So exhausted.....

Hi,

It's still early, but I feel like it's lunchtime already. I am absolutely exhausted with getting up at all hours of the night, going to work, looking after Max (and my husband for that matter!) and keeping the house going.

Max didn't have that bad a night coughing wise, but was extremely unsettled and he is waking up fully at 5am. Max is also having terrible trantrums and I've noticed that he is very trantrumy (is that a word!?!) when he feels worse. Does anyone else experience their child having really bad tantrums when they are feeling really rough? Also, he is drinking lots and subsequently leeking his nappy in bed which I'm sure doesn't help with the symptoms.

I'm sorry to moan so early, but my husband is totally useless if I'm honest and i'm really feeling like I'm not sure how much more I can take. I feel like I am completely useless and am so tired that I'm not much good to Max when he need's me the most.

Just needed to get it off my chest.....keep thinking I need to pull myself together and stop moaning and just get on with it, but with the lack of sleep on top of Max and having quite a pressured job I'm struggling.

Thanks for listening and hope everyone is ok xx

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im sorry to hear that ur aving rough time i no the boat ur in, i was up at 5 do house work get both babies clothes set out, out at 6 in work for 7, wen i came home it was like i didnt do ne thing, so housework again, do food, bath um settle um and then up and down wiv um all nite next day exactly the same,

reiss used to often drink so much tha5t hed wet thru, even if i changed him thru the night i just tried all different nappies tuk a while an eventually found ones that wrkd for him, ino how frustratin it can get, reiss coughs so bad sum nites he just sits there awake so obviously the next morning he is so misrable well to be honest we both r, i eventually lost my job bout 3 weeks ago, reiss was going thru a really bad stage, i cudnt keep my mind on work i just wanted to be home to make sure i cud get it under controll,

reiss is almost 3 his tantrums can get really out of hand sumtimes he throws things he bites and his speach is gr8 so he wudnt think twice bout telling me to leave him alone and go away wen im tryin to help him, how old is ur likkleun x

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I'm not surprised you're exhausted. It's draining having a sick child (I know) and working AND looking after the household without any support is very difficult. I had to give up my (quite) good job when I had my son because he was so sickly and I had no family support. I went into part time work when he went to school but even that has been difficult because he's ill such a lot.

Re. Max's tantrums - he probably feels out of sorts because he's not well and the medication may be stimulating him. Who looks after him when you are at work?

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I can relate to your plight. It's very very hard indeed. Maddie is my third child. She has Brittle Asthma. My second child has mild Asthma and my eldest is fine.

I find that all I do is nurse Maddie. She's poorly a lot. She needs nebuliser twice daily which takes time as well as the usual inhalers too. At the same time my other daughter requires attention with her inhalers etc and my eldest son is 13 and has the usual teenage things going on!

Throw in the sleepless nights too, changing of bedding from the vomiting and the worry on top and it can leave you feeling exhausted!

Is there anyone who can help? Is there anyone you could trust to have Max while you have a rest, be it 'me' time or sleep?

The only way I can get through the exhaustion is to take time to rest. I can't leave anyone with Maddie but I slow down a bit and cancel my diary for a few days in order to get back on track.

I hope you find some help. Tiredness can leave you feeling very lonely. We're always here.

Take care,

Emily.x

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Hi hun, I am so sorry you are finding things difficult. My eldest D is disabled & has asthma, I have severe asthma & I am always tired. I am not very good at asking for help but I am getting abit better. I now ask hubby to do little jobs for me at the weekend as he is usually off work. I dont like asking but needs must sometimes. As already suggested try & get someone to help you out so you can get a rest as it benefits everyone in the long run. Thinking of you.

Love & hugs

S.Mama

xxxxx

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Thanks so much to everyone. I actually had a night off last night as I went to my sisters and stayed the night. I really needed it (it's the 2nd night I've had away in just over 2 years). I do feel a little bit re-charged and ready to face the day a bit better!!

However, Max has a cold now and his symptoms are getting worse again......at with a bit of a break I feel ready to deal with it.

Love to all xx

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Glad that you feel a little better for the little break. Hope Max isn't too bad and gets over his cold quickly

Mark

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I sympathise

Hi Charlotte69

Any chance of taking any hol leave to try and recuperate? Or work from home? Could you go part time? I gave up a full time job when I realised my son was going to be ill often and now do a bit of work from home, but I know this isn't possible for everyone.

The other thing I'll say is that my son is now four, so yes, we still have night time coughing and regular hospital admissions, and it is still stressful, but I find it's got a little easier as he's got older. Also, is it worse in winter rather than summer? If so, at least we're (hopefully) on the road to spring.

As others have suggested, any chance of someone else looking after Max while you have a sleep?

This is a good place to come, when you need to talk.