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Need to share some bad news..this is finally written by his Wife (widow)

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Hi all,

I’m very sorry to tell you that my husband (Jeff) passed away in his sleep on October 29th, 2021. It was a very different battle for both of us, and after Chemo-August 2020 to April 2021, he went downhill from there. His heart ablation was because he started having tachycardia after chemo was completed (however that is a major side effect of the Brand new FDA Approved (April 2021) androgen blocking hormone treatment pill) that his Dr. Prescribed. Plus hospice came in the last couple months and put him on 2 additional narcotics. So he took 3 at night. This is what I believe what took him during the night of Oct. 29,,21’.

This is his wife, and I finally was able to write you. He was ready to go..and he stated that to me on many occasions in the last few months of his life.

Thank you for this great group that helped us learn a lot! He wouldn’t try any other recommendations from this awesome blog posts and his doctor never offered any other treatment. We requested Radium223 in the beginning, but his Dr. wanted him in a clinical trial instead.. The lesson being-please Change your Dr.if you are only offered one treatment option.

**I wish all of you peace of mind and optimism!!

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Darryl profile image
DarrylPartner

Condolences

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Javelin18

I’m sorry to hear of your loss. Bless you for all your support to him , and for helping him bear the weight of this disease.

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MarkBC

Sorry to hear of your loss. Thank you for letting us know. I hope you have many good memories to provide you comfort.

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LearnAll

Thanks for achieving courage to connect with this group and providing words of caution about new medicine, Orgovyx. God give you serenity to tolerate this huge loss of your life partner./husband.

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Kaliber

My deepest condolences to you for Jeff’. I’m so sorry to hear of another brother’s passing. A big warm fuzzy eHug out to you.

❤️❤️❤️

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Lyubov

My deep sympathy on the loss of your beloved husband. May he rest in peace and may you find the strength to move forward.

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Concernedwife24

So sorry for your loss. As another wife. Stupid cancer. Take care of yourself.

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swwags

God Bless you

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Tall_Allen

I'm sorry to hear of his passing. I'm glad he had you by your side. I can tell the wounds are still very fresh.

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16starsky

Sending condolences to you and your family, on the passing of Jeff.So very sorry, God Bless.

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Spyder54

Thank you for informing and educating us.Please let Peace come into your home. Your husband is without pain, and Resting in Peace.

I think he was brave to communicate that he was ready. To fight another month would have been futile.

There has to be a better way to exit. Never with pain or burden to our loved ones.

I wish you much goodness. With time, it will come. Much Love,

Mike & Barbara

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MyWifeMyLife

Thank you everyone for the kind, wise words. To Nalakrats..my history is backed by clinical trials as the project leader. I’ve had no interest in it for many years now. I love the idea of being a patient advocate, I have really enjoyed doing it for many years for many people..not only my husband but before that. I know how rewarding it is, and helpful to people that just do not know for example what questions to ask their Dr.s..etc-. How to go about disability, transitioning to Medicare and so much more. I would sincerely like to hear your two cents worth regarding it and your story.

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fmenninger

Condolences and my prayers are with you and Jeff.

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Flash64

Sorry for your loss.

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Collarpurple

So very sorry. 🙏❤️

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MMK-XFuture

Very sorry for your loss. Thanks for sharing Jeff's experiences. May he rest in peace.

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Realistic

God bless sending condolences & love SheilaFxxx

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pakb

I'm so sorry for your loss. Thank you for your advice!

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larry_dammit

Words of wisdom, sorry for you loss 😢😢🙏🙏🙏

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Psa73

Sorry to hear of your loss. Condolences sent to you and your family. RIP Jeff.

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Lasered

So sorry for your loss. God bless.

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dadzone43

And I offer back: peace of mind and warm memories.

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Grateful4this

I am so sorry to hear of your loss.

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TylexGP

My prayers go out to you and your family. Please know we continue to be here for you. May your memories of good times soften the loss over time.

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Hotcars74

My condolences, God bless you

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RonnyBaby

My sincere condolences ....

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MateoBeach

Sorry for your loss. May your love permit your heart to heal.

