Happiess is just out of reach

[twieveie]

I've done therapy, I've taken every pill they have put me on religiously. IOver the course of six years,it seems as though NOTHING has improved.I can't work, I can't go to college. The dating scene is horrendous for me. I don't know what to do anymore I'm at my wits end

[Agora1]

Hi twieveie

I was like you at the beginning..Medicated and having therapy multiple times a week.

The medicine would quiet my emotions for a short time and then they would reappear.

I'd walk into therapy and walk out feeling the same if not worse. It was then I stopped

to take a look at what I might be doing wrong.

One day, I had an "aha moment". I realized that all I was being taught through therapy

was going in one ear and out the other. I was stuck. I was afraid to try any of the new

paths the therapists/doctors would suggest. As sick as it sounds, I almost felt more

comfortable in my misery. Afraid to take action in changing my life. Taking a chance.

I had nothing to lose but everything to gain. If it didn't work, I could go back to my fear

and anxiety.

I took action. I found additional methods in beating my anxiety besides drugs and therapy.

I started with the book by Dr. Claire Weekes "Hope & Help for Your Nerves".

A psychiatrist who herself suffered from Anxiety. Her teachings are now on YouTube video.

You will be surprised in how each and everyone of us sees ourselves in her teachings.

That may be a great first step to take besides having joined this forum. xx

[Midori in reply to Agora1]

Exactly!

[designguy]

It could be that you haven't found the right therapy for you yet. I went through a lot of different therapists and types of therapies before determining what type of therapy I really needed in order to be able to heal. The good thing is that there are lots of different types of therapy and information/resources available now, especially in the US. One of the things I read a number of years ago really made sense to me which is that it's up to each of us to heal ourselves, a good therapist can provide us with the insight, tools and information but we have to be willing to do the work.

[Midori]

If you are at your wits end, then its time to take the scary step. Take charge yourself; All the medication in the world cannot 'cure' you, it's just a prop to help until you can take that step yourself. Sooner or later you must take charge of your own healing.

I've done it. It took many years to realise that healing has to come from within, Therapy helps, but you need to put these things into action for You. You need to want to do this.

You will have good days and bad days, but the good days will start to outnumber the bad days. You may have to give yourself pep talks, but it does work.

It's a bit like being any kind of addict, Alcohol, Drugs, Gambling; Until you decide enough is enough, and get angry enough with yourself and all the life you have been allowing to pass you by, nothing will happen.

Cheers, Midori