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how could i have ruined his life? ive done nothing but love him, i dont know anymore. i dont know.

[Hidden]

i´ll always stay. but thanks.

[Hidden]

thanks dear.

[jkl5500]

I was going to add something, but there's nothing to add. Hypercat said it all. Please reread her post carefully, and think about it. You are still a young woman, with an entire lifetime ahead of you.

[HearYou in reply to jkl5500]

Agree with you totally.

[Hidden]

No matter what hes done I still love him. No matter what he will do I'll always love him.

[HearYou in reply to Hidden]

It's hard to let go when you still love someone. You can always have love for him, but put that love in one of the many rooms in your heart and close the door, so you can move on. Just because feel you will always love him, doesn't mean you need to stay with him.

[kain-pnw]

He should be responsible for his life, not blaming you. I'm in your situation, and I can't say I know any better. But, one thing for sure is that love is not going to change him or the situation.

[Want2BHappy3]

WOW, sounds like you gave this person too much credit? Ruined your life? How did he do that? Your the only one who can ruin your Life. You can't Base your whole life on one person? I've had friends who've done that, now their Alone, the other person has moved on. That's going to be YOU? Value your self more.

[Hidden in reply to Want2BHappy3]

i never said he ruined my life, he said that he blames me for ruining his.

[Justswimming]

maybe he means your high maintenance or clingy..are you very jealous or needy? be honest with yourself... don't be shocked if this relationship is over very soon

[Hidden in reply to Justswimming]

im not as clingy as he is and im not high maintenance either. i dont get as jealous as he does either.

[Justswimming]

He apparently doesn't love you...get out..are you staying just so he supports you? Are you really that self destructive? Are you going to wait until de divorce s you or kills you? HE DOESN'T LOVE YOU..LET HIM GO.YOU DON'T MAKE HIM HAPPY.. MAKE YOURSELF HAPPY AND FIND SOME One WHo CAN RETURN YOUr LOVe..

stop the madness see a therapist and group therapy please you are worth it

[Hidden in reply to Justswimming]

we arent married so he couldnt divorce me, he doesnt support me in any financial way either. AND FIRST OF ALL YOU KNOW NEITHER OF US SO YOU CANT SAY ANYTHING ABOUT MY MAKING HIM HAPPY OR NOT, YOU ALSO CANT SAY IF HE LOVES ME!!!

and yes i am self destructive

[HearYou in reply to Hidden]

Whoa, take a breath. No need to yell, ok? Don't think anyone is trying to say anything that she or he knows more than you do. This is a sensitive matter and hard for people to try to help without being strong and direct with their replies. And nobody likes being yelled at, particularly when you are asking us for help. Write to us as though we are in a room with you

Am really sorry to hear you say you are self-destructive.....but you may not realize you are writing like you are trying to destroy us with your attitude and yelling, and may turn away if you continue this. No one wants abuse.

[HearYou in reply to Justswimming]

Know you're trying, really trying, to help and to get your point across, but better not to yell.

[Justswimming]

you are just delaying the inevitable set him and yourself free for real love

[Justswimming]

If you love someone let them go if they come back they love you if not find someone else