice to say then dont comment " I had this problem once ,as a member always made nasty comments on my posts . Thank goodness she was banned from the site. As you say scroll by if you dont agree . Hope you have a lovely day. Take care xxSheila ๐โ
No problem, love your photos. Great to see posts that are uplifting .It's not all about our illnesses we need cheering up from time to time. I realised the person that was being nasty to me had the problem . I am a very Positive person and any negativity I ignore.
Have a lovely day. Sun shining here in Wales, hope it is shining where you are. xxSheila ๐โ๐๐
So sorry to read this, this is a site that I , and many others come to for support with our problems? I hope that things improve for you,we all have enough to worry about without anything extra added ? Take care! xx
I donโt normally comment in this group although I do follow it closely. No doubt you will say this is nothing to do with me and I should butt out, etc etc. But Iโve seen all Daveyboyโs comments on your wonderful photos- yes, his comments irritate you- but thatโs just his sense of humour- he apologised for offending you- can you not just โscroll pastโ his comments, as you put it? Given the horrible situation he is in? And I do think you were quite rude to Hanne, who just felt sorry for Daveyboy, I think a simple apology would have been appropriate. Just my opinion.
Absolutely entitled to your opinion and you have every right to feel concerned about Hanne ...
What you did see was one post where Daveyboy took it too far and ended up leaving along with Hanne that was their choice i didnt force it ...
what you didnt see was the other messages received from daveyboy to myself that contained no humour whatsoever... appropriate measures were taken for this but then he continued to publicly comment daily to get a joke out of it ... ( his comments not mine (
I have humour lots of it but being the butt of somones is not funny... and im not going to be a scapegoat for anyone whose been asked to stop ...thats where it ends ...
Thanks for your comment it was good to read your input ๐
i did mention in my post above about the messages.. maybe i didn't explain myself so others understood but thats fair enough not everyone reads everything.. thanks for your comment
HI, like others I donโt have time to read everything, but think comments need to be helpful and not spiteful. I enjoy your photos very much, look forward to next. Glad if someone who was causing upset has been removed. Jean x
Hi Blackbird, I'm a relative newbie to this site and have come to rely on it as part of my daily routine. I love looking at the photos that you and others post (as well as all the other lovely post whether funny, serious or informative) I don't always leave a comment but I feel lucky to be part of this forum. Sadly you'll always get difficult, rude or downright mean people in every community, but I think the good, kind ones more than make up for them. Take care โค๏ธ๐ xxx
hi allโฆ Im struggling with Bronchiectasis really bad at the moment.
I must say , I never comment only read ,but on this occasion I feel I should .
Every morning when we receive email , first name on there was Daveyboy , at first I read , thought I was reading how we could help each other, ONCE I found it was about pictures, cooking etc , Iโm not interested,,, I appreciate his diagnoses, and if he liked to express himself by this , and it helps not just him, anybody putting on their interests , and helps them through their days , then please CRACK ON , life is precious especially like us who are sufferers,
Overtime if I see a post pictures food birds etc , I choose not to to read , my choice.
I do not understand why people have to make remarks , we are all in this site , ( I was referred to by my physio )and quiet frankly itโs sometimes like Iโve gone back 40 years ,people being horrible to people , but not writing it on the back of the school toilet doors , but now on social sites, back then it was classed as being horrible/ jealous now itโs classsed as trolling.
So please we are all in a fragile way we need to be here for each other , and we are all ADULTSโฆ.
lol just keep your chin up , some people may have lovely food, scenery etc, but are somewhat quiet lonely , this is sad , but sometimes their humour may differ from others and their mouth runs away with them .
You keep being you , and keep yourself healthy in body and brain
Hi Blackbird9. I am sorry to hear that you were upset by a member's post. I looked but could not find the member's entry. But you were upset and this is why I am hoping you are feeling much better about things today. We are here to support each other through our various illnesses.
On a lighter note, I looked through quite a few of your pictures and they really are good. Do you live near the New Forest(I won't ask where for the sake of confidentiality) ?
Thankyou โค๏ธ its no secret i live in the new forest its a big old place and i wouldnt give my address to anyone even though i have met a few people from the site who are long term friends... ๐
thank you dear bb. I have no idea about who or what this is about Sorry youโve been getting these messages Your photos brighten up the days and show us the wonder of beauty around you. Keep on posting them. Love to you and Stan. ๐ค๐ค
The first thing I look for every day is your photos. When I can't sleep I visualise your pictures in my mind and eventually I drop off to sleep as they relax me. I hope you will continue to share you beautiful photos with us. xx
I saw some of the inane comments to your beautiful photos and thought they were childish and unnecessary. For the record I think he left after another member said his photos were crap snapshots. Personally I had stopped looking at his posts as I donโt want to see what someone is having for dinner - save that for fb. I am going to Holkham this week to see if I can get a picture of the stags in their full regalia. If I get anywhere near your beautiful photo I will be over the moon. Keep posting your photos and move on. I suspect that one or both of them will be back sometime. ๐ค๐ค
Iโm sorry to hear about this upset but as a newbie with only mild Bronchiectasis I tend to focus on those posts & was unaware of any of this going on. Although not sure what this actually was. Enough to say that I have appreciated all of peoples help & advice on this great forum. Itโs sad when people get hurt & upset. I also want to say that I really appreciate your amazing photos. You have a real talent. Please donโt stop sharing. Take care x
I think he stated his enjoyment of jack Daniel's. That would explain some comments that may have been misconstrued. Given he has been told he has very little time, if he decides to drink so be it. But we all know under the influence we are not our best selves.
