Fat Cow

[HelliGiveUp]

Just bought a new swim suit, and i absolutely hate myself in it I look like a whale I want to cry and never stop.

[Lilac1234]

I myself hate swim suit's as well, i never seem to find anything that would fit nicely! I was never happy with my body. From the age of 15 i think thats when body image issues hit me the hardest. I went through an eating disorder as well but not to the extent where i needed an ER.

I think looking back and reflecting on how young i was and constantly being surrounded by all these pressures to be thin didnt help. I think nowadays with facebook and instagram the presssure is still there, not being model thin but the pressure to become physically aesthetic. Constantly comparing and shaming yourself will always bring you down. I myself can attest to that! I think right now you need to stay focused on today and what you can change today that will have a positive effect tomorrow. That goes for anything in life!

Start to feel better about yourself day by day, go out for a walk and get some fresh air.. swap unhealthy snacks for a fruit or vegetable sometimes. It doesnt have to suck starting out. Making small changes to your diet will allow yourself to realise and say hey i can do this and want to do it.

In a matter of 2 weeks your body will begin to show the positive changes and effort you put in. Ive changed my train of thought and trained myself to look forward to the days i work out. knowing the feeling i get afterwards makes me feel awesome and great in the skin im in (not to sound clichè). I couldnt give 2 s**ts what clothes looked like on me now, if it didnt fit i kept looking what what did. I didnt care for those negative thoughts because i always felt strong and healthy in staying active and thats what kept me going.

I cant see you and i definitely wont judge you, but if you are perhaps slim-average weight then perhaps this is a more delicate matter and you should seek help from your doctor or a dietician. professional reinforcement will help you in this case.

Only you can make yourself happy.Never put yourself down!.

On a side note, maybe that swimsuit wasnt a good cut for you. Maybe take your mum or sister or friend shopping with you who can give you positive feedback and say yes this suits or no this doesnt. Not all cuts and sizes are what they truly say they are. Ive tried on my friends clothing one time, mind you we are the same height and build, but what she didnt fill out i did and made it that extra bit tight! Can never win with clothes, and ive accepted that.

I hope this helped!

[HelliGiveUp in reply to Lilac1234]

I don't eat much of anything at all. I bought the swin suit by myself with with the help of two women in the store.

I'd share a pic if I knew how.

[Lilac1234 in reply to HelliGiveUp]

I think not eating much at all can do more harm than good! It can/may cause further health issues down the road by refusing your body such nutrients. I get the feeling, it took me some time to understand this.

Have you spoken or confided in anyone else about the way you currently feel?

[NFDK]

I know how you feel. I feel the same way, but please don't hate on yourself like this xx