2nd pregnancy after previous PP

Hi

Just wanted to talk to people who will understand, im 26 weeks pregnant with my second baby after PP after last pregnancy nearly 6 years ago.

I've been doing ok up until now and my mood has been level and I've felt positive and happy.

The last few days ive been quite low and so so tired all the time I'm on iron tablets so that's under control.

I guess I'm just panicking a bit that it could be starting early I've been feeling a bit anxious and some little ocd type bits seem to be creeping in.

I'm under the care of a consultant and my gp sees me regularly, my midwife isn't the greatest but I will be seeing her more soon due to me hitting the 3rd trimester on Thursday.

I guess I just want a bit of reassuracne, I know there is a risk of it happening again but I've been doing pretty well so this feels a little gutting, though it could be nothing and maybe I need to not be so hard on myself as I'm still working and preg and my other children to look after so alot to deal with.

Sorry for rambling on.

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  • Hello swylie and welcome to the forum,

    Congratulations on your pregnancy and I hope some of the information on the forum has been useful to you - there are a few "pinned" posts on here which cover pregnancy after PP. APP also produces a Guide which might be helpful to you, which can be seen here: app-network.org/what-is-pp/...

    It is positive that you are recognising some possible worrying signs and I hope that you are able to access good support from health professionals to get you through this period with the minimum stress. You mention a consultant, GP and midwife, do you have access to a perinatal team, or is it just general maternity or mental health care? Perinatal services can offer great, specialist advice but I know they are not available in all areas. I'm sorry to hear that you are finding you midwife not great; please do go and ask for another appointment if it will help you to feel reassured. APP also offer a second opinion service if you feel you may benefit from this, details are here: app-network.org/what-is-pp/...

    To share my experience, I had PP in 2009 and when I had another child in 2013, I remember feeling a little on edge and worried about getting ill in pregnancy as well as after giving birth. I too had a midwife who wasnt that aware of mental health, certainly PP (she just thought I had been really unlucky, or at least that is how it came across) and whilst I was under a consultant, it was only due to having a c-section so this was purely obstetric. It was difficult to access mental health services, as I had been discharged from the time spent time in hospital/ MBU and community team when I was ill.

    What really helped me through pregnancy was trying to keep things as calm and stress free as possible, getting rest where I could and trying not to think too negatively (whilst also being aware of the possibility of becoming ill). I know it's so easy to say though, and I too worked full time until a couple of weeks before I gave birth so finding time for yourself, when having other children to think of too, can be hard. I did try and enjoy time with friends and family and create some happy memories of the pregnancy too. Trying to make it as "normal" as possible, when it really didn't feel like it at times!

    Sorry that my response has been a little long and waffling, but I hope some of this is helpful for you. The happy ending to my story is that I did stay well and PP didn't strike again, which was wonderful. There were anxious times of course, and this is completely natural I think. Please know that you are not alone, and with the right support, you can get through this. Take care, please feel free to ask any more questions, all the best, xx

  • Thank you for your reply I think some times I feel that I'm the only one going through it or having been through it though I know that's not the case.

    Im a bit of a worrier and I think you can some times worry yourself into thinking it's happening, I guess when you've had it before you're more aware.

    My gp is brilliant and is seeing me regularly she was my gp when I had PP the first time and has always been fab, my consultant has referred me to the very small team of people at my hospital who see ladies who have mental health issues in pregnancy and post however they have told me I may not get an appointment before I have the baby as they are so over stretched which isn't helpful.

    I do have alot of support from family and friends and I go on mat leave in 6 weeks, I decided not to push myself to far as I'm so tired already and I know for me that only makes things worse.

    Time will tell as to how things work out, im hopeful that this time it will be ok but also know I'll be alright if it's not I've beat it before I can do it again.

    Just out of curiosity did you take any medication during pregnancy? I've been advised to take meds post delivery.

  • hi again, I took a low dose of antipsychotic after delivery but nothing in pregnancy (I think they might have considered it if I'd started showing any symptoms tho).

    it's great to hear that you have good support, especially from a fab gp (I did too, I always felt reassured after seeing him). I wonder if the 2nd opinion service might give you some additional reassurance? Especially as you may not see anyone locally (as I didn't til 8+ months pregnant). It is a free to access service and the health professionals appreciated the specialist input. Something to think about if you feel it may help anyway.

    As others have said, it's absolutely natural to worry and be anxious. You sound to be getting some good advice tho and I hope the info here has also been helpful. There is nothing quite like a shared experience is there?

    Take care, all the best, xx

  • I was exactly the same - from 28 weeks I was convinced it was starting earlier but I went to antenatal yoga and discussed my symptoms (not sleeping well, slightly too much energy, foggy brain) and it turned out the majority of mums were the same. I also was convinced after second baby came that I had pp but again it was normal anxiety with side effects of meds.

