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Hi, My daughter has an overnight leave that went really well and is now on a weeks home leave..shes doing really well..fingers crossed

But I have a question for you..her consultant has told her she needs to inform the DVLA about her section and he said she is likely to be banned from driving for 3 months...so she then becomes housebound with 3 small children.. is this true??, she is doing really well on her new meds...the "man"has disappeared since she named him and she has been the best I have seen her in years.. this is understandably causing her some concern as she has moved house and needs her car to take her disabled son to school..let alone go and visit friends or shopping!!

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Lilybeth profile image
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Hello RedRosie36

How relieved you must be that your daughter is doing so well now. The question about the DVLA has been discussed on the forum a few times. If you type DVLA in the search box here on the right hand side of this page, you will see there are a few posts about this. Some mums here might be able to send a link to make it easier for you :) It does seem unfair doesn't it, especially as your daughter needs transport for the school run.

I'm really pleased that your daughter has made great progress in her recovery and hope her leave goes well in her new home.

Take care ..... good to hear from you.

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RedRosie36 in reply to Lilybeth

Thank you, I'll have a look x

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Hi RedRosie36

It’s so good to hear your daughter is doing well.

Regarding the DVLA, there is information on the Mind website that may help:

mind.org.uk/information-sup...

There is other guidance available online but yes you are supposed to notify the DVLA about certain medical conditions and it may affect your daughter’s licence - it’s all due to road safety.

I didn’t drive for 6 months - I was never told not to drive (though wouldn’t have wanted to early on in recovery) and am not sure if I could have continued to drive after notifying the DVLA of my PP, I assumed not and didn’t (but was lucky to live near a bus route and only a couple of miles out of the town centre - I did a lot of walking!) - I was issued a temporary licence after 6 months that lasted a year, then had a 3 year one, then got my normal licence back.

It’s very frustrating, especially if very reliant on driving, but the reasons are understandable. Your daughter’s doctor should be able to advise further - the DVLA will request information from your daughter, her GP and psychiatrist when deciding what type of licence to issue and then when the expiry date is approaching.

I hope this helps a little.

Best wishes

Jenny x

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Hannah_at_APPAdministrator

Hi RedRosie36, it's great to hear that your daughter has had successful home leave. It's such a big step and I remember being so happy about it but also quite nervous too. I'm sure she has great support from you and other family members though.

To add to what others have written about the DVLA, this is something that my CPN supported me with, in surrendering my license (it's something that is self-referred, or at least was in my case, I wasn't ever banned from driving). I live in a rural place with about one bus a week so I can understand the reliance on driving. At times I really hated not being independent and getting out and about, but it did encourage me to get out the house and walk around the village a little (although it was winter, and cold and snowy so this was minimal to be honest).

What helped me was having my CPN take me and my baby son out in her car, and also a friend who had had a baby around the same time was a great support in coming round, and also picking me up and taking me to hers or other places, and being my driver! I think with hindsight I wasn't in the best frame of mind to be driving, so it was one less thing to worry about, and concentrate on my recovery without it. But I do understand the situation you describe with taking an older and disabled child to school. I wonder if the health professionals have any suggestions on this, or perhaps the school has access to transport or can signpost you and your daughter to help on this?

In terms of timescales, I came home from hospital mid-January and remember the DVLA forms being one of the first things my CPN helped me with when she came to visit. I then applied for my license back in the April time I think, and certainly had it when I started back at work in late May/ early June. It was a temporary license for 12 months, and then I had further temporary ones until I got my permanent license back. I have written a post in the past about this which you may have come across too.

All the best to you and your daughter in this transitional time, and please write again if we can offer any further help and info. Take care, xx

Hi RedRosie , I am so happy to hear your daughter is feeling better that’s such good news .

Can the school or council not help with transport for the children ?? I know where we live they provide taxi’s for people who have had to move out of the area maybe worth a try as when she’s trying to get better she doesn’t need the added stress of this . So happy for you all that she’s feeling better bless her , also hope your okay too much love and best wishes xxx

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Theo116

Dear RedRosie

When I worked in Social services we were always organising taxis to get children to school. I wonder if you have been offered help in the past for the children as I know my family were written too when I was taken ill for my son. If not you could contact them or the Education Welfare Officer maybe able to help you. Please do not be afraid to contact Social Services as they will only be too happy to help and maybe able to help with other things too as they often run free groups especially with the summer holidays coming up. Best wishes x

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