Mother's Day

[Shells15]

Hi,Just want to reach out to anyone struggling today. Last Mother's Day was my first Mother's day and I tried to end my life. I relapsed at home after my 5 week stay in hospital where I was discharged to the home treatment team. My medication didn't hold and I had to be re admitted for a fast, intense change of medication.

I have recovered well since and am due to return to work in 2 weeks. I just found today quite hard and I felt low for most of it. I hope anyone out there suffering with PP or PPD got through today ok. Lots of love to you all.

Shelley ❤️

[NanaJudith_APP_Vol Volunteer]

Dear Shells15,

thank you for posting here. How kind and thoughtful of you to think of others whilst struggling yourself, Mothering Sunday can be triggering and a sad day sometimes for many differing reasons. I hope you have had someone to spoil you some today. Congratulations to you though, think how far you have come from the extremely difficult time you must have had a year ago.

Amazing Mums post here, who I am sure will identify exactly with how you feel. I did not suffer the trauma of PP myself, my daughter did and she too is well now. I know from my daughter’s experience what a horrible time you must have had, and though every Mum’s experience is different there is no doubt of the shock and trauma of PP, the ups and downs of recovery, the depression it can also bring and loss of confidence. Going back to work can be a challenge and hopefully you will be able to confide in a trusted person there, to perhaps help ease your return. One day at a time, take care and surround yourself, if you can, with kind, understanding, supportive family and friends. You can be ok, and regain your confidence fully. What happened was not your fault it was the illness. So yes, sadly you may have hard days but my little mantra is ‘This too shall pass’.

Take care, be kind to yourself, enjoy your precious little one.

Good luck and kindest best wishes

Judith xx

[Twobabies Volunteer]

hi Shells15, I just wanted to reply with a big hug. I had Ppp in 2018 and also felt a bit emotional today. So pleased you got the meds and support for your recovery. I bet you are an awesome mummy. You’ve been through so much (we all have on here) and going back to work is such a big milestone. I think also sometimes there can be an element of grief for how we thought our early days of motherhood would be vs. how they were. And I suspect that’s more common than we realise and absolutely ok to feel a bit sad about. Sending you lots of love and hope tomorrow there is some relief the day is over. Enjoy getting back to work and keep in touch to let us know how it all goes. Xxx

[Jenny_at_APP Partner]

Hello Shells15

Thank you for such a thoughtful post. I’m sorry you’ve found today quite hard, I know it can be a difficult day for a lot of people for various reasons and it’s really kind of you to reach out to others who may be struggling today too.

I’m so glad you’ve recovered well over the last 12 months - never forget how far you’ve come and how strong you are 💜

Good luck with your return to work in a couple of weeks, do write here any time and let us know how things are.

Best wishes,

Jenny x

[Laneybug1710]

Thanks for your bravery and honesty Shells. Days like these do get easier with time. All the best on your return to work x

[Yaa1981]

Dear Shells15,

Thank you so much for your selflessness in thinking of others at this time. I am currently still recovering from PP, 5 plus months ago and I too felt really down on Mother’s Day yesterday, something I hadn’t experienced on previous Mother’s days .

So happy to hear of your recovery and how far you have come. Thank you for being such a wonderful and caring person.

Lots of love to you too and all the best for the future xx