Lost the fight

[Janhpr]

On the 8th October my loving caring husband Tony died, my soulmate and best friend married for 52years, thankfully now not in pain.

Tony never wanted to go into hospital always wanted to be cared for at home and did with pain management from the Hospice Homecare team, and OT providing aids, until the last 24 hours transferred to our local hospice.

He developed a lung infection and was not responding to treatment.. It was not until the palliative team came and told him he needed more treatment that he could receive at home he realised he was dying, there was no more treatment that could beat this disease.

He was heavily sedated for the ambulance transfer and admitted to our local hospice in a single

on-suite room and we were provided with a family room if needed.

The caring staff gave him excellent end of life care and he died peacefully with me and our two daughters and son in-law by his side

I’m devastated can’t imagine my life without him, he fought a long hard 16 years to try to beat this cruel disease and the side effects from treatment and loss of dignity were as cruel as the disease

Tony wanted to live right to the end inspite of the pain and debility, as a friend said at his funeral Tony had a zest for life and saw humour in everything.

Never will be forgotten, your loving wife as always Jan

[Darryl Partner]

condolences

[Broccoli24]

So sorry. Sending you and your family condolences. He sounds like a wonderful man.

[TomsD1]

So very sorry to read this.

[Don717]

So sorry to hear this. My family's condolences to yours. I hope eventually you can find some sunshine among the clouds and enjoy his memory. Thanks for caring for him. I'm sure it made all the difference.

[Tonyliv]

I followed him on this site. My condolences.

[Researcher50]

So sorry for your loss. Your relationship must have been pretty impressive as it looks like you both fought the fight successfully for 16 years!

[Mike1971]

My deepest condolences. Im so sorry for your loss.

[RyderLake2]

Hello,

Every so often we are reminded of how devastating this disease can be. We all hope to postpone the inevitable but we all know it lurks ahead of us. Heartful condolences!

[Tall_Allen]

I'm sorry to hear this sad news. It is still so raw and painful for you. Cancer can take over our lives - 16 years is a long time to live with illness.

[Yadifan]

Sending big hugs to you. I'm so very sorry for your loss. It sounds like his passing was a peaceful one. Please take good care of yourself.

[Orange95]

deepest condolences...

[Abcsoup73]

So very sorry for your loss

[Mtnhigh]

So sorry for your loss. After 52 years the loss/pain is deep. Our prayers are with you and your family. Take care of yourself now.

[TylexGP]

So sorry to hear. Hugs to you and your family.

[erjlg3]

I'm deeply sorry for the horrible pain that you are experiencing😪It sounds like there was and is so much love within your family. That love will help to get you through. I hope knowing the love he has for you, will always be with you and your love goes with him. Heartbreak 💔 causes s0o much pain.

My sincere sympathy Jan & Family😪

Most sincere,

🌻Jackie

[Cancer2x]

Prayers for a peaceful transition to the new life, and knowing you held each other for the final years together.

Pax

[jtspitfire]

Treasure your memories.,....

[Nusch]

I’m so sorry for your loss and send my deepest condolences. Your memories of 52 years will be yours forever and some day we will all be re-united.

[Hailwood]

Deepest condolences, your love and support will have made all the difference.

[Merlin1960]

so sorry for your loss . I hope the memories of your wonderful husband give you strength

[BanjoPicker]

Hope you find comfort and peace as you remember the good times. Condolences to you and your family.

[Sisira]

Deeply saddened by the loss of your beloved husband. My heartfelt condolences to your family. RIP Tony 🙏.

[zeitgeistxx]

I grieve with you. You both fought a long, hard battle. He is now at peace. May his memories and love bring you and your family peace and healing.

[Stefciaa]

So sorry for the loss of your darling husband. Sounds like he put up one hell of a fight. May he rest in peace.

[Warriorthree]

so sorry love ❤️Xxx

[Kaliber]

my deepest and heartfelt condolences for the loss of your dear husband. Tony was lucky to have such a loving caring wife at his side as he passed. I know he felt your strong love for him. All of us can only hope to be so lucky when it’s our time come. Im sending out a big warm hug to you and I hope your grief and disappointment pass soon. 52 years of great memories you can treasure.

🌹🌺🌼🌹

[dude69]

His essence will always be with you... condolences

[rosenjpj]

So greatly saddened by your loss.

[Yearofthecow]

So very sorry for your loss.

[--John--]

So sorry for your loss.♥️♥️

[Proflac]

So very sorry to hear this sad news, as a fellow Brit wife having followed your journey. You really did fight so hard for the best treatment and care all along the way. I am thankful for you that the end was peaceful. You will always carry with you the love you shared. I wish you well and thank you for sharing your experience with us.

[Fiddler2004]

So sorry for your loss 🙏

[Mike1600]

Such sad news. Thankfully you had each other in your lives.