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Husband in denial

Hi All,

My hubby was diagnosed with RA 3 years ago, although the consultant jumped on it with methotrexate and leflunomide (think that is the name/spelling) he continues to do things he should not, like drink alcohol and smoke. I can see his joints in wrist and knuckles getting more larger,displaced and he hides the pain he gets in his knees and feet.

Any suggestions as to how to encourage him, he just says I am nagging!

Annie

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Maybe reverse psychology? My step dad was the same now he has had so many strokes and seizure s because of his lifestyle he gets his meds through a peg/tube on tummy and nutrition drinks the same way he's nil by mouth or it'll kill him he still smokes but his sight in both eyes was affected so he often drops his smoke on him and burns his clothes,chair,blanket, carpet,.maybe read this to him?

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Thank you for that....he sounds as though mu hubby and him would get along just foine. Yes I will read it to him.

Thanks

Annie x

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Lol yes.

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Hi Annieosb. I have the Same problem as your husband r/a also on methatrexate, I have infusions as well. I do like my wine/beer. My liver function results are in regular. But they do go down even when I do drink a few glasses of wine. I rather think that if your husbands hands and wrists get to bad he may well intend to get some more treatment. Only he can decide which is best. Good luck.

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Thank you for the wise advice, yes you are right...only he can decide......just hard when you love someone :-((

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Get him to join a gym, where he will meet other people with RA. Better still. You go with him. I joined the gym first, then my husband joined a month later. Apart from

all the friends we have made, some with health problems & they pass on useful info.

about how they cope. He may be able to get a GP referral to your local gym. He will be given exercises to combat the RA. Movement is v important.

Best wishes

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I wonder if its worth you going on the NRAS part of HU. There are men who post who have RA ,and I post as my husband was diagnosed with it last Xmas. Nras have good booklets on RA and a very good webinar on exercise and its benefits.All the best.

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