My friend is desperate for children, frightened of services
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Is your friend in the UK? If so, I think she could be reassured if a pre-conception appointment is arranged with her GP or health professional. There are also primary mental health care teams to offer support and advice if necessary. In my experience although I was suspicious of professionals during my illness, they were very supportive and a great help in my recovery.
If it well planned and she has a lot of support (with medication) chances are low of relapse. I speak from experience . She coukd also have a good medication plan if there was a relapse and place / family ect to look after her children. Even discuss with social worker's begore to ease her mind. Set a what if plan
Its possible things could go ok. I had v high risk and just had two babies and no relapse. And i stopped meds in pregnancy suddenly. She could work out a plan with them / social services. If she got ill then what happens ie mother and baby unit. Is there serious risk they would take the child. For what reason as many ppl have post natal illness. Ans with proper care plan she could avoix getting ill. A perinatal specialist, i had an epidural to reduce pain stress . Need support for night feeds.
My friend may end up a single parent. Hopefully not, desperate for a baby.
Tell me what was your experience?
Was the midwife supportive, was all negative with MH issues overshadowing everything. It is easy for things to become complicated and negative.
Which does not help.
Did you get referred to a perinatal service, or did they leave you alone.
Many medications can be taken during pregnancy with low risk to the baby. Have you seen the planning pregnancy guide? There’s a section on medication in there - app-network.org/wp-content/...
Hope this helps x
I had a pre-conception planning meeting, took medication in pregnancy, had great perinatal healthcare, baby is healthy. Someone made a referral to social services, and they have been intrusive and stressful. There’s no case open now, but they continue to pass my details around. I’ve decided to withdraw my baby from nursery because they are behaving like social services. The stigma of mental health is really upsetting.
I had the stress of a social services referral too. Nursery, my gp, perinatal team , midwife all told them there were no concerns whatsoever 111 made the referral it was horrific the case was closed yet their report was full of errors and made me out to be terrible despite me being stable. I have complained but they haven’t even answered my complaint. I found them very discriminatory to Mother’s with pre existing mental health issues.
Hi becciandbump that sounds like an awful experience. It’s good you had others who were able to say they had no concerns.
I think that with the new specialist perinatal mental health teams across the whole of England and generally increased awareness of mental health that things will get better as those teams will be offering training and support across all professionals and offering the specialist support to mums. I know that social workers have accessed the training APP are delivering for example.
I have heard some positive stories of the way social workers have supported mums to access support they needed etc, but like you say I think many more need much more knowledge, awareness and understanding of mental health.