Maricopa I have no idea i dont drink so couldn't say or advise ..
Messages sent to me were not misconstrued
If someone chooses to drink thats their choice but i wont accept alcohol as an excuse for rude behaviour thats unacceptable but thankyou for the comments ๐
Hi Blackbird. I am so sorry to hear about this situation that has resulted in someone leaving the forum. Sadly it is so much easier to misinterpret the written word rather than face to face. Facial expressions and voice intonations are not there.
People coming on this forum have many health issues that can cause all sorts of side effects. We can be depressed, anxious, worried about our future and sometimes very frustrated trying to organise important appointments. This, of course, can create a short fuse which means perhaps oversensitivity. This is sad but a fact.
I must stress that this is not directed at you Blackbird but is my feeble attempt at trying to understand why some choose to leave or over react.
Life is too short and many on here may not have a long time left. This forum can be so helpful, giving advice, support and be generally uplifting with poems, jokes and fantastic photos (thanks especially to Blackbird and others before i get told off).
We all have our off days where we say things, that with hindsight, we realise were not appropriate. A few years ago i was put in my place when some posts became political and i tried to steer it away from politics. I was told in no uncertain terms to "button it". Fair enough i touched a nerve and left it to let the dust settle.
I tend to come on here most days but often take a back seat as far as commenting.
Now i will get personal. Blackbird, i have told you many times how much pleasure i get from your photos. You have an eye for spotting very interesting subjects and compose the photos so well.
I hope i have not upset or offended anyone and wish everyone the very best of health in difficult circumstances.
This forum is made up of some lovely people and i do not wish to hear of anyone else getting upset and leaving. Remember we all have our off days.
Hi Dave im not offended in any way shape or form easily that came the day i was born and i will carry it with me akways ..
What i wont stand for is someone sending blatant innuendos via this page ..i choose to ignore them and it still persisted in public view somone was asked to button it ( your words ๐) and still came back with more comments... he maybe apologised but by then it meant nothing as it had gone to far ... somone got caught in the crossfire and both parties choose to leave.. their choice.. I cant express myself more than i have done ... had the messages not started and persisted over weeks i wouldn't be typing this to you .. this was not an off day for anyone comments were not misconstrued.. it was rudeness and beyond..
This forum has amazing ppl from all walks of life with different conditions and who come to support others in one way shape form or another and has done for the last 8 years since i have been using it on and off i have met some ppl who are life long friends on here as well as off ..
I thankyou for your comment and totally understand your input ๐
Hi Blackbird. Thanks for your comments. Having been told to "button it" a few years ago, i try so hard to not offend anyone. Lol It is so sad when people overstep the mark. We are all different and need to guard against going too far eh. That is not a criticism of anyone but we do need to be ever so careful.
Yes you got his name right, young Teddy. He is five now and still my bestest friend. He sits there looking at me and i can talk to him for ages. He never argues.
Anyway nice to talk to you and hope Stan the Man is keeping well.
Im glad hes doing well ... they are our long life friends and they never answer back love them all ...
Stans not doing too great at the moment he started doing very random things that didnt bode very well standing in corners staring at the wall and waiting to go out the wrong side of the door ... his eating isnt as good as it was ..
he was diagnosed with alzheimers on Friday just gone very sadly i knew it was something like that but to hear it was heartbreaking .. we will take extra care of our little best friend and give him the best quality of life we can for as long as we can ...he has been having good days and bad days for around 6 weeks but its happened so quickly ๐ค
Oh Blackbird I am so sorry to hear that. Poor fellah. I know he will have all the love and care with you and will be as happy as he can be. From past chats we have had i know he is loved so much and couldn't wish for a better home. I wish there was more i could say to make things better and i know i can't. I will say a prayer for lovely Stan tonight.
Oh Blackbird, Iโm so sorry to hear about Stan. I have no doubt that youโll give him extra cuddles and treats. And a few extras from all of us here as well.
As a side giggle, while itโs true they never answer back, they can sometimes give us a wicked side eye.
Thanks Jean unfortunately it happens old age ...theres no medication as such that he needs its keeping his quality of life with good walks stimulation and lots of love ... ๐
Well I am not sure what's gone on but I do love your photos BB and appreciate the lengths you go to take them and share them with us.
I read above that Stan is facing the difficulties of old age, but I also know he is in the very best hands. I am going to invest in a really nice dog bed for Chom. He has a house but he is getting older now and needs something really comfy besides my bed because sometimes he wants to be on his own. Much love to you and dear Stan. xx ๐โโ๏ธ๐
Yes Stans getting older as we all are but he will be catered for everything he needs especially the love โค๏ธ
I have bought a donut bed for Stan (he has a few ) not orthopaedic like you want for Chom but they are so comfortable for them and because of the donut shape they can curl up the in middle and the outer ring envelopes them slightly giving back head or belly support from behind..
Isnt strange how all of a sudden these habits like wanting to be away on their own suddenly appear its like overnight it happens..
Im sure Chom will enjoy his comfortable new bed and have lots of lovley dreams on it love to you both from me and himself ๐ฅฐ
Yes it is. When he was young he always wanted to be close. Now he takes several hours a day to nap alone. This is what I bought. I hope he will like it. I bet Stan loves his bed. xx
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