intrusive thoughts

[Adoo97]

Hello its me again its been a while since a wrote thank you all for the support but tonight i feel very sad for my wife she is on her period and she was wery sad atfer she watched a movie like a horror movie and that movie like stuck in her mind she was thinking like i am afraid i will do something to my daughter and i was a little bit disepointed because i told her not to watch that movie and then she told me the thought she allways thinking especially during her period but not mutch after the period the thought is (if i kill my child or someone she will be fine again ) its just a quick thought but she belives like in the future she is afraid she could do something please what should i do im so tired and depressed is this normal during recovery tomorrow she will go to the curator to speak then we hope the curator can make an appointment with the doctor. thanks for all the support!❤️

[Jenny_at_APP Partner]

Hi Adoo97,

I’m sorry you’ve had a difficult evening watching your wife get upset. I had to be careful about what I watched on TV for some time after having PP, I’m sorry the film your wife watched seems to have played into the intrusive thoughts she’s been having. It must be very upsetting for both of you.

It’s good your wife is seeing someone tomorrow who can hopefully then make an appointment with the GP. I hope she’s able to tell them about her intrusive thoughts and how upsetting they are, and can be supported to find a way to help manage them, especially around the time of her period.

And I hope you’re doing ok. You’re being a wonderful support to your wife and it’s great that she’s sharing her thoughts and concerns with you so openly. I hope the experiences and resources shared here on the forum are helping, do keep reaching out.

Look after yourself and I hope things go well for your wife tomorrow.

Best wishes,

Jenny

[Chick44nzrn]

dear Adoo97, yes it must be hard to see how your wife is having such disturbing thoughts and although it’s white normal to have lower moods during a period , I think she needs to consider her well being before watching scary movies which will reinforce her negative thoughts.

An important thing is that thoughts are only thoughts and although disturbing as are dreams they are very different from actions.

. A helpful practice that has helped me is making a list of 12 things that I’m grateful for or that are positive in my life when I’m feeling low, nervous, depressed etc. In the darkest days it lifts my mood and gives confidence.

Certainly tell your carer / nurse/ GP or whoever you get medical advice from re any medication issues. . Watch things like a very healthy diet during her period , fresh air and exercise, encouragement, and keep away from movies that are disturbing …

Best wishes to you both

Denise

[Lilybeth Volunteer]

Hello Adoo97

I hope your wife is a bit better after being upset last night and that she will now be seen by a doctor after the appointment with someone today. It must be very hard and upsetting for you to watch your wife feeling so sad, so I hope you are ok too. Thinking of you .... take care.

[The_Wes_Anderson_Fan Volunteer]

Hello Adoo97

I hope that your wife was referred to your GP and she has had some treatment with regard to the intrusive thoughts.

It is always best to get medical help even if she has the slightest thoughts. I would insist that she is given some help if you didn't get anywhere.

You sound like a very loving and supportive husband. As we know, many women's moods are affected by their periods but usually low mood and feeling unable to cope rather than intrusive thoughts. You were right to be concerned and seek help.

Once your wife is more stable, hopefully you will get some rest and feel better yourself too. Stay strong, it will be easier once she has some help.

Thinking of you, both.

[Naomi_at_app Volunteer]

Hi Adoo97

I'm really sorry to hear that you're feeling low after a difficult time with your wife experiencing more intrusive thoughts.

It's so understandable for you to feel tired and depressed - recovery can feel like it's taking such a long time but this is normal, it can be an up and down process for 6-9 months or more. Do you have some support for yourself from a good friend or family member who could listen or give you a short break?

There is some good practical advice on managing intrusive thoughts here, which I hope is useful for you and your wife

hellopostpartum.com/overcom...

Take good care of yourself and we are here for support and advice whenever you need.

Naomi