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Metaldraft

Thank you for being his guardian angel I’m sure he would say that is my wife always looking and caring for me .Thank you for being there

God bless you and him

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Carlosbach

In this time of deep loss, may you experience love and comfort from others and from your Divine Creator. My most sincere condolences.

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Hailwood

My deepest condolences.

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bean1008

I'm so sorry for your deep loss and wish you good memories of your loved one to carry you through this time.

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spw1

I am very sorry to hear about Jeff's passing. Sending you love and prayers at this very difficult time in life. 🙏

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Bunkerboy

Deepest condolences on your loss🙏🏻 RIP Jeff🙏🏻

Thank you his wife and his life . Might I ask you what was the test drug? It kinda sounds like he was put on narcotics too soon maybe? Was he still in bad pain? In the end there is mercy for us all . I’m sorry for all of the suffering . Stay strong . Thank you sharing sharing this . May Jeff Rest In Peace ! 🙏💔

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MyWifeMyLife in reply to

Combination of Carboplatin and Cabazitaxel. Which individually were FDA approved but in 2020, not approved for using combo. Fyi-it stops the spread of ca, doesn’t kill it though. Also due to his heart ablation for tacky, his heart rate became too low.

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I’m sorry for asking! He was a gentleman here and obviously well loved by many . Be well sweetheart ! 😔Thank you 🙏💔

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MyWifeMyLife in reply to

It’s ok (sometimes 😉), if just 1 person can learn from it, I have accomplished something great to save a life or make someone more comfortable

in reply to MyWifeMyLife

I thank you . ❤️❤️❤️❤️🙏

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MyWifeMyLife

I agree, ty. 💜🕯🙏

Oh yah! We give it our best shot . 🕊🕊🕊❤️

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Sunlight12

MyWifeMyLife,

I'm so sorry the journey went this way for you. The end comes a little differently for each person, and often in ways we don't quite expect. No way is easy. Please know that you did well, even if you feel like it wasn't enough, or that you could have done better if you had known more. There are always things we could have done differently, no matter how much knowledge we have and this disease is a very tough chess game to play in. Feel free to reach out here if you need to. So many of us have been right where you are now. Sending you HUGSSS and wishing you peace <3

In solidarity,

Sunlight

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MrDon2

My deep sympathy to you in the loss of Jeff. This is truly a battle that most of us (and our support person/team) on this site daily fight daily. I realize that my wife fights this battle for me everyday as I am sure Jeff did. We keep you in our prayers.

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Rev214

May he rest in peace and both of you be reunited on that soon coming glorious day of the. 2nd Coming of Jesus Christ! 1 Thessalonians 4:16-18! What a reunion will that be!

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Haniff

My deepest condolences.

Stay strong in his memory.

Haniff

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rosenjpj

I'm so sorry for your loss. May his memories sustain you.

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Currumpaw

Dear MyWifeMyLife,

Thanks for letting us know of your husband's passing.

I understand that you needed time to write about your husband's passing.

We learn to live with loss. There is no "getting over it" and "time does not heal" but we learn to accept a significant loss. People mean well when they offer these time worn sayings.

Sometimes family, friends or clergy can help but not always. At times we are our own best company and advisor.

You will never forget and shouldn't try. I have thoughts every day about someone who died decades ago. Although the memories can be painful, they are somewhat balanced out by the good memories--so take joy in those memories.

Currumpaw

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SuppWife

I'm so very sorry.

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strummer

So sorry for your loss.

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blueseas45

So sorry for your loss. Praying for you and your family.

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Yadifan

I'm so sorry for your loss. Thank you for taking the time to let us know. It seems we've lost so many wonderful men lately. I know how painful it must be for you to open this site. God bless you and comfort you.

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MyWifeMyLife

Hi, it is very hard to open this website up on some days..other days, well it’s still hard but I just want to thank people I’ve never even met..and thank them. Hope everyone here are doing well! Fight, research and pray! If *Know you are all loved even if it doesn’t feel like it at times 💜🙋‍♀️🙏.

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Mormon1

God bless.

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