Getting Red

[CavalierMom]

Hello,

In adulthood, I developed a bodily reaction to my anxiety--getting red. As a child, I would get anxiety, but it was never outwardly obvious. Now as an adult, I have to deal with this physical reaction as well as the mental one. Typically, my neck breaks out in a blotchy rash and my cheeks will redden. During presentations, I will have individuals mention it to me (it distracts them) wondering if I am okay or if I am having an allergic reaction. Unfortunately, I have tried numerous medications for my anxiety, but I have strong reactions/side effects and my anxiety becomes tremendously worse to the point that I can't even go to work. I have yet to find a medication that works. My therapists and doctors have had such little results with me, but they are working so hard. I have been working through this for about 20 years now.

Does anyone have any advice?

[Agora1]

Hi CavalierMom, it can be about genetics as well as a chemical reaction

to stress. An antihistamine for occasional use can be used but if more

prevalent, it's best to find other methods in controlling our stress.

Meditation/Breathing can be helpful but does take practice and time.

I wish you well if finding a solution that may help. xx

[012703060610]

In my working years, I presented a lot! If I had to go back to that with a much lower confidence level now, I am certain I would have physical reactions. If I encounter my Ex, my underlying autoimmune issues flare like crazy. Sometimes in meetings or presentations, I have been clumsy or totally lost and I just try to make fun of myself a bit. You may even want to just joke about it before you present. Helps the others feel comfortable that you are actually ok. I know it isn't a solution, but a tactic have had to use often in may working career.

[IlMinded]

I am sorry to hear what you have going on. Mental health problems stink. I suffer from anxiety, panic disorders, and PTSD. I have good days and I have bad. I also have issues at work because of my problems.

The one thing I can honestly say, if its just the physical symptoms that are bothering you while you have the spotlight on you, is to alert those that you have a condition that may make your skin red. It is ok to admit to others that you have something going on with you and to alert them ahead of time that you are fine. You don't need to disclose more than that.

I have learned that taking medicine isn't always the solution. What does help is acknowledging that you have a problem and that you are working to be better with it. Just remember that this is not something that will go away, but something that we need to learn to live with. Learning on how to cope and what not to do is more important for your professional career.

You discussed your professional career, but is your personal life ok?