hello all iam struggling so bad.im taking care of my 3yr old grandson who has autism i dont know how to handle him

[Azphx]

i love talking to people.my anxiety is sooooo bad

[Stilltrying2]

I am so sorry that your anxiety is so bad. I used to work with special needs children. I know how difficult they can be. They can be absolutely wonderful too! Hang in there. How long will you be caring for him?

[Hidden]

Hi there and welcome to this community! I used to help teach those with special needs. They can be a handful. Do you have someone to help you? Have you heard of sensory items? In our classroom, we had a tunnel designed to be tight that the kids could play in. I remember one boy in particular used to go and just sit in the middle of it. We could see this bulge in the middle of this long sock-like tunnel. Every child is different and unique, but in general those with autism like the feeling of pressure on their bodies. Light touch can be painful to them, but heavy pressure can calm them. They can also be ultra sensitive to different textures. I remember we had one boy who couldn't stand his clothing tags and would actually scream until the teacher cut them off his shirt. Schedules are super important to these kids. They need to be on a schedule that is vigorously kept to. They do not like change.

I hope some of these help.

[Daesin]

I would check with your pediatrician or local preschool kindergarten. They are going to know about resources in the area. In the US we have first steps which is a program that helps children reach their milestones. At three I think he’s passed that but they should have information on other programs. What you’re doing is very difficult but you have the heart of a grandma and you can do this. I’m glad that you’re reaching out for help because this is not easy and you need to put as many providers and supports in place for not only the Boy but yourself. Take care of your own mental health during this caretaking period because you’re going to be stretched. This child obviously needs you. From one grandma to another, thank you. We’re here for you.