Been shut out.

[Unwanted]

Hi Everybody,

I am new here.

I am literally lost right now. My darling long distance girlfriend and I have been incredibly happy together for some time now. until Wednesday last week. I must mention she has PCOS, Hashimoto's, and ADHD.

i was out of contact for two days due to the fact that I had to attend a family members funeral. We still texted and kept in touch before. Keep in mind, up to that point, we were very much in love and loved one another.

When I had signal again, she was distraught and distant. Someone filled her head with fearful images of the future, she had a MASSIVE anxiety attack, is depressed and she is absolutely non-responsive. all that happened in a single day!

By digging a little into what I could find, she has been eating the worst kind of food, like hamburgers and alcohol etc. She doesn't respond to messages, and if she does, it is cold and distant. words like "I miss you" or " I love you" means nothing to her. she is fraught with anxiety and depression, but tells me she feels elated. She is lying. Or at least, i think she is.

She has completely shut me out. I feel worthless and abandoned. I did everything on the support side, from researching new methodologies, new diets, new research, new medicine, spent countless hours with her on the phone when she was weeping from stress and anxiety.

my question is - is this anxiety behavior???? She believes now she is "on a mission" to save people, and as such, there is no time anymore for a relationship etc. She will "never return to where I live".

i have dealt with her PCOS/ anxiety symptoms before, and it was fine every time. She would get down for a week or two, and then return stronger than before. I suspect she has not taken her hormones and medicines. She also stopped her Metformin a few months ago, and is eating junk.

Seriously, has anybody ever dealt with something like this? I am rejected, unwanted, abandoned, all in less than a week. My heart is so broken

do I wait it out and hope she comes right?

Or do I simply walk away?

[mysmugcat]

Hello. I am so sorry. I wonder if this is a phase with her? You really have been there for her, one couldn't expect more. My mood is odd so I may leave the post here, or add to it. Any clues from friends or family of hers? But be careful.

[Unwanted in reply to mysmugcat]

Hello, and thank you for replying. From what I can ascertain, she was diagnosed with PCOS about three years ago. On top of that, there is the Hashimoto issue as well, and both are endocrine related. Her mother is very concerned about her health due to the aforementioned illnesses.

on Tuesday last, someone propped her head full of fear of a coming disaster, and she had a complete anxiety meltdown. Her last text said "I miss you. I had a meltdown today because of (impending danger) No one told me that before. My heart hurts".

it seems she has now taken it upon herself to "save all of the affected people". Her memory is also quite foggy. from what I understand, this is in line with someone that has not been taking their hormone replacement medication, and not been taking their anti anxiety meds. Her sleep patterns are also extremely erratic, ranging from anywhere of 14 hours one day, to 4 hours the next. It almost looks like adhd hyperfocus.

I have NEVER seen her like this. Yes she is passionate about certain subjects, but loses interest in about two weeks. But even then, she wouldnt completely shut me out like she has now!

If I may ask, why did you say I should be careful?

[mysmugcat in reply to Unwanted]

Yum I just meant you don't want to be seen to be stalking her but you are concerned. Would it be appropriate to speak to a family member or one of her friends? Do you think she is in danger?

Yes I meant

[Unwanted in reply to mysmugcat]

I have no idea where she is right now. She responds to texts whenever she wants and is very cold. I hope she isnt in danger. I dont think so, though.

I am just super concerned that this is the end of us.

[mysmugcat]

So hard, is she working, at uni or....? And you spoke to her last a week over a week ago?

[Unwanted in reply to mysmugcat]

She is on some PR thing for this one nutjob. I despise the man. He is the one driving the fear and anxiety of impending doom.

We text once in awhile now. I have spoken to her last week Tuesday for the last time over the phone.

[mysmugcat in reply to Unwanted]

Ok so you texted her since then?

[Unwanted in reply to mysmugcat]

Yes. I have. But the conversation is strained and interrupted. And her mind seems foggy. She cant remember simple things about a mutual friend of ours, and she jumps from topic to topic. She seems irritable and confused as well. I have a sneaking suspicion she has not taken any hormone replacement, and that she has had way too much sugar and gluten. She is pre-diabetic.