    Basically what I'm saying is - everyone goes a little crazy during pregnancy and after birth so it's good to know what others feel like. I devised a plan looking at early warning signs but I expect most mums had those symptoms.

    Time will tell if you get pp again and it'll never be as bad as first time if you are under mh services - good luck.

    I'm 3.5 months in the raising second child and enjoying it so much x

  • Hey there,just wanted to give you hope that whatever happens you will recover.i had PP twice,in 2011 and 2014.now my boys are 5 and 2 and life is so much easier.i am slowly coming down off quetiapine (anti psychotic),i had to take this in the second pregnancy-i only took 100mg a day,a t the time I was concerned for the health of the baby if I took more (he was fine) but if I had more then my psychiatrist has said it may have reduced some of the symptoms after I had my baby.is there a perinatal team in your area?I had a treatment plan after I had my baby,increased meds,closely monitored.i was meant to stay in the mbu straight away but there were no beds available,if you or your partner feels you are high risk to PP I would ask for a bed as I got very unwell at home and should have been admitted straight away.i was told it was a 50:50chance of becoming unwell again so I really hope you are well.i would say don't be scared to ask for support and a plan in place once you have had the baby xxx

  • Thank you for all your replies today hasn't been to bad I just think I worry alot about getting poorly again which makes me a bit paranoid I think.

    I'm seeing my gp next week and I'm going to speak to her about my concerns, I also have a consultant appointment at the beginning of Dec and she said last time she would like to discuss putting a plan in place for me so hopefully I'll start feeling a little more positive again.

    I will also look at the 2nd opinion service as I think that could be useful.

    It's good to hear from other ladies that have had a second baby and are doing well x

  • Hello swylie,

    Congratulations on your pregnancy :)

    I had PP in 2012 and had a second son in January, happily with no recurrence. It's a very anxious time and so hard to find that balance between monitoring your mood and behaviour, trying to stay relaxed, and trying not to second guess yourself all the time and cause yourself more stress. It sounds like you have good support which is great, and finishing work will hopefully give you more time for yourself. Try not to put all the responsibility and pressure of spotting any early symptoms on yourself. Your hormones will be all over the place and it's normal to behave a bit differently at times (nesting for example!). Be really open with those around you and I'm sure they will notice anything worrying.

    I found my second pregnancy went so fast and I didn't really start actively trying to relax until I finished work at 37 weeks, when I finally dug out the pregnancy yoga DVD and the colouring book I bought months earlier! I felt a lot better once our plans were in place and written down, I'm sure you will too. It all kind of clicked into place and felt more ordered, I'm not sure when that was but it was well past the 30 week mark.

    That's great you have a good GP (mine is fab too) and I'm sure she will reassure you next week.

    Take care, we're all here for you.

    J x

  • Hello swylie

    I hope you are ok. Just wondering how you are since you last posted? I'm glad you're having good support from your care team.

    Try and rest as much as you can,

    Take care.

  • Thank you for your reply I've not been to bad recently I think I was having a bit of a panic.

    I've been emotional on and off but every one is reassuring me it's normal at this stage of pregnancy which I find helps me to put things into perspective.

    I'm seeing the mental health team attached to maternity on Thursday to review how I am.

    Hopefully with the right support all wI'll be ok xx

  • Hello swylie

    Thanks you for taking the time to reply. I'm glad that you have been reassured that being emotional is normal at this time in your pregnancy.

    I hope your review on Thursday goes well and that you have also been reassured by other mums here who have had a second bundle of joy without PP. Not too long now until your maternity leave when hopefully you will have more time to rest.

    Take good care ... we are all here if you would like to talk at anytime.

  • Thank you I really appreciate it. Yes not long now and I can take some time to focus on me and baby xx

  • Hello swylie

    I hope your review went well today.

    Take good care of yourself and rest as much as you can .... thinking of you.

  • Thank you for your post it was OK I think it will be very helpful but difficult having to go over what happened before.

    I'm trying to focus on the positives though.

    I'll keep you updated x

  • Hello swylie

    Good to hear in a reply on the forum that you are feeling positive. Have you started your maternity leave yet which will give you a little more time to rest during the day?

    Take good care.

  • Hi swylie, hoping that you are still feeling positive and having some time to rest up. Take care, and feel free to come back to chat with us when you want or can. xx

  • Hi thank you for your replies, I've not started mat leave yet but it's not far away just a couple more weeks which I know I can get through.

    I've been given some regular counselling at the hospital every week now pretty much up until delivery, I was unsure to start with but I've had a couple of sessions and I think it will help it's good to have some where to talk things through, my anxieties etc.

    I'll keep you posted on how I'm doing i like coming on here as it reassures me that I'm normal and there are others out there going through similar things.

    Xx

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